DO:
- It is essential to get in contact with yourself before you express anger;
Express your anger when it is produced, not when it becomes too much. Some people have the tendency to delay expressing anger, which can lead to collecting stamps to be redeemed for an outlash;
- It is essential to put emotion into words.
The expression of anger is a way of re-establishing boundaries/limits. When verbalizing it assertively, it is helpful to organize the message according to this structure: (a) give a fact-based description of the behavior that caused/triggered anger, (b) express the affected person’s perception of the described behavior, and (c) offer a solution which can fulfill, in an OK- OK manner, the needs of the person expressing anger.
DON’T:
- Use violence when you express your anger;
- Talk about persons, but about behaviors.
Be gentle with the person and strict with the behavior.
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