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Ten myths about financial independence and the truth that will set you free. Part II.

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 04/06/2017

I started here last month an article about myths some people are considering while exploring the alternative ways of thinking. I continue today with 5 more myths.

6. Selling is something that everybody hates

The truth is that if you want to earn the respect of others, then you must work in sales. It is not because it’s a job that “everybody hates” therefore it’s challenging, but it’s because it’s a job that if you do well, can earn you a lot of respect. If you don’t do it well, then you should be ashamed of yourself. People hate bad salesmen. In one way or another, everybody works in sales. Therefore, it is mainly important for you to generate the kind of expectations and the kind of image that some other people might like to think of.

So, for example, if a salesman provides for his family, then he might be accepted in the community as a pillar, but if a salesman is ashamed of what his is doing, is not good at it, and does not provide the resources that are expected from a salesman, then he is covered in shame.

Therefore, most salesmen are not good salesmen. It is only because there is not enough place for all the salesmen on all the markets. Therefore you must be a good salesman and good salesmen are respected. So, if you want to earn the respect of others, stop considering salesmen as a past and start working in sales.

 

7. In order to make money you have to show you have money

I will tell you another perspective. It doesn’t matter how expensive you dress yourself, if you sell yourself short. That means your attitude matters more than what you look like.

So, it is very important for you to consider that people first watch your non verbal communication and then what you are saying. I will give you a practical example. In a busy day, I got out of the house without looking in the mirror. I haven’t noticed how I looked like. That day I made some sales. There were some unexpected sales, because, there were two people that I just met that day. Coming back home, looking into the mirror, I noticed that I looked terrible. And I thought myself: “Oh my God, I have made some sales looking like that! This is impressive! It’s amazing!”

But then I became aware of the fact that those people bought from me not because of my looks but because of my attitude. So, it doesn’t really matter how well you dress. Of course, if you are selling to directors from a company it is important to be well dressed. You don’t have to be perfectly dressed, you don’t have to be dressed from Gucci, but you have to make sure that at least you get the chance of getting an entrance.

So, it might be even more important that you think to dress in clothes, that are, let’s say, white or open-colored, than the quality of the brand that you are using for your clothing.

So, I make here, also, another point, each kind of expense must be considered at least as a tryout to make an investment. Therefore, in example, if you need to impress a client, it’s better to rent a BMW than to have a BMW that you pay for every day.

So, I do not want to minimize the importance of getting through some obstacles in perceiving image. I’m merely suggesting it is more important to have an appropriate attitude.

 

8. Always do things with strategy

It might come as a surprise that although strategy is important, it is not the most important thing.

In order to conceive an appropriate strategy, you must, first, have an appropriate system, and most people do not think about this. Yes, it’s important to have a strategy for launching a new product, a new line, an invention, something which people have never heard of, but these things are very risky. Usually most business strategies are bases on decisions which have been made in a similar mode with other similar products. So people notice what is the pattern that leads to success and how to reproduce it.

Therefore, in order to have and apply an appropriate strategy, you first have to have a functional system that will be something that works and needs to be optimized. So this is the difference between doing basic merchandising, what is called in Romanian ”bi?ni?ă” and doing business.

So first, you need to have a customer that is available to pay you money for your product, then you have a business. It’s not the other way around, although, it is recommended for administrative and legislative means to do so.

 

9. It’s important to contribute and to offer charity

It is, of course, important, to make sure that you leave something behind you, to make donations, and keep your generosity gates open. In the same time, it is more important to make intelligent charity. That is, to know who to give money to, why, when and for what. So you do not look like somebody who is just throwing away money, in order to buy other people’s attention, consideration, and respect.

Therefore you need to have some standard and some strategies of evaluating whether the people or the organization which are receiving your money are well documented and are worthy of your money. Giving away money without looking is not charity, it is mere stupidity.

Therefore you need to have questions that you must put to those people that you are giving you money to, and if they don’t give the satisfactory answers, then they don’t receive and they don’t deserve you money.

 

10. If I don’t work, I don’t have money, therefore, I don’t read

When you don’t have money, buy time through what you are doing when you don’t have money. So, most people tend to worry and think about the periods when they are unemployed or the periods when they are not working as periods when they don’t make money, therefore they afford to waste time. This is very true for some categories of people. It is true for (fool) people, it is true for some employees, it is true for freelancers, for the most of them, at least.

The truth is making money shouldn’t be connected with the work you are doing directly. Making money should be a symbolic result, a simple effect of what you are doing already best. Therefore, reading and personal development, generally, is one of the best investments that you can do while you are not working, or especially when you are not making money. Why? Because you can never know how exactly what you are reading as personal/professional development or a specialty book might do for you in terms of making money. Therefore, that is the most important period when you should invest in yourself: when you don’t have the opportunity to work and/or to make money. This is what will make the difference between when you are down and when you have success.

 

These have been just some of my personal considerations about financial independence and what some think. I have been reading books and research, I have been listening to audio programs for the last 13 years and I have never found in one resource all that you have available in this article. Therefore, please take into consideration the fact that you need to take all this and verify it in you own experience.

Please come with your own experience and your own suggestions by commenting to this article.

Thank you.

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Ten myths about financial independence and the truth that will set you free. Part I.

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 24/05/2017

 

Today it is important to consider several things which some people, especially Romanians, might tend to think, concerning the way they should think and act about money. These have been observed based on my own experience and different lectures, studies and books that I have read concerning how to manage finances.

 

1. It’s good to have some money aside

There is the tendency to think that there is a stash of money that you need to have in some place, generally, proverbially thinking about different directions that those money might take.

Supposedly you fall sick, supposedly you decide to open up a business, supposedly you get fired, supposedly you need to have some securities aside for your old age. But the truth is you need to have several accounts, separately, and you need to have money for all of these directions and then some more. Therefore, the money for rainy days are not money for retirement. The money for retirement are not money for accidents. The money for accidents are not money for insurance. The money for insurance are not money for vacations. And all of these are not economies. So the truth is you have to have several accounts, separately, in which you have to save money. So, individually, you will have to take into consideration all of these necessities and save for each of them, not for just one goal. “Some” soundse very vague. Be precise and prepared.

 

2. Loan now, pay later

We live in a fast-forward society, that thinks of money as a commodity that can be obtained virtually instantly from a bank, based on the fact that many and each individual are/is employed and produce/s the same kind of money as the day before. So, there is the tendency of living on borrowed money and having the full experience now, better than tomorrow.

What about always thinking that now is going to be better than tomorrow? The problem with this thinking is that if you do think that your whole live is worth living now, better than tomorrow, it automatically means, that tomorrow, for sure, will be worse that today. So the people who work in personal development, prefer to do the opposite, to save money and not to loan money. Why? To make sure that tomorrow is going to be better than today. The way that you make tomorrow better than today is to give up something now, in order to receive something better and bigger in the future. There is such a thing as good debt: debt you make to create capital that multiplies and increases in value, but that’s not the kind of debt most people like to make.

Copyright (C) Irina Chirita, 2015

Copyright (C) Irina Chirita, 2015

 

3. If you recover all the money you have invested in a business, that means you break even and that’s a success.

That is false. If, from a business, you manage to get only the money that you invested, that means you have been working for free. In truth, in any kind of business, you have to take into consideration all the costs that you don’t see. All the costs which are in inflation, cost of opportunities, and you also have to take into consideration that having your own business, also might mean making more money that you would being hired. Usually, this is what some people consider. So, if all that you’re doing is just making sure that you get all the money that you invested from a business, that means that you should stop before it’s too late. And reconsider the situation.

 

4. Insuring the future for the family is the most important thing that you can do

Of course, it is important that you take into consideration the necessities, the needs and the wills of your family but I will tell you what is even much more important. That is to take into consideration the needs and the wants of the audience that you are serving. Therefore, it is important for you to always, always, always think of making your clients happy. If you put on the first place making your clients happy, then the family will enjoy your business. But if you put your family first, and think that there is a competition between the needs of your family and the needs of your costumers, it means the you do not have a good balance between the professional life and the personal life. Therefore, you are not a good businessman. So stop, before you hurt yourself. Change the way that you are thinking.

 

5. I will pay this as soon as I will have the money.

Don’t make assumptions about the time in which you will make payments. Always have some money aside in order to buffer up the periods in which you are waiting for liquidities.

You cannot make responsible decisions based on money that you assume you will receive in the future. The money you are contracted and hope to get are not money that you have gotten. So, better wait until you do have those money and something extra in order to make engagements for paying. This is especially true for personal expenses. Of course, we are not talking about big corporations’ finances. We are talking about small business ownership, entrepreneurs, freelancers, which have a limited budget and want to make payments as soon as they will have money. But making payments as soon as you will have money for it means that you might be running out of money when there is a situation that cause for that necessity.

 

These have been just some of my personal considerations about financial independence and what some think. I have been reading books and research, I have been listening to audio programs for the last 13 years and I have never found in one resource all that you have available in this article. Therefore, please take into consideration the fact that you need to take all this and verify it in you own experience.

Please come with your own experience and your own suggestions by commenting to this article.

Thank you.

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The Same Kind of Different As Me

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 30/04/2017

Working as a marketer for freelancers and entrepreneurs can sometimes be very interesting because you have different  opportunities. Such an opportunity is to find out that many of those who are offering services, especially personal services, are looking for clients who are just like them. That means that, for example, that the coach might be interested in having the kind of customers who are interested in personal development and aiming goals, the same as him. The coach’s clients would be very similar to the coach and less preoccupied with solving problems, traumas and other kind of issues. That is, not the kind who are going to a  therapist for solving problems, as coaching is in the goal business.

So, for example, what if a marketer has a preference for a kind of public or kind of audience that has some kind of value for the resemblance it falls to him or to her. What does that mean? It means that the marketer might hold or see a value, an interest, in marketing to the same kind of different as themselves. That implies that not only do these people might think or choose in the same ways, but they might hang around in the same kind of networks, in the same kind of contexts, social systems and they will be much more easily found there.

One of the problems that such entrepreneurs and freelancers have is the fact that they do not consider themselves as ready or as prepared to deal with that audience. Why? Because maybe they think “Oh, I do not have enough time to spend at the kind of networking events that the people like me would go to”. So, there is a tendency for some freelancers to have this kind of idea, this kind of optimal idea about how or where or when it would be appropriate to find the right clients. But the truth is that (1) usually people are looking for solutions for their necessities and (2) these necessities are not always the same as everybody else’s (they might be so personal that only a limited number of people would have the same interest in the same moment). So it is often difficult finding an audience because you have to find a niche: that niche presents the  challenge of personalizing, of customizing a certain lifestyle.

So, for example, if you would be a dentist searching only to find the kind of customers who are interested in replacing their old works with quality, with top quality material, what should you do? You would have to find those clients in the right place, at the right time, and having the availability of joining such a promotion. Why? Because, for one thing, the longer people live, the longer they have all kinds of interventions, such as correcting decaying teeth. But in order to find the person who decides “yes, I would like to replace all the works from the course of my life with top quality material, very healthy and very resistant”, that means that you will have to have the kind of advertising, that directs those people to you as a supplier, within that window of opportunity. Where do you find them? How do you find them?

Of course, one of the top results, any supplier’s answer is: “Well, you find them advertising on the internet”. Yes, that’s something we can all agree upon, but beyond that, where do you go to find these customers? How do you approach them in a way that is consistent with your values and their values? Moreover, how do you overcome the resistance, the barriers of some people who might need, want or might even be likely to use your service? In order to buy that service from you, and not from your competitor, what should you do?

No matter how fine, how great, how wonderful you think what you’re offering is, if there is a request that means that there are suppliers, that means that you are in competition. No matter how special you think you are by offering a certain service or a product, you are actually in a big, big competition, because you are not only in competition with the potential suppliers who are offering for the right kind of product or service that you are also offering.

There are also the consumers who might accept something lower in price/quality, something different. There might be some potential customers who do not know that you or your services exist, who might not know that you have something of value to offer, so those people will buy different things. Maybe by the time you come along and treat them right it will be too late, or they will be broke, or they will not have that necessity any more. So, it’s not only a question of finding the right people, it’s also a question of being aware that you are in competition with many other suppliers who you might  not know of, and you might never know of, but who will take some of the clients’ money instead of you as a supplier.

Therefore, in this search for “the same kind of different as me”, when you are looking for the kind of audience that is similar to you, you also have to take in consideration that you are not the only one. Most likely, there are many other people just like you, entering the competition for the attention and for the availability of the same audience that you are hunting for. Therefore, in order to have and apply this kind of promotional strategy, this kind of marketing strategy, you need to first have a functional system of identifying the right people at the right time, and it might seem that this is the marketer’s job.

For instance, once you have a marketing manager / consultant, then it is his or her job to do just that. They should think about how that ideal customer thinks. It’s very easy to think “whoa, that kind of person just thinks like me, too”. Well, that kind of person that just thinks like you is not your client, that person is your competition and that person is looking for clients as well.

In such a market, you need the kind of potential customers who would be interested in giving you a chance to support them and help them with whatever they want or need, correct? So, in your search for the ideal audience that you are constantly looking to connect with, keep in mind an important aspect. You have to convince the potential consumers that they might need to be a little bit more aspiring to be like you. Some consumers who are buying services or products directly from other people are doing this because they are interested in having something better than they can create for themselves, so they would have a model that they would stand up to, that is an inspiration to them. In consequence, it doesn’t matter how much you think that it’s worth what you are offering. It matters what does the real person who is paying you can be satisfied with. Can (s)he have your products or services and be happy with what you are offering, when you are providing that service?

Of course, some people might say “where there’s a will, there’s a way” but you also have to have some kind of motivation or strategy and not just a vision. This kind of vision that I’ve been writing about needs to be real and provide results. You may also take into consideration the impact of motivation. For example, how does motivation relate to fulfilling those needs or desires, how much motivation do you need your consumer to have in order to push that button, to place that order, to have those results that you want them to have? How much motivation do you need in order to connect to those people?

If you think that the kind of people that you are looking for to buy your services or products might be very motivated, you must also think of the fact that it is very likely they will find very fast a supplier who would provide their services for them, or they would even solve their own problems on their own. Such determined customers might thank you for going to them, so, for example, you should think that you are the kind of person who would more likely offer something. Therefore, you are mostly a seller and not a buyer, this is a kind of vision that influences your motivation into finding the right customers to buy from you.

But if the customer has the vision that “whoa, I am first someone who wants their needs to be satisfied“ that means that person is a consumer in the first place, and not a seller, right? So, that person would be interested in having some offer that would connect to your vision + motivation and when that happens, you become aware of what customizing lifestyle means. Why? Because in each person’s vision, there is a certain lifestyle that someone can have or dismiss, and when you choose to include something in your lifestyle as a buyer or as consumer it means you already have a certain degree of motivation. It means you already chose a path and if you are not on that path, right then, that means you as a consumer have already gone beyond that. So what do these people who you were so keen on serving do? They move on, they evolve, they develop, they change their needs, once a person has their needs fulfilled or definitely lost the chance to have them fulfilled, they will move on, OK?

In conclusion, you either decide to fulfill a buyer’s need in a way that a customer will come to you, supplier, and say “whoa, that is great, that deeply and completely fulfilled my need” or you become the kind of supplier who supplies for one need, for one moment, for a few moments and then is gone. The world is full of this kind of suppliers that don’t need too much differentiation from one to the other.

One of the most difficult things to accept is the fact that once a need has been  deeply fulfilled, somebody may not need it anymore, OK? So, for example, if we are to consider that dentist I was giving as an example, once a patient had all the dentistry works replaced, that person does not need that anymore, it is a once in a lifetime offer to do that service for someone. Of course, we are not referring to the services for the products that keep on fulfilling the same and the same and the same need that gets refilled. Of course, people will always need something to eat or to drink. So, if you are not in that kind of situation where you fulfill a need which is renewable, you might find yourself in a very special niche, in a very challenging niche, in the niche of making the difference in someone’s life. But, I think this is the most special, and most rewarding kind of niche that you can be into. At the same time, it’s one of the most challenging, because as I was mentioning, you can never be sure that you find, at the right moment, the same kind of different as you. So, you have to be prepared to serve whoever is the potential client who might need your services, to actually need them, OK? Keep this in mind while you hunt for the perfect customer or for the perfect strategy in your marketing.

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NLP Modal Operators From A Marketing Perspective.

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 31/03/2017

 

There are three big categories of modal operators:

  • possibility

  • necessity

  • desire

The pattern of potential customers taking decisions is dependent on the sequence in which they use these modal operators. Depending on the level of familiarity and trust they have with a certain product or service, they might be more or less interested to invest interest in it.

The first thing that some clienst must think in order to consider a product/service is whether if there is a desire for it or if it is possible. Some people first decide they want something and then they look for how to get that done. But this is a small amount of population. They are usually people who want to get things done and they have the means and determination to make it happen. They think somewhere in the world there must be someone who thought of their desire and all they have to do is to find it. These are the people who know what they want. Their sequence of acquisition is:

  1. Do I want it?” If no, then they don’t care if it exists or not. If yes, then there must be someone offering it. They want it, therefore they will get it or make it happen.

  2. Is it possible to find it?” If not, then they might have the idea for a business if there are more people who have this wish. If they want it, it is possible and they find that possibility, then…

  3. Does it serve my needs?” If no, then they keep on searching. If yes, then they buy it. They don’t waste too much time on comparison. They want it, they search for it, they buy it, they own it and that’s the end of the story.

 

Most people must first be aware that something is possible. For example, if you try to sale vision training to a person that wore glasses for 20 years, it might be impossible if you find that person doesn’t believe the services really offer what they claim. For these people, they must first become aware that something is possible and understand how that helps them. The sequence of acquisition is:

  1. Is it possible?” If it is, then wow, what does that mean? It means that I have to readjust my sense of reality. Some people are not able to do that. They don’t understand how some new technologies work and they don’t care to know because it might make their beliefs and life experiences look silly. If they decide it is not possible, then they deserve to be left alone in their own ignorance. But, if you prove to someone that your product/service can really do what it does, that does not automatically imply they will want to buy it.

  2. Do I want it?”. Does the potential customer consider any value in what’s offered? If not, then it doesn’t matter that it’s possible. For them, it isn’t, because they don’t want it. So the mere demonstration of possibility does not impact the life of the potential client, unless…

  3. Why do I need this?”. What need(s) does this product or service satisfy? When presenting something proactive to a client that needs to be convinced upon the value and the utility, one must consider the suffering that will happen unless the client decides to act on that possibility.

     

The traditional buyer does not buy something unless there is a need. This client must be in pain in order to decide to need something so much in order to buy it. Each marketer must understand that if a consumer really needs something, it doesn’t matter there isn’t enough money for it. They get it. The borrow. The work like crazy. They need it. For them, the sequence of thinking is:

  1. Do I need it?”. If not, then they don’t buy it, because they can’t afford it. If yes, then they wonder:

  2. Is it possible?”. They start searching for mechanisms that would enable them to fulfill their needs. If they don’t find it, they stop searching and get frustrated. Subconsciously, they try to fulfill that need in other ways, compensating or patching. If it is possible, they they ask the question:

  3. Do I want it?”. In this step, the potential consumer that knows their need can be fulfilled, evaluates if there are enough resources and it is worth, in the present, to acquire the solution to this. If they want it, then they might do a study in the market and take into consideration what suits their desires best. The nightmare of a salesman is a potential client that thinks it is possible for his needs to be fulfilled, but doesn’t know what he wants. This is where clients’ education from the marketers steps into place.

     



A particular confusing thinking sequence for both potential customers and suppliers is the person who uses this sequence:

  1. Do I want it?”. Well, actually, the client might want it, but what that is, is so unclear that they might expect the supplier to untangle all of their thoughts and offer them exactly what they want, without even answering some questions. These people might have problems with reality, especially if the next question they ask is:

  2. Do I need it?”. Here comes the inner conflict: if they want it and don’t think they need it, they will suppress that wish until it will unexpectedly burst, becoming an impulse acquisition or a frustration. When and if the client eventually decides it is both desirable and necessary, they ask the question that verifies the reality in the end:

  3. Is it possible?”. If it isn’t, then all the thinking, and wanting, and the needing and all the inner conflicts about it have been in vane. Some people decide very early in their life to self-sabotage their buying strategies with this sequence, especially if their definition of “possible” is downgraded to money and common experience.

     



Another conditioning perspective is the one that starts with recognizing a need and deciding to allocate certain resources for that. This goes like this:

  1. What do I need?”. This can start with an honest investigation of one’s psychological and physiological needs. Do you know how much of the population actually knows what their needs are? Very, very little. So, more likely, these needs will be expressed or confounded with…

  2. What do I want?”. Once this determined to a certain extent, comes the question:

  3. Where can I get it?”. Now you see that his is a step which actually indirectly checks the reality, that is, the actual possibility. The more unclear are the first two formulated, the most likely it is for the consumer to actually buy something they don’t need an/or want. The cycle gets repeated, until either the client comes to the conclusion what he wants/needs isn’t possible or that he doesn’t want it/need it. Time goes by, frustration accumulates, until they start to wonder how it is possible for other people to get the correspondence between want and need. I consider these buyer deserve to be either educated, or left alone, but they require a lot of resources from the salesmen and they themselves don’t have a lot of resources.

     



The marketer, businessman or salesman perspective can be represented by the following sequence, which can be kind of challenging, but very rewarding for the supplier.

  1. Is it possible?”. Really? The didn’t know that! How cool can that be!

  2. Why would somebody need that?”. If the decision makes sense, then it means others see value in it, therefore it’s a good product. If the decision doesn’t seem to make sense, the concur it’s just some fluff some eccentric people might get fooled into buying, but not them.

  3. Why would I want this?”. Once a need established, then it means the client can compare all the options of fulfilling the established needs and, if the presented product is what satisfies their criteria, then they buy tons of it and they can recommend you to others, too. But, in order to do that, you must be a good salesman. If they find out something is possible that satisfies certain needs, they will choose what they want according to their criteria and they will eat salesmen on breakfast until they find exactly what they want. And if they don’t find it, they might be able to create it.

     

Ștefan Alexandrescu

marketer, NLP practitioner

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Live Blogging about the Oscars Ceremony 2017

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 27/02/2017

This post will be updated during the night as the ceremony unfolds. As every year, the Oscars are covered with live blogging as I watch on internet the ceremony. This year, the links I chose to watch the show online are targeted at the online view of the Pro 7 channel available at http://www.freeintertv.com/view/id-685 , http://wikitv.eu/pro7/ and http://oklivetv.com/prosieben-pro7-live/

You can also use the links http://www.gossipcop.com/oscars-live-stream-2017-watch-academy-awards-online/ , http://www.livenewschat.eu/the-oscars-live-stream/ and http://www.stream2watch.me/live-tv/abc-live-stream

Read about the predictions here http://www.metacritic.com/feature/predictions-for-2017-oscar-winners

I am watching the red carpet arrivals.

Sting says the song for which he was nominated “The Empty Chair” from Jim: The James Foley Story is the most important in his career.

Isabelle Huppert never had any reluctance about the role because she didn’t judge her character and accept her because she understands a woman who is looking for getting more understanding.

Justin Timberlake talks about the special feeling of sharing the songs and recognition with his son.

Halle Berry says the things are changing, considering there are black actors in every category for interpreting this year and the diversity is celebrated.

Viola Davis aprreciates how Denzel Washington as a director was so unselfish. She won a Tony award. She says that many women can relate to her role. It helped the actors that they played that role 14 times on the stage before.

Ryan Gosling says he didn’t know the movie would make such a big surprise. The 3rd time Ryan worked with Emma Stone and they have worked a lot in improvising.

Emma Stone presented to her parents a ppt called “Project Hollywood” to convince them to let them pursue her dream, but she didn’t expect to get here.

Justin Timberlake has an entry singing dancing number that heats up the night.

Jimmy Kimmel says that this country can’t be united. There is only one Braveheart in the room and he doesn’t think he can unite them.

He congratulates Meryl Streep and invites the whole hall to raise up and stand up to applaud her for her 20th nomination.

Alicia Vikander presents the award for

Best Supporting Actor
Mahershala Ali – Moonlight as Juan
Jeff Bridges – Hell or High Water as Marcus Hamilton
Lucas Hedges – Manchester by the Sea as Patrick Chandler
Dev Patel – Lion as Saroo Brierley
Michael Shannon – Nocturnal Animals as Detective Bobby Andes

First nomination and win for actor Mahershala Ali – thanks to the teachers who taught him that as an actor he is in the service of the characters. Thanks to his wife who just gave birth to his child and being a support for him during this process.

Jasom Bateman  presents

Best Makeup and Hairstyling
A Man Called Ove – Eva von Bahr and Love Larson
Star Trek Beyond – Joel Harlow and Richard Alonzo
Suicide Squad – Alessandro Bertolazzi, Giorgio Gregorini, and
Christopher Nelson

Alessandro dedicates this Oscar to all the immigrants.

Best Costume Design
Allied – Joanna Johnston
Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them – Colleen Atwood
Florence Foster Jenkins – Consolata Boyle
Jackie – Madeline Fontaine
La La Land – Mary Zophres

Colleen didn’t expect to win, thanks to director David Yates.

Janelle Monáe, Octavia Spencer and Taraji P. henson present the award for Best Documentary – Feature
Fire at Sea – Gianfranco Rosi and Donatella Palermo
I Am Not Your Negro – Raoul Peck, Rémi Grellety, and Hébert Peck
Life, Animated – Roger Ross Williams and Julie Goldman
O.J.: Made in America – Ezra Edelman and Caroline Waterlow
13th – Ava DuVernay, Spencer Averick, and Howard Barish

Ezra Edelman thanks for acknowledging this kind of unconventional story. It is a movie about criminal injustice.

Dwayne Johnson Presenter of the performance of Best Original Song nominee “How Far I’ll Go” from Moana – Music and Lyric by Lin-Manuel Miranda performed by Auli’i Cravalho

The president of the AMPAS delivers her political correct yearly speech.

Sophia Boutella and Chris Evans present the awards for sound.

Best Sound Editing
Arrival – Sylvain Bellemare
Deepwater Horizon – Wylie Stateman and Renée Tondelli
Hacksaw Ridge – Robert Mackenzie and Andy Wright
La La Land – Ai-Ling Lee and Mildred Iatrou Morgan
Sully – Alan Robert Murray and Bub Asman

Best Sound Mixing
Arrival – Bernard Gariépy Strobl and Claude La Haye
Hacksaw Ridge – Kevin O’Connell, Andy Wright, Robert Mackenzie, and Peter Grace
La La Land – Andy Nelson, Ai-Ling Lee, and Steve A. Morrow
Rogue One: A Star Wars Story – David Parker, Christopher
Scarabosio, and Stuart Wilson
13 Hours: The Secret Soldiers of Benghazi – Greg P. Russell, Gary
Summers, Jeffrey J. Haboush, and Mac Ruth

Kevin O’Connell has the 21th nomination and 1st win. 

Vince Vaughn presents the review of the Governors’ awards.

Mark Rylance presents the award for Best Supporting Actress
Viola Davis – Fences as Rose Lee Maxson
Naomie Harris – Moonlight as Paula
Nicole Kidman – Lion as Sue Brierley
Octavia Spencer – Hidden Figures as Dorothy Vaughan
Michelle Williams – Manchester by the Sea as Randi

Mark Rylance says we don’t have an award for actor in opposing role. Women are so good in playing parts of opposition without hate.

Viola Davis (hers 2nd Oscar) say acting is the only profession that celebrates what it is to live a life. Actors must tell those stories of people who dreamed, lost and forgave. She especially thanks Denzel Washington, which everybody applauds. Thanks to everyone who taught her how to win and how to lose. She thanks God for bringing her into the world.

Jimmy Kimmel thanks for the inspiration of David Letterman. Charlize Theron thanks Shirley MacLaine that inspired her to be an actress.

Charlize Theron and Shirley MacLaine come in. Everybody applauds them standing. They present

Best Foreign Language Film
Land of Mine (Denmark) in Danish – Martin Zandvliet
A Man Called Ove (Sweden) in Swedish – Hannes Holm
The Salesman (Iran) in Persian – Asghar Farhadi
Tanna (Australia) in Nauvhal – Martin Butler and Bentley Dean
Toni Erdmann (Germany) in German – Maren Ade

There has been read a statement from mr Farhadi that protests against the inhumane laws against immigrants, dividing the world between us and the others, the enemies, creating fear and excuse for warmongering. Films create empathy between we and others and we need this more than ever.

Dev Patel presents the song “The Empty Chair” from Jim: The James Foley Story – Music and Lyric by J. Ralph and Sting. Performed by Sting.

Gael Garcia Bernal and Heilee Steinfield present the Best Animated Short Film
Blind Vaysha – Theodore Ushev
Borrowed Time – Andrew Coats and Lou Hamou-Lhadj
Pear Cider and Cigarettes – Robert Valley and Cara Speller
Pearl – Patrick Osborne
Piper – Alan Barillaro and Marc Sondheimer

Alan thanks to his kids and especially to John Lasseter.

Gael Garcia Bernal protests against the building of the wall.

Gael Garcia Bernal and Heilee Steinfield present the award for Best Animated Feature Film
Kubo and the Two Strings – Travis Knight and Arianne Sutner
Moana – John Musker, Ron Clements, and Osnat Shurer
My Life as a Zucchini – Claude Barras and Max Karli
The Red Turtle – Michael Dudok de Wit and Toshio Suzuki
Zootopia – Byron Howard, Rich Moore, and Clark Spencer

One of the winners mentions tolerance being more important than fear of the others.

Dakota Johnson and Jamie Dornan present the award for Best Production Design and Set Decoration
Arrival – Patrice Vermette and Paul Hotte
Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them – Stuart Craig and Anna
Pinnock
Hail, Caesar! – Jess Gonchor and Nancy Haigh
La La Land – Sandy Reynolds-Wasco and David Wasco
Passengers – Guy Hendrix Dyas and Gene Serdena

The winners are husband and wife.

Jimmy Kimmel presents Hollywood tour of people surprising the ceremony and entering this room.

Felicity Jones and Riz Ahmed present the award for Best Visual Effects
Deepwater Horizon – Craig Hammeck, Jason Snell, Jason
Billington, and Burt Dalton
Doctor Strange – Stephane Ceretti, Richard Bluff, Vincent Cirelli,
and Paul Corbould
The Jungle Book – Robert Legato, Adam Valdez, Andrew R. Jones,
and Dan Lemmon
Kubo and the Two Strings – Steve Emerson, Oliver Jones, Brian
McLean, and Brad Schiff
Rogue One: A Star Wars Story – John Knoll, Mohen Leo, Hal
Hickel, and Neil Corbould

 3rd win of 4th nominations (Robert Legato), Adam 2 nominations, Andrew R. Jones 2nd award of 3 nominations. Dan Lemmon 1st award from 3 nominations.

Seth Rogen and Michael J. Fox present the award for Best Film Editing
Arrival – Joe Walker
Hacksaw Ridge – John Gilbert
Hell or High Water – Jake Roberts
La La Land – Tom Cross
Moonlight – Nat Sanders and Joi McMillon

Thanks to his wife Karen.

Sunny Pawar receives special attention from Jimmy Kemmel.

David Oyelowo and Selma Hayek present award for Best Documentary – Short Subject
Extremis – Dan Krauss
4.1 Miles – Daphne Matziaraki
Joe’s Violin – Kahane Cooperman and Raphaela Neihausen
Watani: My Homeland – Marcel Mettelsiefen and Stephen Ellis
The White Helmets – Orlando von Einsiedel and Joanna Natasegara

1st Oscar and 2nd nomination for both of them. They ask everyone to stand up to remember that everyone cares. They want the blood shed to stop in Syria.

David Oyelowo and Selma Hayek present the award Best Live Action Short Film
Ennemis Interieurs – Sélim Azzazi
La Femme et le TGV – Timo von Gunten and Giacun Caduff
Silent Nights – Aske Bang and Kim Magnusson
Sing – Kristóf Deák and Anna Udvardy
Timecode – Juanjo Giménez

These films come from 5 different countries.

Leslie Mann present the Academy’s Scientifical and Technical Awards

Javier Bardem was impressed by The Bridges of Madison County.

Javier Bardem and Meryl Streep enter the scene. Everyone applauds standing. We make movies about a truth hard to capture.

Best Cinematography
Arrival – Bradford Young
La La Land – Linus Sandgren
Lion – Greig Fraser
Moonlight – James Laxton
Silence – Rodrigo Prieto

Calls Damien a poetic genius. Thanks to his father who passed away.

Ryan Gosling and Emma Stone present the songs from La La Land, described with hope and melancholy.

“City of Stars” from La La Land – Music by Justin Hurwitz, Lyric by
Benj Pasek and Justin Paul performed by John Legend.

“Audition (The Fools Who Dream)” from La La Land – Music by
Justin Hurwitz, Lyric by Benj Pasek and Justin Paul

Jimmy Kimmel acknowledges Harold Wheeler who is the orchestra conductor backstage.

Samuel L. Jackson presents Best Original Score
Jackie – Mica Levi
La La Land – Justin Hurwitz
Lion – Dustin O’Halloran and Hauschka
Moonlight – Nicholas Britell
Passengers – Thomas Newman

Samuel L. Jackson says some movies are great because they make you cry, other because they make you laugh, but he prefers the movies that leave you humming and wondering if the score has been written for the screenplay or the other way around. 1st award of 3 nominas, all this year for Justin Hurwitz.

Scarlett Johanssen present the award for Best Original Song
“Audition (The Fools Who Dream)” from La La Land – Music by
Justin Hurwitz, Lyric by Benj Pasek and Justin Paul
“Can’t Stop the Feeling!” from Trolls – Music and Lyric by Justin
Timberlake, Max Martin, and Karl Johan Schuster (Shellback)
“City of Stars” from La La Land – Music by Justin Hurwitz, Lyric by
Benj Pasek and Justin Paul

“The Empty Chair” from Jim: The James Foley Story – Music and
Lyric by J. Ralph and Sting
“How Far I’ll Go” from Moana – Music and Lyric by Lin-Manuel
Miranda

In memoriam – my list is partial, I didn’t catch all the names Art Hiller, Tracey Scott, Bill Nunn, Alice Arlen, George Kennedy, Gene Wilder, Don P Harris Paul Sylbert Michael Cimino, Patty Duke Andrzej Wajda Emmanuelle Riva Anton Yelchin, Mary Tyler Moore, prince, Kenny Baker, John Hurt, Jim Clark, Norma Moriceau, Kit West, Lupita Tovar, Pat Conroy, Nancy Reagan, Abbas Kiarostami, Ken Howard, Garry Marshall, Hector Babebnco, Curtis Hanson, Zsa Zsa Gabor, Tony Gibbs, Richard Portman, Debbie Reynolds, Carrie Fischer, Om Puri

Matt Damon and Ben Affleck soon again on the Oscar stage, 20 years after Good Will Hunting present the award for Best Original Screenplay
20th Century Women – Mike Mills
Hell or High Water – Taylor Sheridan
La La Land – Damien Chazelle
The Lobster – Yorgos Lanthimos and Efthimis Filippou
Manchester by the Sea – Kenneth Lonergan

1st Oscar from 4 nominations for Kenneth Lonergan. Lonergan thanks Matt Damon as a film producer. Thanks wife Nellie says he’s going to try loving her more although he can’t. Also to his father who passed away earlier this year.

Amy Adams presents Best Adapted Screenplay
Arrival – Eric Heisserer from “Story of Your Life” by Ted Chiang
Fences – August Wilson from Fences by August Wilson
(posthumous nomination)
Hidden Figures – Allison Schroeder and Theodore Melfi from Saw Movie
Hidden Figures by Margot Lee Shetterly
Lion – Luke Davies from A Long Way Home by Saroo Brierley and
Larry Buttrose
Moonlight – Barry Jenkins and Tarell Alvin McCraney from In Moonlight Black Boys Look Blue by Tarell Alvin McCraney

Barry Jenkins declares this is an inspiration for all the non-conforming colored people.

Halle Berry presents award for Best Director
Denis Villeneuve – Arrival
Mel Gibson – Hacksaw Ridge
Damien Chazelle – La La Land
Kenneth Lonergan – Manchester by the Sea
Barry Jenkins – Moonlight

Damien enters Oscar history being the youngest film director winning this award at this age. He thanks the other nominees who have inspired him with their works. He says he had the chance to fall in love with his wife while working on La La Land. Her name is Olivia.

Brie Larson presents the award for Best Actor in a Leading Role
Casey Affleck – Manchester by the Sea as Lee Chandler
Andrew Garfield – Hacksaw Ridge as Desmond T. Doss
Ryan Gosling – La La Land as Sebastian Wilder
Viggo Mortensen – Captain Fantastic as Ben Cash
Denzel Washington – Fences as Troy Maxson

Casey says one of the first actors who was a model for him was Denzel and he met him tonight for the first time. Everybody applauds him standing. He thanks Matt Damon for creating this opportunity.

Leonardo DiCaprio presents the award for Best Actress
Isabelle Huppert – Elle as Michèle LeBlanc
Ruth Negga – Loving as Mildred Loving
Natalie Portman – Jackie as Jackie Kennedy
Emma Stone – La La Land as Mia Dolan
Meryl Streep – Florence Foster Jenkins as Florence Foster Jenkins

Warren Beatty and Faye Dunaway get applauds at the 50th anniversary of the movie Bonnie and Clyde. They promote diversity and freedom all over the world. They present the award for Best Picture
Arrival – Shawn Levy, Dan Levine, Aaron Ryder, and David Linde
Fences – Scott Rudin, Denzel Washington, and Todd Black
Hacksaw Ridge – Bill Mechanic and David Permut
Hell or High Water – Carla Hacken and Julie Yorn
Hidden Figures – Donna Gigliotti, Peter Chernin, Jenno Topping,
Pharrell Williams, and Theodore Melfi
La La Land – Fred Berger, Jordan Horowitz, and Marc Platt
Lion – Emile Sherman, Iain Canning, and Angie Fielder
Manchester by the Sea – Matt Damon, Kimberly Steward, Chris
Moore, Lauren Beck, and Kevin J. Walsh
Moonlight – Adele Romanski, Dede Gardner, and Jeremy Kleiner

Unbelievable! Warren Beatty goofed the winners: La La Land, also initially announced as the winner of the best picture award wasn’t. The producers got to go on the stage and deliver their thank you speeches when it turned out that actually Moonlight won the award for best picture. Jimmy Kemmel asks pardon for accidentally mixing the envelopes.

Top biggest winners – from movies having at least 2 nominations:

  1. La La Land 6 wins from 14 nominations
  2. Moonlight 3 wins from 8 nominations
  3. Hacksaw Ridge 2 wins from 6 nominations
  4. Arrival 1 win from 8 nominations
  5. Manchester by the Sea 1 win from 6 nominations
  6. Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them 1 win out of 2 nominations

Top biggest losers – o wins, from movies having at least 2 nominations:

  1. Lion – 6 nominations
  2. Fences – 4 nominations
  3. Hell or High Water 4 nominations
  4. Hidden Figures 3 nominations
  5. Jackie – 3 nominations
  6. A Man Called Ove – 2 nominations
  7. Moana – 2 nominations
  8. Florence Foster Jenkins – 2 nominations
    9. Passengers – 2 nominations
    9. Rogue One – 2 nominations
    9. Deepwater Horizon – 2 nominations

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Golden Globes Ceremony 2017 Live Blogging

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 09/01/2017

I am watching live online the ceremony at http://www.vercanalestv.com/ver-canal-plus-estrenos-en-directo-y-online-las-24h/ .

I am going to update this article every few minutes as the event progresses.

Jimmy Fallon is the presenter of the show and it’s set for a grand opening number.

At 4 PM Western Coast Time / 7 PM Eastern Coast Time / 3 AM Romanian time the ceremony begins.

Jimmy Fallon has a La-la Land moment entry via Moonlight. He crosses by Tina Fey ignoring her. “Manchester by the Sea” is the only thing that was more depresssing than 2016 itself, says Fallon.

Ryan Reynolds and Emma Stone presents the nominations for Best Supporting Actor, any Motion Picture
Mahershala Ali, Moonlight
Jeff Bridges, Hell Or High Water
Simon Helberg, Florence Foster Jenkins
Dev Patel, Lion
Aaron Taylor-Johnson, Nocturnal Animals

Aaaron thanks Tom Ford for the script and insists on the connection with his wife and his father.

The next award is Best Actor Television Series, Drama
Rami Malek, Mr. Robot
Bob Odenkirk, Better Call Saul
Matthew Rhys, The Americans
Liev Schreiber, Ray Donovan
Billy Bob Thornton, Goliath

David E. Kelley’s new TV series has received the first important Golden Globe award of the night. It’s Billy Bob Thornton’s second Golden Globe in 16 nominations of his entire career.

Hugh Grant presents the film “Florence Foster Jenkins”.

Drew Barrymoore and Timothy Olyphant present the award for Best Actress Television Series, Musical or Comedy
Rachel Bloom, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend
Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Veep
Sarah Jessica Parker, Divorce
Issa Rae, Insecure
Gina Rodriguez, Jane The Virgin

Tracee Elliss Ross, Black-ish

She dedicates this to the community of black women and thanks for the opportunity of being part of conveying such an important message. She thanks her husband.

Best Television Series, Musical or Comedy
Atlanta
Black-ish
Mozart in the Jungle
Transparent
Veep

Donald Glover, creator and star of the show, thanks for the interest for the subject and the black community of Atlanta.

Lorenzo Soria, the president of the Hollywood Foreign Press hold a speech. We have to take into considerations the injustices and the joys of the life.

Vince Vaughn presents the film Hacksaw Ridge.

Best Actress, Limited Series or Motion Picture made for TV, award presented by Nicole Kidman and Rheese Whitherspoon
Riley Keough, The Girlfriend Experience
Sarah Paulson, The People v. O.J. Simpson: American Crime Story
Charlotte Rampling, London Spy
Kerry Washington, Confirmation
Felicity Huffman, American Crime

Up is the award for Best TV Limited Series or Motion Picture made for TV
American Crime
The Dresser
The Night Manager
The Night Of
The People v. O.J. Simpson: American Crime Story

The People v. O.J. Simpson: American Crime Story wins the Golden Globe for best mini-series and Best Actress, Limited Series or Motion Picture made for TV, Sarah Paulson

 

Annette Bening presents 20th Century Women

Naomi Campbell presents the Best Supporting Actor, Limited Series or Motion Picture for TV
Sterling K. Brown, The People v. O.J. Simpson: American Crime Story
Hugh Laurie, The Night Manager
John Lithgow, The Crown
Christian Slater, Mr. Robot
John Travolta, The People v. O.J. Simpson: American Crime Story

Sophia Vargara presents the daughters of Sylvester Stallone.

Sting presents award for Best Orginal Score, Motion Picture
Nicholas Britell, Moonlight
Justin Hurwitz, La La Land
Jóhann Jóhannsson, Arrival
Dustin O’Halloran, Hauschka, Lion
Hans Zimmer, Pharrell Williams, Benjamin Wallfisch, Hidden Figures

Sting presents award for Best Original Song, Motion Picture
‘Can’t Stop The Feeling!’, Trolls
‘City Of Stars, Justin Hurwitz, Benj Pasek, Justin Paul’, La La Land
‘Faith’, Sing
‘Gold, Gold
‘How Far I’ll Go’, Moana

John Legend presents La La Land.

Michael Keaton presents the award for Best Supporting Actress, any Motion Picture
Viola Davis, Fences
Naomie Harris, Moonlight
Nicole Kidman, Lion
Octavia Spencer, Hidden Figures
Michelle Williams, Manchester By The Sea

Everybody appluds her speech standing. She was nominated 5 times. She was very emotioned.

Cuba Gooding, Jr presents Best Supporting Actress, Limited Series or Motion Picture for TV
Olivia Colman, The Night Manager
Lena Headey, Game Of Thrones
Chrissy Metz, This Is Us
Mandy Moore, This Is Us
Thandie Newton, Westworld

The limited TV series “The Night Manager” based on John Le Carre wins 3 Golden Globes for best actors: Tom Hiddleston and Hugh Laurie and for best supporting actress: Olivia Colman

Dev Patel and Sunny Pawar present Lion.

Goldie Hawn and Amy Schumer present award for best actor, Musical or Comedy

Colin Farrell, The Lobster
Ryan Gosling, La La Land
Hugh Grant, Florence Foster Jenkins
Jonah Hill, War Dogs
Ryan Reynolds, Deadpool

First award for Ryan Gosling out of 5 nominations. “This isn’t the first time I was confounded with Ryan Reynolds”. He says the award belongs to also Emma Stone and Damian Chazelle. He thanks to his brother, Juan Carlos Mendez.

Felicity Jones and Diego Luna present award for  Best Screenplay, Motion Picture
Damien Chazelle, La La Land
Tom Ford, Nocturnal Animals
Barry Jenkins, Moonlight
Kenneth Lonergan, Manchester By The Sea
Taylor Sheridan, Hell Or High Water

Kirsten Wiig and Steve Carrell present award for Best Motion Picture, Animated

They have the best comical moment of the evening. They “recall” the first animated feature seen at cinema. His parents got divorced after it and never seen father again and she saw the movie Bambi after her 3 dogs died.

Kubo And The Two Strings
Moana
My Life As A Zucchini
Sing
Zootopia

The creators say this is actually an animated movie for the adults.

In memoriam moment Carrie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds

Casey Affleck presents Manchester by Sea.

Best Motion Picture, Foreign Language
Divines – Frances
Elle – France
Neruda – Chile
The Salesman – Iran, France
Toni Erdmann – Germany

Paul Verhoeven is amazed and especially thanks Isabelle Huppert.

Anna Kendrick and Justin Theroux present award for Best Actor, Limited Series or Motion Picture made for TV
Riz Ahmed, The Night Of go over by?
Bryan Cranston, All The Way
Tom Hiddleston, The Night Manager
John Turturro, The Night Of
Courtney B. Vance, The People v. O.J. Simpson: American Crime Story

Jake Gyllenhall presents a Ryan Reynolds movie: Deadpool

Laura Dern presents the Golden Globe for Best Actress Television Series, Drama
Caitriona Balfe, Outlander
Claire Foy, The Crown
Keri Russell, The Americans
Winona Ryder, Stranger Things
Evan Rachel Wood, Westworld

First award, first nomination, shock. It’s difficult to play a real character.

Best Television Series, Drama
Game Of Thrones
Stranger Things
This Is Us
Westworld
The Crown

Ocdtavia Spencer presents the Golden Globe (Cecil B. DeMille award) for the whole career Meryl Streep. “You make me proud to be an artist”. The most celebrated actress of our times. 30 Golden Globe nominations, 18 Academy Awards nominations. 8 Golden Globes. 3 Oscars. It is a priviledge being an actor. It is important to celebrate the empathy that allows us to do this. She emphasizes the importance of telling powerful stories in a world full of violence. Since 1952, the Cecil B. DeMille award has been given to 14 women.

Chris Pine congratulates Meryl Streep for the best speech of the night and presents Hell or High Water.

Sienna Miller, Zoey Saldana and Ben Affleck present the award for Best Director, Motion Picture
Damien Chazelle, La La Land
Tom Ford, Nocturnal Animals
Mel Gibson, Hacksaw Ridge
Barry Jenkins, Moonlight
Kenneth Lonergan, Manchester By The Sea

Mandy Moore presents the award for Best Actor Television Series, Musical or Comedy
Anthony Anderson, Black-ish
Gael G. Bernal, Mozart in the Jungle
Donald Glover, Atlanta
Nick Nolte, Graves
Jeffrey Tambor, Transparent

Matt Damon presents the award of Best Actress Motion Picture, Musical or Comedy
Annette Bening, 20th Century Women
Lily Collins, Rules Don’t Apply
Hailee Steinfeld, The Edge of Seventeen
Emma Stone, La La Land
Meryl Streep, Florence Foster Jenkins

Emma Stone thanks to her long time girl-friends. Thanks to Damian and Ryan. This is a film for dreamers. Any creative person opens a door and the movie is a triumph of inspiration for those who deserve to go on.

Brad Pitt, producer of Moonlight, presents his production.

Jessica Chastain presents the Best Motion Picture, Musical or Comedy
20th Century Women
Deadpool
Florence Foster Jenkins
La La Land
Sing Street

La La Land wins 7 awards out of 7 nominations and sweeps its way to film history. THIS IS THE HIGHEST GOLDEN GLOBE WINNER IN ALL FILM HISTORY (73 YEARS OF AWARD).

 

Brie Larson presents the award for Best Actor Motion Picture, Drama
Casey Affleck, Manchester By The Sea
Joel Edgerton, Loving
Andrew Garfield, Hacksaw Ridge
Viggo Mortensen, Captain Fantastic
Denzel Washington, Fences

Leonardo DiCaprio presents the award for  Best Actress Motion Picture, Drama
Amy Adams, Arrival
Jessica Chastain, Miss Sloan
Isabelle Huppert, Elle
Ruth Negga, Loving
Natalie Portman, Jackie

Isabelle Huppert says the film doesn’t create borders.

In honor of Rocky, 40 years ago, Carl Whithers and Sylvester Stallone appear on the scene and present the award for best feature Drama
Hacksaw Ridge
Hell Or High Water
Lion
Manchester By The Sea
Moonlight

Everyone applauds standing.

The participants from the crew in the hall get on the scene.

 

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NLP Schema Dynamics Consulting with Stefan Alexandrescu

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 25/12/2016


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Psychologists have worked for more than 100 years in order to find explanations for how the human mind and personality works, to heal the problems hidden deep inside of us. Personal development fields such as neuro-linguistic programming and transactional analysis have come up with effective and efficient solutions for breakthrough to success. Clinical psychology and development of excellence have been long time separated. Now there is a possibility to unite the best of both world: heal the suffering mind and personality and drive it to success and performance.

Questions for you

  • How would it be for you to find out what holds you back to access your full potential and succeed?

  • How can you confront, heal and solve your traumas?

  • Do you want to find the deep psychological and emotional roots of your problems?

  • Are you ready to confront a profound truth about who you are and and how to get yourself out of your way?

  • Have you implemented powerful changes using fields such as psychotherapy, coaching, personal development consulting but only up to one point?

If your answer to any of these questions is “YES”, then this will interest you.

Please read the following lines, as the world they open up might amazingly transform your life!

A revolutionary approach

My name is Ștefan Alexandrescu and I worked one on one with hundreds of customers since 2004. I have always been interested in finding out why some of the people who came to me for various problems or goals succeeded after just 2-3 sessions and some needed tens of sessions. Now I found out and everything else I knew fitted in like a puzzle.

The key I was missing was offered to my by schema therapy, but I found something even better. Using advanced techniques that I tested and developed in working with clients, I have found out what some might call ”the Holy Grail” of psychology and personal development. I have developed an integrative approach using schema therapy conceptualization and homework, Spiral Dynamics theory, NLP techniques and various correlations with other psychological theories that is unique.

Answers for you

I have so far worked with 6 customers in 2016 and after tens of individual sessions I have come to some amazing results.

  • Do you also want to know and deeply understand how your personality works inside out?

  • Do you also wish to unveil the deepest roots of all your sidetracks that cover your potential?

  • Do you want to set your path straight to a powerful future that will fulfill your goals and talents?

  • Do you also want to embark on a journey confronting all the fears, limiting beliefs, uncovered traumas and inner conflicts in order to break through of them?

  • Do you want to find out what has been keeping you from becoming who you were meant to be?

If your answer to any of these questions is “yes”, then please keep reading, because I am going to present you how and what.

The questionnaires

The first thing you need to do is to complete several tests (psychometric questionnaires), totaling a few hundreds of questions. These will require a lot of concentration and a state of introspection. Based on your answers at those questions, you will have to send me the results and I will calculate your scores, make a few correlations and offer you a free evaluation.

When we meet, either face to face or through Skype, the evaluation must be done with the results open (all the Excel and PDF files), so that you have a full understanding of how the model of interpretation works for you.

The tests I will give you will have identified a detailed list of:

  • your strong points, in skills, talents and personality traits

  • your main weak points, that hold you down from reaching higher goals

  • how these are correlated with your experience and manifestations

These tests work within the correlations between various theories from NLP, transactional analysis, Spiral Dynamics, schema therapy and classical psychology.

The tests can be done for free in a variety of forms. The first consulting session of brief, general interpretation of these profiles is provided fully free of charge, with no strings attached. If you decide that you want to start a journey of deep transformation, a program tailored specifically for your needs awaits you. The program is designed to be flexible and very efficient. It will require time, money and effort, but I promise you it will be one of the best investments you have ever done in your life if you choose to go through it.

You have now the chance to be part of the second wave of clients using this integrated approach between personal development for excellence and clinical psychology. This has already provided amazing results for clients in just a matter of months! Please inquire further if you want to know more about the consulting activity of Stefan Alexandrescu in 2016.

This isn’t for you if:

  • you cannot allocate at least 2 hour/week or 1 hour/week for the consulting session and at least 3-4 times more for homework (journals, letters, goal formulations, lists, questionnaires)

  • you think 50 euros/hour for a program that can change your life in a few months is too much

  • you are afraid to confront yourself, discover yourself in depth

  • you don’t care about what happens to you in the future

  • it’s OK to postpone your goals, happiness, fulfillment or healing time and again

  • you don’t have the discipline to invest the efforts into your development

with the likely results that:

  • you will try to fix surface issues (effects) which will appear in your life in various ways, with little chance to approach the deep roots

  • you will try to fix behaviors (effects) in stead of beliefs, emotions and experiences (causes)

  • the problems will cost you more than solving them

  • feel this sounds great, but you don’t have a few hours to complete the questionnaires

This is a difficult and challenging process. Not everyone is up for it. Are you ready? I can promise you this:

  • you will unveil painful memories

  • you will understand the mechanisms of faulty behaviors that endanger your life as you know it

  • you will experience intense negative emotions

  • you will feel disappointed towards people in your life

  • you might try to find excuses to interrupt the process

with the likely effect that in the end:

  • you will have deep insights

  • you will be able to choose in the present what is appropriate for you

  • you will understand and accept yourself and others

  • you will experience the power of forgiveness

  • you will train the skills you need to perform

  • you will become a better parent

  • you will be able to heal deep wounds in the past that restrain you from being yourself.

Start now!

The first steps are to get in touch with me, receive the questionnaires, complete them, let me score them and receive your free evaluation!

Find out more! Get in touch NOW! This is for you!

Ștefan Alexandrescu

0040 729 034 883

stefan [dot] alexandrescu [at] yahoo ]dot] com

Copyright © Ștefan Alexandrescu, 2016

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13 Hints – How to Separate Value from Mind Bugging In Webinars

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 26/11/2016

In the past years, putting together the increase of internet bandwidth supporting high definition instant live video streaming, the increasing capacities of server streaming for thousands of people, together with the price falling for hardware technology, internet access (even on mobile devices) and data centers services, more and more learning companies develop business models centered on webinars in multiple formats which promise to deliver some free information to the watchers/listeners and some sort of attractive special offer.

In my experience, such webinars can be somewhere between money-making & life changing to an utter waste of time listening to some charlatan’s bogus.

There are certain programs which facilitate access to various learning workshops providing practical blueprints with videos, audios, workbooks, transcripts, forms, procedures, tables and so on.

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Of course, many people might be convinced to spend some time with these stuff, but I’m going to give you some suggestions about how to not lose too much time with this stuff while also getting most out of such opportunities. What you might not know about most of these:

  1. Most webinars are promised to last a certain amount of time. They usually last double, but if you stay till the end, you may find the real offer with special discount.
  2. Very many of the programs offered for hundreds of dollars can be found on the same website with a special significant discount, such just a few tens of dollars or even just 1 $. Of course, if you don’t know how to look for it or don’t at least try to close the page and see if you are tempted in that moment with a lower offer, you get taxed more. For example, I participated in a webinar where they were selling a course for 279$ and I found it at 1 $ while browsing on the web for it during the webinar. Another program was being offered at 999 $ and was later offered for 50 $ after a month for those who didn’t buy it initially.
  3. Some of what you learn can really make you a lot of money and change your life, IF you apply those things. But, basically, when you subscribe to a webinar you find out that there’s about 80% promotion and 20 % content because a webinar is essentially a 2-3 hour-commercial
  4. If you subscribed for the webinar and bothered appearing just for 5 minutes, most trainers will send you the replay to watch/listen whenever you want to, like for example on your dumbphone. This is a very good and practical idea especially if you are not convinced you want to buy whatever that person is selling you. In the same time, it must be said that by doing so, you are guaranteed to miss the time-limited offer at the end of the webinar.
  5. Theoretically, you have the opportunity to ask some questions during the live webinar, but there are chances that from thousands of people attending and hundreds asking questions, yours wouldn’t be answered unless they are very good and posted multiple times or by different people.
  6. Many of them have nothing to do with the advertised subject, they are just a bunch of shitty hocus-pocus new age mindbabble since the time of “The Secret”. I though people grew up and overcame that fashion, but apparently there are still thousands of suckers hoarding in thinking that through visualization they are going to mind-bend the universe.
  7. The most practical things I found are the entrepreneurship, marketing and social media oriented contents which practically show you how to organize business around consulting and training. I suggest you take some of those things, apply them and share them with your customers.
  8. When the topic is not oriented on something concrete about business or sales, there are some things to be taken from the amount of psychobabble, but it must be clearly discerned and that takes very much time. So be prepared to take some notes and not get bored with the rest of the content which might be confusing or useless. Watching/listening to a webinar DOES require some present and active knowledge about the topic, otherwise you might just believe everything the presenter is telling, which in most cases can be very dangerous.
  9. All the payments must also be done through PayPal or ClickBank. If the page you are directed to only obligates you to buy with your card, something might be wrong. Before deciding to buy, check the name of the program being advertised together with “scam”, “fraud” or “hoax” together. See what you find. Some of these stuff are just pyramidal schemes, working on the principle: step 1. give something small and valuable step 2. make people think there is more 3. repeat steps 1 &2 indefinitely until the buyers run out of money.
  10. If you are smart and know a little bit more about the subject, you can implement some valuable ideas without buying the whole program. Or you could use the presentation as a model and learn from the selling skills of the presenter and use them in your own experience.
  11. Whatever the topic of interest is, you may find free recorded and valuable webinars on video.google.com . Also, look for similar topics in MOOCs (Massive Open Online Courses). You might get a similar or better content for free. Find some MOOCs appropriate for you searching on customized keywords here: https://www.mooc-list.com/
  12. The most serious and well-planned online trainings do offer the access to a closed community, usually on Facebook, where you can interact with other participants and with trainers, ask questions and create business opportunities. I think this is one of the most important features, if you have time to access it.
  13. Find out if there is a return policy. Usually, there is something like if you don’t like what you find, you get a full or a partial refund in 7 or 10 days, so hurry up and check if you like what you found. If not, get your money back! Usually, the process takes a few days, so don’t last until the last days, because even if you send the request within time, if it’s not process you might lose the money you want to get back. Some companies retain something like 10-15 % for comission processing or stuff like that, some reimburse you the full payment. Also, don’t use this loophole to abuse the system! If the content is truly helpful, respect the work and pay the money.

Stefan Alexandrescu

consultant in personal and professional development

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How to Live a Perfect Life, Last Part. Steps 9-12 Out of 12, In the Right Order

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 21/11/2016

 

Part I

Part II

Part III

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9. Set rewarding excellence goals and become the best in your business

It seems that there have been many steps until here, but all your efforts will be completely rewarded. Definitely, you can only become the best in your job, organization, niche or business if you have managed to confront the typical problems swifter and effective, if you have delivered on the goals you have trained with until now and have acquired top skills that put you in front of the game of others.

I’m referring to vision and strategy: working smart for the right reasons can help you identify the 20% that bring the 80%. Now, your goals have to be daring, bold to make you control the autonomy and true independence that will make a dent and leave your name in the history. Only after you have tested and followed the whole system inside out, you can replicate it for profit at a higher scale. Take into account all the lessons, all the motivations, take a calculated risk and “shoot for the moon”! Do it again and again, be the best and work smart to stay there! You truly deserve to celebrate especially when you bring this achievement to reality after pragmatically testing options for success. Failing to do this earlier might sidetrack your efforts, take longer or bring stepbacks you can’t face on your own. Coaching is a must at this level. Modeling and mentoring also definitely works. Also, niche-specific training and skills-related training can benefit you for what you need/want here.

At this level of excellence, you also have to improve the skill of seeking, connecting and networking within groups of professionals sharing similar preoccupations, abilities and personality preferences, in order to continue to grow, learn and excel through the power of communities (see more further).

 

10. Find people who share your vision and values

Very likely, until this point of excellence, you’ve worked within teams, or in proximity or in collaboration with other people in your life experience. At a certain point, you decide to let go of unfulfilled expectations, go with the flow and get social, not only for business networking, but as well for deeper human connection.

Of course, it’s not about connecting with people who have been put there by someone else or by random design (like in school or in a company where you were hired). It’s about connecting with people you can actually test and recognize as having approximately similar values, visions and experiences.

After each of you have had your successful experiences, you can get together to share your wisdom, learn one from the other and create a win-win-win community. Trying to do so earlier implies the risks of having your good intentions work for somebody else’s individual limited benefit, or mistaking you illusions/expectations for reality, or mistaking a functioning system for a community.

You can prepare for this step by joining and working with/for people who have a track record of creating both individual success based on strategy and team success bases on collaboration. Volunteering for a cause you cherish can also be helpful in opening up new horizons of harmony in the human experience. Just find some people who are already doing or thinking what you like and give them a hand! Other ideas: personal development thematic groups, periodical skills-based training within a community.

In order to fully enjoy this level of development, it is necessary to develop close personal and professional relationships with others. In these instances, it must be OK to share warmth, caring, attention, empathy, protection (strength, guidance, direction), disclosure and listening. Why? For the purpose of creating a harmonic team that works for everyone, which can bring consensual guiding for each interested, for long term. This is what deep social interaction can mean when people live and act for the causes they share.

 

11. Learn more outside of your area of expertise

Hopefully, there come a time when, after years and years, you can not only be the best in your niche, but you can do it quite effortlessly, even in your sleep. This is the moment to continue developing your other talents. Learn something new. Get deeper knowledge of your field. Get a new hobby. Enjoy a healthy life. If you feel bored or that it’s time for a big change, consider developing skills for a different field you might be talented in.

This time, integrate all the resources (time, money, people you know, all that you studied) to make the most out of the new learning. In the beginning, it may be a little hard to get used to make more effort to succeed at something (because everything is so easy when you’re an expert), but the more you learned, the easiest it is to learn more, because of the many synapses that are already there and in function.

This step should allow you to find more peace within yourself, without control in the group or of the resources. You may reinvent yourself and succeed in ways you wouldn’t have dreamed of being possible. This can be a great period if associated with having children and becoming a parent, or a grandparent. You can only truly live at this level if you have made profit out of your strategy, you have developed functioning networks of authentic communication with peers and are able to see the bigger picture.

The few experts who can work at this level have the ability to work intuitively with large chunks of information to find patterns, may they be in vocational, professional, personal or recreational areas.

If you decide to succeed in a second or third field later in life, after having success in just one or two professional fields, it will be faster for you. The learning must be tailored to your needs. Please feel free to use consulting, coaching, mentoring, modeling and especially training. If you have truly reached this level, you already know how important that is and how to use such services.

 

12. Redefine the purpose of your life as having a higher meaning

At some moment, each of us searches and sometimes finds the meaning of life. There are plenty of answers, but usually people find a religious meaning, which is connected with having an impact beyond the material world.

Of course, at several points in your existence, the meaning of life can be defined as chasing or living your dreams, to seek happiness, to discover and better oneself, becoming the best achievable self. Seeking the wisdom, you will probably redefine the levels at which you can make a contribution, both personally and professionally. But, at a very special moment, preferably before you die, you may allow yourself to truly let go of roles, duties and social expectations.

This is how you can tend to touch perfection through living, only to become aware of how little you know. That’s why your contribution has to stay with the others after you die. A life worth living is a life that you would find hard to leave from or give up. The true inner benefit of others, making the difference through what you do, say and inspire, is what starts guiding your intentions.

You know you can do better and you are grateful for the chance to act justly and wise, love and give unconditionally. Reaching this, you have found the beauty and the sorrow in your life: you have now started to get the hugeness of the human spirit, the bearing on your deeds and the shortness of life. It’s worth talking about this with a priest. I have personally found the meaning of life in Orthodox Christianity. I have the rest of my life to live it by rediscovering it in my existence, though applying what I have found.

 

Some final thoughts

I haven’t done all of these steps in this order, but at least now I found the tools that can connect them logically, structurally and scientifically. There is a moment in some lives when everything comes to a circle. You get the final piece of the puzzle, although I’m afraid most people don’t really live this sensation.

Now I am ready for rebooting my journey, faster and together with those who want to experience what I’ve written about here. Often times, when we are confronted with a problem, we don’t quite know what’s the map of that problem, what are its roots and especially, what might be the solutions. Although I don’t have solutions in consulting, theories in learning and questions in coaching for all the possible problems, it’s very likely I know where you are and how to support you to get not only where you want to go, but where you need to go. Blow away your inner obstacles and become who you were meant to be!

I am doing this because I am here to serve you, not to please you. Now you know the truth. Act on it! Change your life now! Follow the steps I have set for you in this article and become part of my life journey! Let’s put some wind in your sails!

 

PS: Thanks to Corina Andreea Popa for the practical suggestions and feed-back on this article before publishing.

Ștefan Alexandrescu

professional development consultant, trainer and coach

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How to Live a Perfect Life, part III. Steps 5-8 Out of 12, In the Right Order

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 17/11/2016

I started writing last month a new series of articles, out of which I am now publishing part 3 of 4. You may read part I here. and part II here.

 

5. Prioritize in working with the appropriate limits.

If you have a problem, put to practice the opposite (go to goal). If you have too little options, get creative. If you have too many, reduce them. If you get overwhelmed, get some distance. Find the cause and get a right tool to move on! Still, in stead of getting the appropriate internal and external resources, some people self-sabotage themselves in starting with the easiest or the toughest thing, mislabeling the importance or the urgency of some issues. Thus, they manage to overwhelm themselves and get stuck.This can be done with the positive intention of feeling good for accomplishing some work, but this intention can be better served by learning to chunk the learning and the changing work in appropriate milestones for each.

Rome wasn’t built in a day, healing can’t be done in a session, brilliance doesn’t come over night and genius doesn’t (usually) knock on your door. Learn to take what you have/want to do step by step, bit by bit and learn how to plan and evaluate what you’ve done by establishing training and development goals. This is the kind of inner work that will later bring great external results that show in time and last. Some people might notice your efforts. Most might not. But you are doing it for yourself. If you can’t manage in prioritizing, get at least 1-2 sessions from a consultant, coach or career counselor. It saves you at least 10 times the money you pay for it. The keys here are balance and comparing oneself with the own better version, not others. Different people have different limits and they shouldn’t be (too harshly) punished for it.

 

6. Express yourself through your talent(s) in the appropriate environment.

Let’s say you discovered your weak and strong points (like I’ve written here), you worked on some of the major issues and had some experiences working through homework, projects, trials and volunteering putting to practice what you’ve efficiently learned theoretically. This is the moment when you may choose whether you start working for non-profit, get hired, freelance, create a business as an entrepreneur or invest, and in what precisely.

It is appropriate in this stage to find the right place for yourself inside an existing system, that you will learn for a few years inside out. This is your road of taking the chance to become a specialist: the right person in the right place. If you want a job, you have to search for a right one, to prepare for it, to hunt it and to give it your best shot, in the best organization you possibly can.

Your chances can be highly influenced by what you accomplished in the previous steps and sometimes that doesn’t matter at all. What matters here is to get, besides the job content-related skills, also the labor market general skills (such as personal branding, time management, copywriting), the technological skills (software and hardware) and the right procedures to integrate your work with already functioning procedures, procedures, standards and criteria.

You have to accept you have limited control over a system you’re learning and that you have to go through all (or most) of it before trying to change it. First, you accept, then you can work with what you’ve got and make the best of it. If you are able to put first your long term goals even if it means being payed less, that might well be on your path to professional success and personal fulfillment. Even if you get started as a freelancer or an entrepreneur, you have to use the system you learned to get recognition, experience and the beginning in your success. Here you need mentoring, modeling, coaching, or consulting. Labor market skills specifically related training also can make a great difference.

This is the time to explore, express, drive and develop your own unconscious resources and structures in directions, fields, positions, roles through appreciated differentiation, testing and respecting boundaries between self and others. Allow yourself now to quest for abundance through scalability and strategically develop performance in competition with similar and special other individuals. Each person has talents. May each of them work best at what they wisely choose!

 

 

7. Get resources and make choices to increase your freedom

We are almost halfway on this road of personal and professional development and fulfillment. Right about now, many people stumble and try to compensate what they didn’t have earlier in life. This is a “perfect” time to make life-ruining decisions by getting into debt, choosing the wrong life partner, wasting time indulging in distractions, buying useless toys or spending more than you can make. Usually, the material success comes after years of trials and errors, hard work of making the best of your opportunities. In the beginning, it might not be as you expected, and you career might not be on the straight-up arrow you hoped (hallucinated). But the success is closer than you think.

If at this point you stay satisfied by earning a fixed income no matter how much you work and don’t save much, chances are you won’t ever break out of this financial vicious circle. Of course, one of the labor market related skills I was writing about in the previous points is financial intelligence (that is, if you haven’t learned it until college). Getting resources means making more than you spend, saving up or investing the difference, so that you have profit, not debt. Based on your choices, you can increase, maintain or decrease your freedom. In this step, increasing financial intelligence through personal study, consulting and training or even coaching definitely counts. This is an appropriate moment to get aware that you can’t do everything and delegate what you can afford and don’t know too well/like too much. You may also use this tool.

 

8. Let live and let go. Forgive yourself and others.

You’re not perfect. If you’ve gone through years of study and practice, it’s likely that you’ve had your failures and successes, hopefully more successes. But you have been confronting your limits, and you know each person has them. Now, after gearing yourself in the right field, the right place, the right tools, the right environment, forget about how you were affected by what didn’t work and keep just the good things and the knowledge from the previous failures, especially those which you might initially blame on others.

Now you are responsible for what happens in your life, meaning that you have the power to change. You can be a compassionate, level-headed adult. So forgive others who didn’t have your resources, your vision, your “map”. Now you do and you deserve to be a model. You know you are responsible to improve yourself, just like others are for themselves.

This might be a good moment, if you haven’t, until now, to cut some bad ties and to heal some old ones, given that it’s possible. You can’t change the past and you can’t change others. The others are responsible for themselves.You are responsible for yourself. Ask forgiveness from those you have wronged.

You may be free to decide who to become and where to go from now on. Learn to love the ones who have hurt you and separate their behavior from their identities once and for all. Your heart is full. They can’t hurt you anymore. If you have trouble with that, get some help from a psychotherapist or a very good NLP practitioner. If it helps you, write about your emotions. Express yourself authentically while becoming a better version of yourself. It’s also helpful to create a gratefulness list (to which people do you thank and why).

 

 

Your road continues from here. Read on next week!

PS: Thanks to Corina Andreea Popa for the practical suggestions and feed-back on this article before publishing.

Ștefan Alexandrescu

professional development consultant, trainer and coach

0040 729 034 883

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