Analytic Vision

The Timeline

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 13/10/2017

 

Motto:

« [The Romanian] is wasteful with time, more so than people from the West. Time is anything for the Romanian but a currency. At the fair, he haggles for hours for whatnots. The same goes for parties, he loses days and nights»; «It is said that [the Romanian] is undisciplined working in the economic field. When at the same time people from the West keep a regular rhythm, like clockwork, the Romanian people knows disorderly work, more like play.The Romanian does not work methodically, but in leaps; he has long periods of rest, and if needed he will work double tides and do slave work »

Constantin Rădulescu Motru (1998)

  

 

The history of the concept

The concept of the timeline was introduced even since Ancient Greece, and William James, one of the parents of modern psychology, has affirmed over a century ago that our perceptions of the events of our lives span over « a string of time ». Therefore, for thousands of years, it has been acknowledged that people had an own representation of time, in themselves. In other words, each person has its own way of representing, storing, and keeping time in their own body.

It was said, at the beginnings of developing the timeline, that, in general, Europeans tend to represent their timeline as passing through them, facing the future, living in the present and with the past behind them. This is classical In Time position.

Americans, on the other hand, represent the timeline in front of them, with the past on the left, the present in front of them and the future on the right. It is the classical Meta Time (Through Time) position.

This generalization was later retracted because people can have very different perceptions in different contexts (e.g. In Time relaxing during the weekend, but “very” Meta Time during business hours). All of the other positions derive from these two basic ones, with little variation. According to the way someone perceives it, the timeline it is split into two big categories: In Time and Meta Time.

Some specialists also consider Between Time and/or Across Time, arguing that they cannot be classified as subtypes of one of the above.

Before anything else, it is important to keep in mind that there are no “In Time people” and “Meta Time people”, even though these attitudes are easier to approach concerning an (apparently) dichotomous meta type. The timeline offers important clues as to how a client will think and react in the context for which the timeline was elicited. Throughout one’s life, this perception may change in relation to a lot of factors. People often present both characteristics in different contexts.

  

 

The perception of time in different cultures

For example, in Spain, Italy, Portugal, there is a predominantly In Time perception. There is, in extremes, that ”dolce far niente”, that can be found in Romanians as well. Romanians have a strong inclination towards In Time, even when it comes to projects. Planning is not one of our strong suits, as a people. All this considered, a very interesting phenomenon is happening in Romania right now, from a generational change standpoint. Muşătoiu (2006) shows, in an article that was awarded in the science and technology section of the Young Journalist of 2007 contest, organized by Freedom House and Edipresse AS, how the psychology of the personality is being influenced by technology in Romania and labels the Y generation as multitasking and technological par excellence.

People with a Meta Time perspective are by excellence business people. There is no way that a business freelancer will ever accomplish anything if he or she does not have a Meta Time perspective.

You will rarely find people in leadership positions with an In Time perspective, and they will not remain there for long. Any job that requires that ability to work with more than one schedule, to plan and do more than one thing at a time demands a Meta Time perspective.

Japan, USA, Germany, China offer examples of Meta Time cultures. It is the subjective opinion of the author of this article that it is highly likely that in certain countries before they went under American economic influence, there was a clear and dominant In Time perception 60-90 years ago. With the loans from the American funds, the population started not only to change their mentality towards a new value system, but also their perception of time, from In Time to Meta Time.

By Philmore1q2w3e4r (Own work) [CC BY-SA 3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

Example of complex representation of a timelime by Philmore1q2w3e4r (Own work) [CC BY-SA 3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

 

NLP and the certification system for the timeline

The timeline, though a self-standing domain, as an accredited form of psychotherapy, has been getting an extraordinary contribution from NLP through research, books, training and presentations for decades now. The timeline is a certification field recognized by the American Board of Psychotherapists. For this one needs forming and licensing, just like any other therapy field. Those that have this accreditation have the right to work as timeline psychotherapists if they have a previous qualification as a psychotherapist, or as HR consultants in organizations.

Some specialists prefer to take a certification offer that includes both neuro linguistic programming and timeline. Training lasts in total, an approximated cumulated 2 weeks and it includes 3 separate levels, after which the trainee gets the right to practice on an international level, and it is also recognized by the American Board of Psychotherapists.

This is a method to deepen the applicative field and in which the student needs to master the qualifications (s)he needs to train in light of his/her professional development:

• interpreting the personality according to the way the timeline is visualized;

• modifying the perception of the timeline;

• therapeutic interventions to resolve past trauma;

• planning the personal and professional future using the timeline;

• professional career counseling;

• personal and professional development and management;

• improvement of communication and planning skills.

Definitely useful for a career counselor.

  

 

References

Rădulescu Motru, Constantin (1998). Psihologia poporului român şi alte studii de psihologie socială, Bucureşti, Paideia, pages 24-25, acquired from http://www.scribd.com/doc/47379717/Psihologia-Poporului-Roman at 9.09.2017;

James, William (1890). Principles of Psychology: Volume I, Holt, New York, New York, USA, apud Howard, C. (2003) The NLP & Leadership Master Practitioner Audiotraining (Audio set), Manhattan Beach, California, USA;

Mitrică, Mihai; Nicolae, Crenguţa (26 iunie 2007) Încă un premiu, Business Magazin, acquired from http://www.businessmagazin.ro/actualitate/inca-un-premiu-2512903 at 9.09.2017;

Muşătoiu, Mihai (27 iunie 2006) Generaţia Multitasking, Business Magazin, acquired from http://www.businessmagazin.ro/cover-story/generatia-multitasking-1051639 at 9.09.2017;

Translation of the article ”Linia timpului” originally published in Romanian by Ștefan Alexandrescu at the 6th of August 2012 on Discerne. Translated by Ștefan Constantin Bădrăgan, 2017. Originally written in 2007. Updated by Ștefan Alexandrescu at 9.09.2017

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Stuart McBratney’s “Pop-Up” film reviewed by Ștefan Alexandrescu

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 23/09/2017

 

coproduction Australia-Romania, 2015

written and directed by Stuart McBratney

produced by Rebecca Abramovic

Seen at the Elvira Popescu / Institut Francais Cinema at the International Festival of Psychoanalysis and Film of December 2015. Vision date: Friday, December 11th, 2015.

The topic

“The film, a comedy with dramatic overtones, presents three stories that intertwine that of an unemployed father, a Romanian immigrant woman and a theater director seeking revenge on a critic.

The preview in Romania took place in the presence of the Australian director Stuart McBratney and the actress Laura Vasiliu. Andrea Sabbadini, the director of European Psychoanalytic Film Festival will comment this movie with the Director of Psychoanalysis International Film Festival, the film critic Irina Margareta Nistor. “(From the festival website: http://www.famart.ro/pop -up/)

Critical review

Seeing this independent movie, an Australia-Romania coproduction, creates some leapingly reactions. Either you marvel at the brilliance of a line, of a scene or the exposure of a psychological mechanism, or find yourself asking what are you doing in the cinema and why does the time hang so heavy.

This inequality comes from director’s oscillation itself, who, albeit creative, hasn’t got very clear in mind what he wanted to convey and, especially, what he managed to express. I was the fortunate spectator of a projection of which the author managed to clarify widely his intentions. But probably the vast majority of the viewers will not have this privilege – as happens with the vast majority of art movies.

Based on the principle “shoot at a pigeon and kill a cow”, the strength of the film doesn’t lie on the narrative technique (the crossing of some stories that incidentally converge to a narrative event that links the characters), because here things are really forced, appearing highly unlikely and cheap. The strength is the construction of the characters, due to which, the actors (very talented, as a matter of fact) really have what to play and the psychological mechanisms which the author stresses, really have the chance to emerge.

Of course, the sublimation of the emotions doesn’t represent a very interesting or obvious topic outside the psychologists’ area, but, somehow, to his credit, Stuart creatively manages to make it cinematographic. Therefore, we have an unqualified worker who defies his elevator phobia, a Romanian woman who faces her fear of rejection and a producer who struggles in order to get recognition. What the characters do on the screen with the emotions and the situations in which they find themselves is certainly exciting and also funny, here and there.

However, the direction in which each of these characters goes is not dramaturgical, is not dramatic and is not even credible. The starting point contains an unused potential. The author’s creativity works for the movie to a certain point. That point is when the structure should intervene. Pop-Up is a comedy that wants to be a drama or a drama that wants to be a comedy and manages to be neither one nor the other, so it remains a mediocrity.

Pop Up_02

Of course, it’s not wrong to make a movie about characters. As such, Pop-Up would stay in a place of honor in a psychological portraits gallery. But its tragedy is that it doesn’t aim to be a character movie, but a narrative one. And, as such, it fails.

The definition of drama is “how characters manage to triumph despite the toughest conditions.” The definition of comedy is “how do the characters fail despite the best conditions.” So the characters fail their initial intentions (Mick does not keep the job he chooses, Neil fails with his theater play, Rada fails in finding a boyfriend) in a quite comical manner.

However, they manage to triumph, despite the conditions rather limited and desperate, not as a result of their merits but as a result of a Deus Ex Machina event type: things simply arrange themselves on the good track. How cute! It ends like a fairy tale:

  • without characters taking responsibility for what happened in their life;
  • without negative consequences;
  • without making a much conscious effort.

In a similar way, Stuart McBratney’s film manages to make a zero-sum game, incidentally. It’s not a bad movie. But is not a good one either. And it doesn’s not say anything about reality but about how Stuart McBratney’s mind works. From whom I hope to see better.

Pop Up_01

My score: 5/10

Stefan Alexandrescu

Occasionally, film critic

Translation of the article ”Recenzia filmului românesc „Pop-Up” (2015)” by Ștefan Alexandrescu, initially published on Discerne at 21st of January 2016.  Copyright © Ştefan Alexandrescu 2016 for the Romanian original version. Translation by Alexandra Ioana Mateiciuc. Copyright © Alexandra Ioana Mateiciuc, 2016 for the English version of this article.

 

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How to Make a Scientific Comparison Between Men and Women in Terms of Intelligence and Stupidity

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 12/09/2017

Certain research tend to prove that men have a slight advantage regarding intelligence as compared to women, which increases with age

At the same time, when it comes to stupidity, men are absolute champions both in numbers and in intensity, as this research shows (here, here)

So, in order to draw an oversimplified and non-scientific conclusion, men have relative chances to eventually be more intelligent than women. However, they have good chances to be stupider than women.

Of course, in order to correctly test the observational hypothesis, according to which “women show their stupidity faster than men”, a study should be performed which would approximately have the following design:

– we run a stupidity-measuring psychometric questionnaire to a lot standing a good chance at providing a lot of stupid persons

– we run an interpersonal intelligence-measuring psychometric questionnaire to a lot having good chances at providing many persons with skills of fast knowing the other people – for instance therapists, coaches

– we choose an equal number of stupid people, both men and women

– we choose an equal number of intelligent people, both men and women

– we make the groups interact, as follows: each intelligent person shall evaluate in a sequence all stupid people, and shall establish their level of stupidity, and measure the required time until reaching this conclusion. In the end, for each stupid person, we shall calculate the mean value based on the reports of all intelligent persons.

– in the end, it shall be checked whether women have shown their stupidity faster, and all sorts of other interesting things.

Of course, it would also be required for all participants to also be measured in terms of other psychometric traits, which could influence the study: size of the information (general, details), level of energy (proactive, reactive), speed of reasoning, which can influence the speed of the answers.

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Film culture

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 24/08/2017

 

Who doesn’t like movies? I have only met 2 people in my whole life which claimed that they didn’t like movies and even them have certainly enjoyed some films.

As with any kind of art, in order to experience it, you must first understand its specific language. There is a certain grammar to making sense of visual images that is being commonly used in films in order to make sense of it all. The grammar might be obvious, but is actually very subtle and we only become aware of it when a rule is broken, in the same manner we become aware of a mistake in somebody’s verbal expression when breaking a grammar rule.

A film culture signifies two different things:

  • watching and deeply understanding a certain large part of what is commonly accepted as movies which made it into film history, have been awarded, acclaimed and stood the test of time

  • the ability to discern the quality of a work without having any context or reference for its understanding

They are interdependent, but can also be independent. Thus, with a proper guide and list, someone can easily go through a list of n “best movies of all times” and learn by reading and assimilating what was already interpreted and expressed about those movies. In the same time, someone can learn to discern the value of a film by watching movies about which (s)he does not read or know anything and trying to discover the meaning, the symbols, the signification by sheer intellectual effort based on the skills of the spectator.

The best way is to do both of them, with precaution. Which are some of the precautions that must be considered when creating an authentic film culture?

  1. Watching must be combined with reading about the respective films, at a certain point, either before or after the viewing. Each viewer should use his or her own capacity of making sense of the spectacle, then compare it to what the analyzers, critics, reviewers and historians have written. Thus, a critical argumentation may start to develop, that would allow the film fan to support his or her views.

  2. The importance of critic must not be underestimated and must not be overestimated. Critics are people who usually have a film culture and make solid arguments by knowing and arguing for what they believe, so they deserve to be read. In the same time, some films don’t get the attention of enough well-prepared critics and can have many negative reviews, which aren’t well (or at all argumented). Critics can be influenced by political context, currents of opinion and own prejudice, not to get into the details that they might change their mind in time.

  3. The fact that one hasn’t understood anything from a movie does not automatically qualify the movie as “bad” or of “low quality”. Such a verdict, without sufficient culture, can in exchange qualify the viewer as a snob ignorant. Therefore, some people, being afraid of not being able to argue their own opinions or being afraid of being judged, never dare to express their negative opinions of films, especially in public.

  4. For understanding certain authors or certain film cultures, or film currents, one must have seen other representative similar work within that vicinity, especially when considering authors which are very cryptic or film literates (such as Andrei Tarkovsky, François Truffaut, Eric Rohmer, Steven Spielberg, Martin Scorsese, Quentin Tarantino). Not being able to understand the work of such authors is normal even for a film literate who starts to “cut his teeth” with such work. Multiple viewings and readings may be required. 

  5. There are currently two large production and distribution systems for national cinematographic industries: Hollywood (USA) and Bollywood (India). Still, films produced and distributed from the European Union make their emphasis, as do Asian films. Therefore, to really have a film culture, one must have a universal, international culture, from all spaces and all times. There can’t be “too independent” or “too foreign” or “too old” films.

  6. No matter how hard one tries, one cannot see in a lifetime all the movies which are well worth from the history, especially considering each year more movies are being produced than the year before and it’s impossible to even to keep the pace with what’s new and interesting, not to mention the classics that in some cases can even be viewed for free on the internet. Therefore, it makes sense to reduce the number of “bad” movies and increase the possibilities of watching better movies. If someone only watches commercial films and gets used to it as a normality, that person will not be able to appreciate the values of a good quality film. Watching better films (such as masterpieces, classics) makes the bad quality movies obvious like the darkness disappears with the light.

  7. The quality of a film must be judged taking into consideration the genre or genres it can be framed into. Understanding genres and differences between them is key in judging it as a value in itself. By watching the classics of the genre (for example, “The Godfather” for crime, “Gone With the Wind” for love story and “The Maltese Falcon” for film noir), you can have a frame of reference in judging an individual work. Sensible comparison of films is allowed on basis of genres, authors, currents, story line and format. Foolish comparison between films happens when someone considers “a drama is better than a music-hall” or “a thriller is better than a horror”.

  8. The quality of a film must not be confounded with the emotions it depicts or instills. For example, some women might dislike horrors because they get scared, but that doesn’t mean the movie has a low quality. A historical drama may instill sadness, as a war movie may instill rage, but calling the movie “ugly” doesn’t make it bad. For example, some people (especially Italians) have the idea of judging the quality of a movie as being “beautiful” vs “ugly”, in terms of the content, not of the quality of the representation. Considering this, it is important to remember that art doesn’t necessarily have to cover beauty. Art can be used to represent truth and truth isn’t always beautiful or pleasant to look at.

  9. There is a difference between film tastes and film opinions. For example, some people might have a taste for a certain film culture, or genre, or author and they will be likely to consider some work more interesting and valuable on that criteria. A film opinion, on the other hand, must always be an educated film opinion of a person owning a film culture. “De gustibus et coloribus non disputandum” can’t be sensibly used as a pretext to avoid contradiction when talking about a specific film.

  10. The informative value of a film must not be mistaken for its artistic value. For example, a docudrama may be a very interesting factual reconstruction of a historical era, and a very boring movie. In the same way, a very exciting history film may be an utterly wrongful mystification of actual truth. One must remember that film served and continues to serve as means of propaganda, brainwashing and one must consider the value of the representation, not the value of the content. Often (and even more in the last years in film festivals), films are judged exclusively by their daring content and not by the inner artistic value of the depiction.

Which are the advantages of gaining a film culture?

Films offer you the possibilities of voyaging in places and times you haven’t been before. They explain to you how some systems work in order for you to better understand the reality. Films offer you the experience of a spectacle, with emotions which you wouldn’t otherwise feel. Films offer you the possibility to learn from the lives of others, real or imaginary people, to find models which are inaccessible directly. Movies also convey powerful, beautiful, abstract messages using audiovisual means of expression that may inspire you, move you, change you. Understanding some movies can also prevent you from being manipulated by propaganda, commercial work. This experience can run as a bridge between you and people who work in art and extend your perception of the conceptual, immaterial world: what lies beyond words, facts and objective reality. In the movie world, one can find the inspiration and the models (s)he could not get in the real world and use them as a stepping stone to success.

What are the consequences of choosing films whimsically, remaining ignorant towards this form of art? Here are some of the common consequences of not truly developing a film culture. These are not life threatening, but they make for a lesser thrive.

Ignorance in appreciating movies can be manifested:

by overly enthusiastically appreciating what most rightfully consider rubbish

by over criticism of work which isn’t understood

by the inability to give an honest impression based on arguments after viewing a film

by the lack of ability or will to follow the narrative story of a movie, forgetting anything in a short time after watching it

by watching movies as a mere entertainment, thus discarding their artistic potential, without thinking of considering it

by watching only films from a certain culture, period of time, genre, author and discounting other possibilities

by adopting the ideas of the majority without thinking for oneself

by saying a general or vague thing about a movie when asked for an honest, in-depth opinion

by overly criticising the author for not doing the movie the way you wanted it him to (it’s his movie, not yours)

through judging the quality of the movie by its content, its genre or the way one may feel when watching the film

by avoiding to see new movies being scared of not being as good as those you already know

by criticising the authors of a movie for not doing a good enough adaptation (original literature will in most cases be better than movie depictions)

by being overly attached to or opposed to the value of a movie being “old”. Time creates strange effects for different people: some exaggerate the “timeless perspective” creating a positive aura around a film that didn’t exist when it was released or by unjustifiably comparing it to the modern means.

Psychologists came tot he conclusion that some films are well worth watching because of the discussions they generate for people around day to day topics: what are the views, the perspectives, the considerations of a certain person on the topic of how a certain character behaved? This way, movies can be used as a factor for connection, encouraging debate and knowledge.

How do you relate to movies? Do you have a film culture? How much time do you allocate reading about films before seeing them or after seeing them? How much do you talk about your conclusions about those movies with other people?

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In Which Mirror Do You Prefer to Look?

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 11/08/2017

The Mirror of the Bible

To look in the mirror in a spiritual way is to live according to the Holy Scripture. The true esssence of listening to fragments of the Holy Scripture during the holy liturgy is to carry those to others. There are two ways of doing that. The first is to tell your friends what you learned, what was taught at the Church. This is called “the liturgy after the liturgy”. The other, more powerful way of carrying to others the message is to live by it, practice what is being taught.

First, about talking to others. How do your friends plan their meeting with Christ? This is a simple yet powerful question. Indeed, how do they do that? If they weren’t present at the liturgy, how do they practice what was taught? What stops them, if anything? How can they get counsciousness, if they choose so, of the options and the benefits of meeting Christ in the Church or through their deeds, following on the footsteps that lay on their path to redemption? How many friends do you have that bring you to Christ?

I do not preach to only have Christian friends. There is something to be learned from each person. Openness can be welcomed, in my opinion, as long as it doesn’t require accepting the relativism of truth. Such relativism is the claim that all or most spiritual or religious beliefs are correct, or that there are even are more which are correct. Relativism is in itself a religious frame. Keeping each person’s beliefs is something which can be done with firmness and gentleness, while sometimes exploring how do they apply to a particular life situation. I don’t believe the Bible teaches what our attitude should be about modifying the weather or genetically modified organisms in the food. But discussing about such topics keeping the balance of discernement in mind helps us explore the roots of each idea. Therefore, talking to people with different, even opposite beliefs shouldn’t be so scary. If you really believe what you believe, then you believe it enough that you may allow yourself to doubt it, still keeping enough arguments to return to your spiritual center.

Considering that one knows everything right even in the Orthodox Christianity is a dangerous temptation, therefore, one should keep an open mind, not to change the rightful faith beliefs, but to extend them in ways that make sense today, in this world, without posing a threat to the Christian tradition.

For example, if you share an idea through your behavior, an explanation or an answer and another person rejects it, you could feel ashamed. Either of what you said or of the fact that you wrongfully hoped the other person would cherish your idea. If you feel shame because of what you said, the case is that you didn’t really believe it so much (and you cherished your image more) and in the latter case it is discounting the reality that each of us is entitled to own beliefs, including rejecting other beliefs.

This is what freedom of expression means: that you allow and accept, and even fight for the right of another person saying something you don’t agree to. In their essence, both totalitarisms (such as communism, fascism) and political correctness (cultural marxism) admit no opposition and no middleground. Totalitarisms use propaganda and mass control and political corectness uses public relations, lobby and public policies. In essence, in a true democracy nobody should feel ashamed of saying what one thinks and believes out of fright of negative repercussions.

 

The Mirror of the Idols

What is the alternative to looking in the mirror by living your life according to Holy Scripture? It is looking at what you think you can become without God. You become the idols you serve.

For example, if you serve wrath, you become wrath. In its extreme, hateful wrath makes anyone so insignificant until it all becomes a dot, a target to fire at. Wrath can be alternatively directed at a behavior, if emotional intelligence is used. For example, a parent may tell to a child: “I love you, therefore I am angry at your wrong ways”, and by that a negative emotion can be used in such a manner that it doesn’t become an idol.

If you serve pride, you become pride. For example, if you congratulate someone because you want to be congratulated yourself or want some attention, you have not only taken that person’s right to be redempted by rewarding that person in the now (rather than the eternity), but you have also become the exponent of pride. The idol is what gets ahead of you. If a parent emotionally supports a child to do something positive, then it is not pride which is fed (unless the parent actually is proud of himself), but the child’s self-esteem and motivation for learning and repeating a useful behavior.

If you serve lust, then everything you might have gathered in life through planning and discipline is put at the altar of whmisical desires to be sacrificed. Lust is an enemy to wisdom and the clouding of the mind – not only in the sexual form. Within lust, one may become the most urgent urge that emobodies the indisciplined and uncontrolled human being.

If you serve greed, then your identity becomes attached to the things you posess and/or aspire to posess: your value becomes what you are worth in the eyes of others and what you see in the mirror when you look at what you use to cover yourself with.

If you serve gluttony, your body will likely take the shape that you give it by serving this god. Both greed and gluttony may embody the desire, the aspiration to have the own physical needs met, believing that if one doesn’t do that, nothing and nobody will, when in fact only serving others through our talents can truly establish a balance. Of course, one must know how to choose who to serve.

If you serve sloth, then abandoning reponsabilities and gifts is a spiritual suicide, giving up to pessimism and negativism, depression and despair. For example, taking a calculated break after hard work is something which can bring balance, but you cannot counteract an exaggeration, an extreme, with another extreme. Two wrongs d’t make a right.

If you serve envy, then you feel a certain inferiority which tells you whatever another one has that you value must be used to bring him or her down, instead of using admiration as a force to take learnings from a model.

Which Do You Choose?

There you have, in a nutshell, the two possible mirrors between which you life pendulates. When you stop and look, what do you see?

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10 Useful Skills That Will Make You A Better Entrepreneur

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 31/07/2017

 

Working as a consultant for entrepreneurs is exciting and stressful in the same time. I know, because I’ve done it for years. So I decided to share some of my observations that might come as very useful for entrepreneurs and not only.

Not having these skills will not ruin you, but it would certainly slow you down. This is not an exhaustive list, just a “top of my mind” approach that I think would be very precious especially for those in the beginning of the road that make the leap from freelancing to entrepreneurship.

  1. Creating rules based on your principles. Any company is similar to the entrepreneur which creates it. In the beginning, especially if you don’t have a lot of employees, it will be easy to express how other people should behave, act or think concerning your business in order to respect what you want to create. Principles are like a lighthouse in the dark and in the night. In the beginning, they might be clear and easy. But the best way to share them is to express them as laying foundations for the rules: not too many, not too few, but clear for everybody. Once set, everyone must respect them. You must respect them the best. In the same time, it is important to train this skill, because your principles evolve and so do you.

  2. Express gratitude. Train yourself to use any anniversary, any opportunity in order to thank people which have made a contribution. Thank your clients after buying from you. Thank your collaborators for doing a good work. Thank your employees for reaching the goals. Thank your partners for supporting you. If you believe in God, keep this in mind: do not wish for God to give you how much you can take! You can take and have as much as you want as a burden in this life. Whatever you want, God can give you. But, in order to keep it, you must remember to be satisfied with less and with more, to take any success as a gift from God and not as a merit. The gratitude is a key skill for an entrepreneur.

  3. Recognize the teachable people. There are no real incompetents, only people who don’t manifest or have lost the capacity to learn. Therefore, choose wisely to work with only those people who can be taught. Do not hope that giving chances to seemingly talented people will make them fly and become stars. Most oftenly, the people you like the most are not those which necesarrily perform the best. Welcome the people who you choose to improve their careeer working with you!

  4. Train yourself to make distinctions between options, possibilities, opportunities and probabilities. All might sound similar, but they are very different. Anything is possible until you have to chose options. Those options must be at least probable. Between the options which are probable, you have to prioritize your opportunities and decide wether you want to choose them or create them. But remember, whatever you do, your options must not only be possible, but probable also! Many young professionals start their entrepreneurship career doing business plans like they did during faculty, but fail miserably. Know your territory and act upon that knowledge!

  5. Constantly develop yourself. What happens when the one thing that you are able to do for your clients is the thing that stops you the most from developing yourself? The competition will likely take over in a matter of time. You need to constantly be a source for re-invention. Working for your own development should not be in a competition with working for your customers or with your employees. Time for yourself to develop is also needed in order to enhance your business.

  6. How much do you allow yourself and others to act authentic in a relationship? Find and recognize the other people’s values, beliefs and convictions. Beliefs are convictions we believe to be true. Attitudes are collections of beliefs and values around a certain topic. There isn’t such a things as a “non-value” or “anti-value”, there are only different beliefs, values and attitudes. Erach person is motivated by different scopes and if you learn to discover those asking specific questions (such as some from LAB profile), it is worth to use them and to link them with each of the important actions that need to be taken for your business plans to work. Values lead to motivation. Motivation leads to vision. Vision leads to strategy. Why? Because where there’s a will, there’s a way. If the strategy does not take into consideration the values of the employees, it will be a difficult to implement strategy.

  7. Use the faults of the employees in the favor of the teams. Knowing that a certain person has a low performance in a certain area means that you know not to delegate to that person something (s)he might do which is wrong. Creating teams taking into consideration both their strong points and their weak points is a service that you can do creating the kind of complementarity that the collaborators could and should appreciate.

  8. Constantly shape in your mind the model of the best entrepreneur that you can be. How does that feel? What does this model do? How do you see him or her? Remember, it’s a model, it’s not Superman, it doesn’t have to be perfect. Practice in your mind what you would do in different types of situations: with your employees, with the clients, with the partners. Put yourself in the shoes of people who need to make difficult decisions. What’s worth doing to become such an entrepreneur? What is it important to giv up in order to become this model?

  9. How do you manage to diplomatically tell the truth and be convincing without lying? Practice rethorics and argumentation. What’s worth doing in oder to prove that you are right? Sometimes, it’s not enough top be right. It also depends how you say it. Having different reframing strategies in order to make each person think in his/her way is required, because not everybody will be convinced by the same arguments. In business, it doesn’t matter so much who is right, it matters what makes things profitable. Also, please keep in mynd, what others perceive as a message matters, not what we intend to transmit.

  10. Serve your clients, for their own good, don’t please them. Politicians, coaches and psychologists may oftenly be “punished” for actually serving those who chose them. Pleasing the clients is something which others can do very easily, but it takes some courage to educate your clients to recognize their own deep needs and to be glad they are actually served by what you are offering.

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What is Schema Dynamics Programming

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 06/07/2017

 

The terminology

“Schema” comes from schema therapy and refers to the maladaptive schemas taxonomy developed by Jeffrey Young, Ph.D. and his collaborators since the ’80s. It is the problem-oriented component of the field, using psychometric questionnaires developed and tested by scientists to evaluate which are the schemas and modes which pathologically influence the emotions, the thoughts, the behavior and the language of the people. Schemas are triggered by traumas, most likely from childhood and, through complications, when activated, may generate discomfort, stress, challenge, failure and ultimately, psychiatric illness.

Dynamics” comes from “Spiral Dynamics”, a field founded in the ’70s by Clare Graves, Ph.D., and it refers to the multiple values levels layered in the personality, which may be changing in time. It is the results-driven component of the field, using advanced psychometric testing developed by professional researchers in order to discover which type of potential and perspective is enabled in order to support the transformational development of the individuals and societies.

Programming” comes from “Neuro-Linguistic Programming” (NLP), the field developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder, Ph.D. starting in the ’70s, centered on using complex practical processes in order to provide with models of excellence. Although sometimes presented as a pseudoscience, some fields of NLP, such as metaprograms and values have been psychometrically tested as scientifically valid models of correctly structuring the language, behavior and personality.

ST (schema therapy) and NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) have both common roots in Gestalt therapy.

In some NLP Master Practitioner training, the Spiral Dynamics model is studied.

 

Positioning

What are the characteristics of Schema Dynamics Programming? How is SDP different from:

  • Psychotherapy?

  • NLP (neuro-linguistic programming)?

  • Spiral Dynamics?

  • ST (schema therapy)?

  • Coaching?

SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) provides the client with a flexible set of processes for personal transformation. This enables the functions of both psychotherapy and coaching: it works both for the traumas in the past and the goals in the future.

SDP provides a directed structure. The schema dynamic programmer knows how to recognize and measure the results of the changes when dealing with personal issues, professional goals, past, present and future. The structure is directed in the sense that the schema dynamic programmer uses both descriptive complex maps and tools to knows where the client is, knows where (s)he wants to go and, after considering the available options (tools, processes, techniques), chooses one or several procedures to follow and monitor.

To merely give an example, as a difference to coaching, the schema dynamic programmer may offer his/her opinion, contradict the client and give advice if necessary. The schema dynamic programmer is focused on practical exercises and homework which require a solid amount of effort (emotional, and even physical and logistic) from the client. This work is both oriented to the past and the future and it does not accept the personality of the client as a given, but as a starting point in the work done, which is a mere effect of life experiences and environment and may be subject to change.

Using this strategic approach, with the appropriate approach, issues such as introversion, panic attacks, PTSD, psychosomatization, phobias, alixitimy, allergies, emotional stress response, abandonment, mistrust, emotional deprivation, entitlement, abandonment and others (to name just a few) can be completely and ultimately removed and replaced with functional systems within the subconscious and the conscious.

As a set of tools oriented towards professional growth, SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) can provide clients with life-changing experiences which enable them to advance in the Spiral Dynamics model within months (in stead of years) and achieve professional and personal benefits such as:

  • job and career change and performance;

  • happy marriages;

  • increased revenues;

  • status change.

SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) focuses, as ST (schema therapy) does as well, on both emotional and cognitive-rational aspects of the change, but where ST (schema therapy) insists on working with modes (especially considering the psychiatric interventions), SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) insists on working with metaprograms. Where ST (schema therapy) insists on working with imagery, SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) has its own, much more effective and advanced process, designed by its founder. Such processes are similar to several NLP techniques but different from all of them, and it does not necessarily involve trance/hypnosis. NLP is also more focused on fast solving of the surface issues, which may work in alleviating effects but not always causes. For example, a metaprogram change can be successful for a healthy adult, but may be undone if at the root of the metaprogram change there is a maladaptive schema caused by an abusive trauma from the past.

Where ST (schema therapy) insists on analysis, SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) insists on homework and delegating as much of the change work to the client, once (s)he earns the skills and learns the processes a model for personal change. While psychotherapy generally insists on the necessity of the process being administered by a state-approved specialist, the SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) processes can be easy, independently learned and applied by each client, provided (s)he has the appropriate personality and skills inclinations. In this sense, SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) is nearer to coaching. While the client is encouraged to use for the self some of the processes, (s)he is not encouraged to become a schema dynamic programmer with other people without proper supervision.

Spiral Dynamics offers a deep conceptual framework which many of the psychologists and psychiatrists are not aware of and not even most of the coaches. On this foundation, an important SDP premise is that almost any NLP-type process can be run, focusing on developing skills and attitudes, once the maladaptive schemas have started to change in intensity. Thus, Spiral Dynamics offers not only a strategic measuring tool, but also a chart, a map of transformations, a clear direction of development once the client is freed from many of the startling issues and also some tools, for most advanced knowledge.

 

A unified theory of personality psychology

For several decades, clinical psychology and organizational or positive psychology have insisted on different aspects of the human psyche:

  • interpreting the past (retrospection) vs predicting the future (prospection);

  • problems vs. goals;

  • why vs. how;

  • reflective analysis vs. active experience (exercise);

  • addictions vs virtues;

  • learning vs. growing;

  • abstract vs. concrete;

  • personal vs. professional;

  • body vs. mind;

  • solving vs. developing;

  • issues vs. potential;

  • negative vs. positive;

  • mistakes vs. performance;

  • comprehension vs. action;

  • reparation vs. fine-tuning performance;

  • emotions vs. reason;

  • awareness for insight vs. awareness for decision/action;

  • static vs. dynamic; 

  • treating vs training;

  • obstacles vs resources’

  • linear thinking (Aristotelian) vs. systemic thinking (non-Aristotelian);

  • diffusiveness vs. focus;

  • deliberate slowness vs. witty quickness;

  • cautious desurgency vs. exuberant surgency;

  • relationship vs. task;

  • pain vs. excitement;

  • long term vs. medium/short term;

  • acceptance vs. change;

  • diagnosis vs. enhancement;

  • tense strictness vs. moderate willingness;

  • guiding vs. directing;

  • assessment vs. evaluation;

  • teaching vs. knowing;

  • floating vs. flying

and so on.

 

Differentiating for the future

SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) is not the only mixed approach available. It may even not be the best. But it works, and it will be tested of how well it works in comparison to any of the separate components to which it is compared.

SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) is being developed by Ștefan Alexandrescu as a groundbreaking new field with its own applications and is NOT in direct competition with ST (schema therapy), Spiral Dynamics and NLP. It is important that this field would support the development and most especially, the research of these 3 original fields, on which it is grounded. It is not intended as a substitute, but as an alternative, as an enhancer, as a continuation, as it is different from all of the above mentioned.

However, SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) does clearly enter in competition with:

  • regular psychotherapy

  • coaching

Regular psychotherapists and coaches which lack skills and knowledge in all of these three fields are not accredited, nor advised, nor recommended to clients. As SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) is a practical field, the researchers are challenged to devise experimental tests and projects to compare the effectiveness of SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) with either regular psychotherapy and coaching. SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) is simply different and superior, through techniques, skills and results to regular psychotherapy and coaching. This is not a marketing statement, it is simply a reflection of the reality, based on the obtained. And it’s getting better and better, steady and slowly.

People who are interested in learning these skills are advised to contact Ștefan Alexandrescu directly.

The theoretical component of Schema Dynamics Programming also integrates models from transactional analysis, positive psychology, multiple intelligences, motivational psychology and from landmark specialists such as Jeffrey Young, Clare Graves, Abraham Maslow, Robert Dilts, Anthony Robbins, David McClelland, W. Gerrod Parrot, Robert Plutchick, Brian Tracy (correlating research to be determined) and could be correlated in the future with several other theories. You may download here a synthesis pdf.

Copyright © Ștefan Alexandrescu, 2017. None of the contents of this page can be reproduced without the written express consent of Ștefan Alexandrescu. No exceptions allowed.

If you liked this article, please also read this:

Schema Dynamics Programming with Stefan Alexandrescu (25.12.2016)

How to Live a Perfect Life. Part I. (31.10.2017)

How to Live a Perfect Life, part II. The First 4 Out of 12 Steps, In the Right Order (13.11.2016)

How to Live a Perfect Life, part III. Steps 5-8 Out of 12, In the Right Order (17.11.2016)

How to Live a Perfect Life, Last Part. Steps 9-12 Out of 12, In the Right Order (21.11.2016)

PS: Thanks to Diana Andreea Bădrăgan.

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Some differences between working hard and working SMART

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 27/06/2017

What is the difference between efficiency and effectiveness?

Efficiency is putting the ladder on the wall and climbing it down the other side of the wall as fast as possible. Effectiveness is knowing on which wall to put the ladder.

Some people learn in life, either by experience or modeling, to cherish the hard work. While this is important and certainly correlated with positive outcomes, it’s certainly not the most important.

Some people hear “strategy” and understand “procedure” or “technique”, hear “planning” and hear “lack of liberty” because some of the most relevant representations of these have been expressed in an extreme way.

Some people consider experience as a relevant source of learning. Hard work, trying and failing, persevering on one’s own path is currently mantra for many. Still, it is, for other people the poorest form of learning.

So if running after some unrelenting standards must be a very precious value in order to ensure quality, it seems weird that some of those who promote them (despite the qualities and advantages it defers to consumers of their products and services) are so tired, bored, unnerved and tense. Something doesn’t quite add up.

There is no need for conflict. Things can be done fast and best. You may learn through modeling more effective than through experience – if you have the right models (finding them requires skill). You may plan and enjoy your life. You may strategize and find opportunities that allow you creatively move in freedom. You may work enough and intelligently. Providing best quality can be a rewarding experience during the process. Want to know how to get there? Here it is some advice I find useful.

  1. Ask yourself every day or as often as possible: what little change, added to the baseline of my performance, can make an outstanding difference?
  2. What other perspective can this be seen from?
  3. How are others succeeding and why? What can be replicated?
  4. What is the proper structure for getting the results envisioned?
  5. How will this be mostly done in 5 years?
  6. Who has the proper experience, results and motivation to take in consideration as a model?
  7. How do you see yourself from the outside when having the goal completed? Backtrack from that moment: what will you be doing a week earlier, a month earlier?
  8. How is seeing the bigger picture helping you with deciding differently?
  9. How is this working plan helping you today with the perfect plan you mean to do tomorrow?
  10. How does changing the people you work with/for support you in making a bigger impact with fewer efforts?
  11. What other useful, important things might you be doing with your efforts if you’d have more time?
  12. How could the people you are working with/for make your work/life easier?
  13. What other people could you choose to work with/for and how could you find them?
  14. What other goals might be more worthy of your efforts?
  15. How would changing the challenges you confront support you to develop yourself?
  16. Who wold get an award for doing what you are already doing?
  17. What would make you able to choose better?
  18. In what context is the kind of hard work you do more appreciated or featured?
  19. Who would benefit the most from your efforts?
  20. Who would care more about your deeper intentions?
  21. How could you reinvent your work?

How do you think about your efforts now? Do they seem more intelligent? Now, that you will be able to do smarter work, you may choose if and in which directions you prefer to work hard.

What does SMART mean in goal management?

Specific

Measurable

Achievable

Realistic

Time-limited

For example take in consideration such a table that can be used in order to detail and support any goal formulation, to make sure it can be measured in tasks, time and units, therefore making it achievable in a realistic timeframe set.

How could I improve this goal, working smarter and less, using just some of the questions I recommended?

  • I could use an application which would correct my errors as I type (such as https://www.grammarly.com/)
  • I could record my voice reading the content of an article and delegate to someone to transcribe it.
  • I could delegate the translation into English from Romanian of several articles I already wrote
  • I could write useful copy to promote my services as posts which would also make interesting reading
  • I could write useful articles for my clients
  • Make a plan of how many clients do I want to gain using my articles on this blog
  • Use the time saved to serve existing customers and develop strategies to find new ones

 

SMART goal

Motivation

Tasks

Time-limited

What?

Why?

What specifically?

How much? (for each article)

Publish 2 posts/month on Analytic Vision, monthly, covering by 2018 all the subjects in the Excel file (24 posts/year)

 

Contribution

Support

Professionalism

Enjoyment

1. update excel ideas file 1. 5 mins
2. design structure 2. 5 mins
3. create content 3. 20-90 mins
4. check content 4. 10-20 mins
5. publish content 5. 10 mins
6. share content 6. 2 mins

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Ten myths about financial independence and the truth that will set you free. Part II.

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 04/06/2017

I started here last month an article about myths some people are considering while exploring the alternative ways of thinking. I continue today with 5 more myths.

6. Selling is something that everybody hates

The truth is that if you want to earn the respect of others, then you must work in sales. It is not because it’s a job that “everybody hates” therefore it’s challenging, but it’s because it’s a job that if you do well, can earn you a lot of respect. If you don’t do it well, then you should be ashamed of yourself. People hate bad salesmen. In one way or another, everybody works in sales. Therefore, it is mainly important for you to generate the kind of expectations and the kind of image that some other people might like to think of.

So, for example, if a salesman provides for his family, then he might be accepted in the community as a pillar, but if a salesman is ashamed of what his is doing, is not good at it, and does not provide the resources that are expected from a salesman, then he is covered in shame.

Therefore, most salesmen are not good salesmen. It is only because there is not enough place for all the salesmen on all the markets. Therefore you must be a good salesman and good salesmen are respected. So, if you want to earn the respect of others, stop considering salesmen as a past and start working in sales.

 

7. In order to make money you have to show you have money

I will tell you another perspective. It doesn’t matter how expensive you dress yourself, if you sell yourself short. That means your attitude matters more than what you look like.

So, it is very important for you to consider that people first watch your non verbal communication and then what you are saying. I will give you a practical example. In a busy day, I got out of the house without looking in the mirror. I haven’t noticed how I looked like. That day I made some sales. There were some unexpected sales, because, there were two people that I just met that day. Coming back home, looking into the mirror, I noticed that I looked terrible. And I thought myself: “Oh my God, I have made some sales looking like that! This is impressive! It’s amazing!”

But then I became aware of the fact that those people bought from me not because of my looks but because of my attitude. So, it doesn’t really matter how well you dress. Of course, if you are selling to directors from a company it is important to be well dressed. You don’t have to be perfectly dressed, you don’t have to be dressed from Gucci, but you have to make sure that at least you get the chance of getting an entrance.

So, it might be even more important that you think to dress in clothes, that are, let’s say, white or open-colored, than the quality of the brand that you are using for your clothing.

So, I make here, also, another point, each kind of expense must be considered at least as a tryout to make an investment. Therefore, in example, if you need to impress a client, it’s better to rent a BMW than to have a BMW that you pay for every day.

So, I do not want to minimize the importance of getting through some obstacles in perceiving image. I’m merely suggesting it is more important to have an appropriate attitude.

 

8. Always do things with strategy

It might come as a surprise that although strategy is important, it is not the most important thing.

In order to conceive an appropriate strategy, you must, first, have an appropriate system, and most people do not think about this. Yes, it’s important to have a strategy for launching a new product, a new line, an invention, something which people have never heard of, but these things are very risky. Usually most business strategies are bases on decisions which have been made in a similar mode with other similar products. So people notice what is the pattern that leads to success and how to reproduce it.

Therefore, in order to have and apply an appropriate strategy, you first have to have a functional system that will be something that works and needs to be optimized. So this is the difference between doing basic merchandising, what is called in Romanian ”bi?ni?ă” and doing business.

So first, you need to have a customer that is available to pay you money for your product, then you have a business. It’s not the other way around, although, it is recommended for administrative and legislative means to do so.

 

9. It’s important to contribute and to offer charity

It is, of course, important, to make sure that you leave something behind you, to make donations, and keep your generosity gates open. In the same time, it is more important to make intelligent charity. That is, to know who to give money to, why, when and for what. So you do not look like somebody who is just throwing away money, in order to buy other people’s attention, consideration, and respect.

Therefore you need to have some standard and some strategies of evaluating whether the people or the organization which are receiving your money are well documented and are worthy of your money. Giving away money without looking is not charity, it is mere stupidity.

Therefore you need to have questions that you must put to those people that you are giving you money to, and if they don’t give the satisfactory answers, then they don’t receive and they don’t deserve you money.

 

10. If I don’t work, I don’t have money, therefore, I don’t read

When you don’t have money, buy time through what you are doing when you don’t have money. So, most people tend to worry and think about the periods when they are unemployed or the periods when they are not working as periods when they don’t make money, therefore they afford to waste time. This is very true for some categories of people. It is true for (fool) people, it is true for some employees, it is true for freelancers, for the most of them, at least.

The truth is making money shouldn’t be connected with the work you are doing directly. Making money should be a symbolic result, a simple effect of what you are doing already best. Therefore, reading and personal development, generally, is one of the best investments that you can do while you are not working, or especially when you are not making money. Why? Because you can never know how exactly what you are reading as personal/professional development or a specialty book might do for you in terms of making money. Therefore, that is the most important period when you should invest in yourself: when you don’t have the opportunity to work and/or to make money. This is what will make the difference between when you are down and when you have success.

 

These have been just some of my personal considerations about financial independence and what some think. I have been reading books and research, I have been listening to audio programs for the last 13 years and I have never found in one resource all that you have available in this article. Therefore, please take into consideration the fact that you need to take all this and verify it in you own experience.

Please come with your own experience and your own suggestions by commenting to this article.

Thank you.

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Ten myths about financial independence and the truth that will set you free. Part I.

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 24/05/2017

 

Today it is important to consider several things which some people, especially Romanians, might tend to think, concerning the way they should think and act about money. These have been observed based on my own experience and different lectures, studies and books that I have read concerning how to manage finances.

 

1. It’s good to have some money aside

There is the tendency to think that there is a stash of money that you need to have in some place, generally, proverbially thinking about different directions that those money might take.

Supposedly you fall sick, supposedly you decide to open up a business, supposedly you get fired, supposedly you need to have some securities aside for your old age. But the truth is you need to have several accounts, separately, and you need to have money for all of these directions and then some more. Therefore, the money for rainy days are not money for retirement. The money for retirement are not money for accidents. The money for accidents are not money for insurance. The money for insurance are not money for vacations. And all of these are not economies. So the truth is you have to have several accounts, separately, in which you have to save money. So, individually, you will have to take into consideration all of these necessities and save for each of them, not for just one goal. “Some” soundse very vague. Be precise and prepared.

 

2. Loan now, pay later

We live in a fast-forward society, that thinks of money as a commodity that can be obtained virtually instantly from a bank, based on the fact that many and each individual are/is employed and produce/s the same kind of money as the day before. So, there is the tendency of living on borrowed money and having the full experience now, better than tomorrow.

What about always thinking that now is going to be better than tomorrow? The problem with this thinking is that if you do think that your whole live is worth living now, better than tomorrow, it automatically means, that tomorrow, for sure, will be worse that today. So the people who work in personal development, prefer to do the opposite, to save money and not to loan money. Why? To make sure that tomorrow is going to be better than today. The way that you make tomorrow better than today is to give up something now, in order to receive something better and bigger in the future. There is such a thing as good debt: debt you make to create capital that multiplies and increases in value, but that’s not the kind of debt most people like to make.

Copyright (C) Irina Chirita, 2015

Copyright (C) Irina Chirita, 2015

 

3. If you recover all the money you have invested in a business, that means you break even and that’s a success.

That is false. If, from a business, you manage to get only the money that you invested, that means you have been working for free. In truth, in any kind of business, you have to take into consideration all the costs that you don’t see. All the costs which are in inflation, cost of opportunities, and you also have to take into consideration that having your own business, also might mean making more money that you would being hired. Usually, this is what some people consider. So, if all that you’re doing is just making sure that you get all the money that you invested from a business, that means that you should stop before it’s too late. And reconsider the situation.

 

4. Insuring the future for the family is the most important thing that you can do

Of course, it is important that you take into consideration the necessities, the needs and the wills of your family but I will tell you what is even much more important. That is to take into consideration the needs and the wants of the audience that you are serving. Therefore, it is important for you to always, always, always think of making your clients happy. If you put on the first place making your clients happy, then the family will enjoy your business. But if you put your family first, and think that there is a competition between the needs of your family and the needs of your costumers, it means the you do not have a good balance between the professional life and the personal life. Therefore, you are not a good businessman. So stop, before you hurt yourself. Change the way that you are thinking.

 

5. I will pay this as soon as I will have the money.

Don’t make assumptions about the time in which you will make payments. Always have some money aside in order to buffer up the periods in which you are waiting for liquidities.

You cannot make responsible decisions based on money that you assume you will receive in the future. The money you are contracted and hope to get are not money that you have gotten. So, better wait until you do have those money and something extra in order to make engagements for paying. This is especially true for personal expenses. Of course, we are not talking about big corporations’ finances. We are talking about small business ownership, entrepreneurs, freelancers, which have a limited budget and want to make payments as soon as they will have money. But making payments as soon as you will have money for it means that you might be running out of money when there is a situation that cause for that necessity.

 

These have been just some of my personal considerations about financial independence and what some think. I have been reading books and research, I have been listening to audio programs for the last 13 years and I have never found in one resource all that you have available in this article. Therefore, please take into consideration the fact that you need to take all this and verify it in you own experience.

Please come with your own experience and your own suggestions by commenting to this article.

Thank you.

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