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In Which Mirror Do You Prefer to Look?

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 11/08/2017

The Mirror of the Bible

To look in the mirror in a spiritual way is to live according to the Holy Scripture. The true esssence of listening to fragments of the Holy Scripture during the holy liturgy is to carry those to others. There are two ways of doing that. The first is to tell your friends what you learned, what was taught at the Church. This is called “the liturgy after the liturgy”. The other, more powerful way of carrying to others the message is to live by it, practice what is being taught.

First, about talking to others. How do your friends plan their meeting with Christ? This is a simple yet powerful question. Indeed, how do they do that? If they weren’t present at the liturgy, how do they practice what was taught? What stops them, if anything? How can they get counsciousness, if they choose so, of the options and the benefits of meeting Christ in the Church or through their deeds, following on the footsteps that lay on their path to redemption? How many friends do you have that bring you to Christ?

I do not preach to only have Christian friends. There is something to be learned from each person. Openness can be welcomed, in my opinion, as long as it doesn’t require accepting the relativism of truth. Such relativism is the claim that all or most spiritual or religious beliefs are correct, or that there are even are more which are correct. Relativism is in itself a religious frame. Keeping each person’s beliefs is something which can be done with firmness and gentleness, while sometimes exploring how do they apply to a particular life situation. I don’t believe the Bible teaches what our attitude should be about modifying the weather or genetically modified organisms in the food. But discussing about such topics keeping the balance of discernement in mind helps us explore the roots of each idea. Therefore, talking to people with different, even opposite beliefs shouldn’t be so scary. If you really believe what you believe, then you believe it enough that you may allow yourself to doubt it, still keeping enough arguments to return to your spiritual center.

Considering that one knows everything right even in the Orthodox Christianity is a dangerous temptation, therefore, one should keep an open mind, not to change the rightful faith beliefs, but to extend them in ways that make sense today, in this world, without posing a threat to the Christian tradition.

For example, if you share an idea through your behavior, an explanation or an answer and another person rejects it, you could feel ashamed. Either of what you said or of the fact that you wrongfully hoped the other person would cherish your idea. If you feel shame because of what you said, the case is that you didn’t really believe it so much (and you cherished your image more) and in the latter case it is discounting the reality that each of us is entitled to own beliefs, including rejecting other beliefs.

This is what freedom of expression means: that you allow and accept, and even fight for the right of another person saying something you don’t agree to. In their essence, both totalitarisms (such as communism, fascism) and political correctness (cultural marxism) admit no opposition and no middleground. Totalitarisms use propaganda and mass control and political corectness uses public relations, lobby and public policies. In essence, in a true democracy nobody should feel ashamed of saying what one thinks and believes out of fright of negative repercussions.

 

The Mirror of the Idols

What is the alternative to looking in the mirror by living your life according to Holy Scripture? It is looking at what you think you can become without God. You become the idols you serve.

For example, if you serve wrath, you become wrath. In its extreme, hateful wrath makes anyone so insignificant until it all becomes a dot, a target to fire at. Wrath can be alternatively directed at a behavior, if emotional intelligence is used. For example, a parent may tell to a child: “I love you, therefore I am angry at your wrong ways”, and by that a negative emotion can be used in such a manner that it doesn’t become an idol.

If you serve pride, you become pride. For example, if you congratulate someone because you want to be congratulated yourself or want some attention, you have not only taken that person’s right to be redempted by rewarding that person in the now (rather than the eternity), but you have also become the exponent of pride. The idol is what gets ahead of you. If a parent emotionally supports a child to do something positive, then it is not pride which is fed (unless the parent actually is proud of himself), but the child’s self-esteem and motivation for learning and repeating a useful behavior.

If you serve lust, then everything you might have gathered in life through planning and discipline is put at the altar of whmisical desires to be sacrificed. Lust is an enemy to wisdom and the clouding of the mind – not only in the sexual form. Within lust, one may become the most urgent urge that emobodies the indisciplined and uncontrolled human being.

If you serve greed, then your identity becomes attached to the things you posess and/or aspire to posess: your value becomes what you are worth in the eyes of others and what you see in the mirror when you look at what you use to cover yourself with.

If you serve gluttony, your body will likely take the shape that you give it by serving this god. Both greed and gluttony may embody the desire, the aspiration to have the own physical needs met, believing that if one doesn’t do that, nothing and nobody will, when in fact only serving others through our talents can truly establish a balance. Of course, one must know how to choose who to serve.

If you serve sloth, then abandoning reponsabilities and gifts is a spiritual suicide, giving up to pessimism and negativism, depression and despair. For example, taking a calculated break after hard work is something which can bring balance, but you cannot counteract an exaggeration, an extreme, with another extreme. Two wrongs d’t make a right.

If you serve envy, then you feel a certain inferiority which tells you whatever another one has that you value must be used to bring him or her down, instead of using admiration as a force to take learnings from a model.

Which Do You Choose?

There you have, in a nutshell, the two possible mirrors between which you life pendulates. When you stop and look, what do you see?

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10 Useful Skills That Will Make You A Better Entrepreneur

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 31/07/2017

 

Working as a consultant for entrepreneurs is exciting and stressful in the same time. I know, because I’ve done it for years. So I decided to share some of my observations that might come as very useful for entrepreneurs and not only.

Not having these skills will not ruin you, but it would certainly slow you down. This is not an exhaustive list, just a “top of my mind” approach that I think would be very precious especially for those in the beginning of the road that make the leap from freelancing to entrepreneurship.

  1. Creating rules based on your principles. Any company is similar to the entrepreneur which creates it. In the beginning, especially if you don’t have a lot of employees, it will be easy to express how other people should behave, act or think concerning your business in order to respect what you want to create. Principles are like a lighthouse in the dark and in the night. In the beginning, they might be clear and easy. But the best way to share them is to express them as laying foundations for the rules: not too many, not too few, but clear for everybody. Once set, everyone must respect them. You must respect them the best. In the same time, it is important to train this skill, because your principles evolve and so do you.

  2. Express gratitude. Train yourself to use any anniversary, any opportunity in order to thank people which have made a contribution. Thank your clients after buying from you. Thank your collaborators for doing a good work. Thank your employees for reaching the goals. Thank your partners for supporting you. If you believe in God, keep this in mind: do not wish for God to give you how much you can take! You can take and have as much as you want as a burden in this life. Whatever you want, God can give you. But, in order to keep it, you must remember to be satisfied with less and with more, to take any success as a gift from God and not as a merit. The gratitude is a key skill for an entrepreneur.

  3. Recognize the teachable people. There are no real incompetents, only people who don’t manifest or have lost the capacity to learn. Therefore, choose wisely to work with only those people who can be taught. Do not hope that giving chances to seemingly talented people will make them fly and become stars. Most oftenly, the people you like the most are not those which necesarrily perform the best. Welcome the people who you choose to improve their careeer working with you!

  4. Train yourself to make distinctions between options, possibilities, opportunities and probabilities. All might sound similar, but they are very different. Anything is possible until you have to chose options. Those options must be at least probable. Between the options which are probable, you have to prioritize your opportunities and decide wether you want to choose them or create them. But remember, whatever you do, your options must not only be possible, but probable also! Many young professionals start their entrepreneurship career doing business plans like they did during faculty, but fail miserably. Know your territory and act upon that knowledge!

  5. Constantly develop yourself. What happens when the one thing that you are able to do for your clients is the thing that stops you the most from developing yourself? The competition will likely take over in a matter of time. You need to constantly be a source for re-invention. Working for your own development should not be in a competition with working for your customers or with your employees. Time for yourself to develop is also needed in order to enhance your business.

  6. How much do you allow yourself and others to act authentic in a relationship? Find and recognize the other people’s values, beliefs and convictions. Beliefs are convictions we believe to be true. Attitudes are collections of beliefs and values around a certain topic. There isn’t such a things as a “non-value” or “anti-value”, there are only different beliefs, values and attitudes. Erach person is motivated by different scopes and if you learn to discover those asking specific questions (such as some from LAB profile), it is worth to use them and to link them with each of the important actions that need to be taken for your business plans to work. Values lead to motivation. Motivation leads to vision. Vision leads to strategy. Why? Because where there’s a will, there’s a way. If the strategy does not take into consideration the values of the employees, it will be a difficult to implement strategy.

  7. Use the faults of the employees in the favor of the teams. Knowing that a certain person has a low performance in a certain area means that you know not to delegate to that person something (s)he might do which is wrong. Creating teams taking into consideration both their strong points and their weak points is a service that you can do creating the kind of complementarity that the collaborators could and should appreciate.

  8. Constantly shape in your mind the model of the best entrepreneur that you can be. How does that feel? What does this model do? How do you see him or her? Remember, it’s a model, it’s not Superman, it doesn’t have to be perfect. Practice in your mind what you would do in different types of situations: with your employees, with the clients, with the partners. Put yourself in the shoes of people who need to make difficult decisions. What’s worth doing to become such an entrepreneur? What is it important to giv up in order to become this model?

  9. How do you manage to diplomatically tell the truth and be convincing without lying? Practice rethorics and argumentation. What’s worth doing in oder to prove that you are right? Sometimes, it’s not enough top be right. It also depends how you say it. Having different reframing strategies in order to make each person think in his/her way is required, because not everybody will be convinced by the same arguments. In business, it doesn’t matter so much who is right, it matters what makes things profitable. Also, please keep in mynd, what others perceive as a message matters, not what we intend to transmit.

  10. Serve your clients, for their own good, don’t please them. Politicians, coaches and psychologists may oftenly be “punished” for actually serving those who chose them. Pleasing the clients is something which others can do very easily, but it takes some courage to educate your clients to recognize their own deep needs and to be glad they are actually served by what you are offering.

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What is Schema Dynamics Programming

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 06/07/2017

 

The terminology

“Schema” comes from schema therapy and refers to the maladaptive schemas taxonomy developed by Jeffrey Young, Ph.D. and his collaborators since the ’80s. It is the problem-oriented component of the field, using psychometric questionnaires developed and tested by scientists to evaluate which are the schemas and modes which pathologically influence the emotions, the thoughts, the behavior and the language of the people. Schemas are triggered by traumas, most likely from childhood and, through complications, when activated, may generate discomfort, stress, challenge, failure and ultimately, psychiatric illness.

Dynamics” comes from “Spiral Dynamics”, a field founded in the ’70s by Clare Graves, Ph.D., and it refers to the multiple values levels layered in the personality, which may be changing in time. It is the results-driven component of the field, using advanced psychometric testing developed by professional researchers in order to discover which type of potential and perspective is enabled in order to support the transformational development of the individuals and societies.

Programming” comes from “Neuro-Linguistic Programming” (NLP), the field developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder, Ph.D. starting in the ’70s, centered on using complex practical processes in order to provide with models of excellence. Although sometimes presented as a pseudoscience, some fields of NLP, such as metaprograms and values have been psychometrically tested as scientifically valid models of correctly structuring the language, behavior and personality.

ST (schema therapy) and NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) have both common roots in Gestalt therapy.

In some NLP Master Practitioner training, the Spiral Dynamics model is studied.

 

Positioning

What are the characteristics of Schema Dynamics Programming? How is SDP different from:

  • Psychotherapy?

  • NLP (neuro-linguistic programming)?

  • Spiral Dynamics?

  • ST (schema therapy)?

  • Coaching?

SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) provides the client with a flexible set of processes for personal transformation. This enables the functions of both psychotherapy and coaching: it works both for the traumas in the past and the goals in the future.

SDP provides a directed structure. The schema dynamic programmer knows how to recognize and measure the results of the changes when dealing with personal issues, professional goals, past, present and future. The structure is directed in the sense that the schema dynamic programmer uses both descriptive complex maps and tools to knows where the client is, knows where (s)he wants to go and, after considering the available options (tools, processes, techniques), chooses one or several procedures to follow and monitor.

To merely give an example, as a difference to coaching, the schema dynamic programmer may offer his/her opinion, contradict the client and give advice if necessary. The schema dynamic programmer is focused on practical exercises and homework which require a solid amount of effort (emotional, and even physical and logistic) from the client. This work is both oriented to the past and the future and it does not accept the personality of the client as a given, but as a starting point in the work done, which is a mere effect of life experiences and environment and may be subject to change.

Using this strategic approach, with the appropriate approach, issues such as introversion, panic attacks, PTSD, psychosomatization, phobias, alixitimy, allergies, emotional stress response, abandonment, mistrust, emotional deprivation, entitlement, abandonment and others (to name just a few) can be completely and ultimately removed and replaced with functional systems within the subconscious and the conscious.

As a set of tools oriented towards professional growth, SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) can provide clients with life-changing experiences which enable them to advance in the Spiral Dynamics model within months (in stead of years) and achieve professional and personal benefits such as:

  • job and career change and performance;

  • happy marriages;

  • increased revenues;

  • status change.

SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) focuses, as ST (schema therapy) does as well, on both emotional and cognitive-rational aspects of the change, but where ST (schema therapy) insists on working with modes (especially considering the psychiatric interventions), SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) insists on working with metaprograms. Where ST (schema therapy) insists on working with imagery, SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) has its own, much more effective and advanced process, designed by its founder. Such processes are similar to several NLP techniques but different from all of them, and it does not necessarily involve trance/hypnosis. NLP is also more focused on fast solving of the surface issues, which may work in alleviating effects but not always causes. For example, a metaprogram change can be successful for a healthy adult, but may be undone if at the root of the metaprogram change there is a maladaptive schema caused by an abusive trauma from the past.

Where ST (schema therapy) insists on analysis, SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) insists on homework and delegating as much of the change work to the client, once (s)he earns the skills and learns the processes a model for personal change. While psychotherapy generally insists on the necessity of the process being administered by a state-approved specialist, the SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) processes can be easy, independently learned and applied by each client, provided (s)he has the appropriate personality and skills inclinations. In this sense, SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) is nearer to coaching. While the client is encouraged to use for the self some of the processes, (s)he is not encouraged to become a schema dynamic programmer with other people without proper supervision.

Spiral Dynamics offers a deep conceptual framework which many of the psychologists and psychiatrists are not aware of and not even most of the coaches. On this foundation, an important SDP premise is that almost any NLP-type process can be run, focusing on developing skills and attitudes, once the maladaptive schemas have started to change in intensity. Thus, Spiral Dynamics offers not only a strategic measuring tool, but also a chart, a map of transformations, a clear direction of development once the client is freed from many of the startling issues and also some tools, for most advanced knowledge.

 

A unified theory of personality psychology

For several decades, clinical psychology and organizational or positive psychology have insisted on different aspects of the human psyche:

  • interpreting the past (retrospection) vs predicting the future (prospection);

  • problems vs. goals;

  • why vs. how;

  • reflective analysis vs. active experience (exercise);

  • addictions vs virtues;

  • learning vs. growing;

  • abstract vs. concrete;

  • personal vs. professional;

  • body vs. mind;

  • solving vs. developing;

  • issues vs. potential;

  • negative vs. positive;

  • mistakes vs. performance;

  • comprehension vs. action;

  • reparation vs. fine-tuning performance;

  • emotions vs. reason;

  • awareness for insight vs. awareness for decision/action;

  • static vs. dynamic; 

  • treating vs training;

  • obstacles vs resources’

  • linear thinking (Aristotelian) vs. systemic thinking (non-Aristotelian);

  • diffusiveness vs. focus;

  • deliberate slowness vs. witty quickness;

  • cautious desurgency vs. exuberant surgency;

  • relationship vs. task;

  • pain vs. excitement;

  • long term vs. medium/short term;

  • acceptance vs. change;

  • diagnosis vs. enhancement;

  • tense strictness vs. moderate willingness;

  • guiding vs. directing;

  • assessment vs. evaluation;

  • teaching vs. knowing;

  • floating vs. flying

and so on.

 

Differentiating for the future

SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) is not the only mixed approach available. It may even not be the best. But it works, and it will be tested of how well it works in comparison to any of the separate components to which it is compared.

SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) is being developed by Ștefan Alexandrescu as a groundbreaking new field with its own applications and is NOT in direct competition with ST (schema therapy), Spiral Dynamics and NLP. It is important that this field would support the development and most especially, the research of these 3 original fields, on which it is grounded. It is not intended as a substitute, but as an alternative, as an enhancer, as a continuation, as it is different from all of the above mentioned.

However, SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) does clearly enter in competition with:

  • regular psychotherapy

  • coaching

Regular psychotherapists and coaches which lack skills and knowledge in all of these three fields are not accredited, nor advised, nor recommended to clients. As SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) is a practical field, the researchers are challenged to devise experimental tests and projects to compare the effectiveness of SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) with either regular psychotherapy and coaching. SDP (Schema Dynamics Programming) is simply different and superior, through techniques, skills and results to regular psychotherapy and coaching. This is not a marketing statement, it is simply a reflection of the reality, based on the obtained. And it’s getting better and better, steady and slowly.

People who are interested in learning these skills are advised to contact Ștefan Alexandrescu directly.

The theoretical component of Schema Dynamics Programming also integrates models from transactional analysis, positive psychology, multiple intelligences, motivational psychology and from landmark specialists such as Jeffrey Young, Clare Graves, Abraham Maslow, Robert Dilts, Anthony Robbins, David McClelland, W. Gerrod Parrot, Robert Plutchick, Brian Tracy (correlating research to be determined) and could be correlated in the future with several other theories. You may download here a synthesis pdf.

Copyright © Ștefan Alexandrescu, 2017. None of the contents of this page can be reproduced without the written express consent of Ștefan Alexandrescu. No exceptions allowed.

If you liked this article, please also read this:

Schema Dynamics Programming with Stefan Alexandrescu (25.12.2016)

How to Live a Perfect Life. Part I. (31.10.2017)

How to Live a Perfect Life, part II. The First 4 Out of 12 Steps, In the Right Order (13.11.2016)

How to Live a Perfect Life, part III. Steps 5-8 Out of 12, In the Right Order (17.11.2016)

How to Live a Perfect Life, Last Part. Steps 9-12 Out of 12, In the Right Order (21.11.2016)

PS: Thanks to Diana Andreea Bădrăgan.

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Some differences between working hard and working SMART

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 27/06/2017

What is the difference between efficiency and effectiveness?

Efficiency is putting the ladder on the wall and climbing it down the other side of the wall as fast as possible. Effectiveness is knowing on which wall to put the ladder.

Some people learn in life, either by experience or modeling, to cherish the hard work. While this is important and certainly correlated with positive outcomes, it’s certainly not the most important.

Some people hear “strategy” and understand “procedure” or “technique”, hear “planning” and hear “lack of liberty” because some of the most relevant representations of these have been expressed in an extreme way.

Some people consider experience as a relevant source of learning. Hard work, trying and failing, persevering on one’s own path is currently mantra for many. Still, it is, for other people the poorest form of learning.

So if running after some unrelenting standards must be a very precious value in order to ensure quality, it seems weird that some of those who promote them (despite the qualities and advantages it defers to consumers of their products and services) are so tired, bored, unnerved and tense. Something doesn’t quite add up.

There is no need for conflict. Things can be done fast and best. You may learn through modeling more effective than through experience – if you have the right models (finding them requires skill). You may plan and enjoy your life. You may strategize and find opportunities that allow you creatively move in freedom. You may work enough and intelligently. Providing best quality can be a rewarding experience during the process. Want to know how to get there? Here it is some advice I find useful.

  1. Ask yourself every day or as often as possible: what little change, added to the baseline of my performance, can make an outstanding difference?
  2. What other perspective can this be seen from?
  3. How are others succeeding and why? What can be replicated?
  4. What is the proper structure for getting the results envisioned?
  5. How will this be mostly done in 5 years?
  6. Who has the proper experience, results and motivation to take in consideration as a model?
  7. How do you see yourself from the outside when having the goal completed? Backtrack from that moment: what will you be doing a week earlier, a month earlier?
  8. How is seeing the bigger picture helping you with deciding differently?
  9. How is this working plan helping you today with the perfect plan you mean to do tomorrow?
  10. How does changing the people you work with/for support you in making a bigger impact with fewer efforts?
  11. What other useful, important things might you be doing with your efforts if you’d have more time?
  12. How could the people you are working with/for make your work/life easier?
  13. What other people could you choose to work with/for and how could you find them?
  14. What other goals might be more worthy of your efforts?
  15. How would changing the challenges you confront support you to develop yourself?
  16. Who wold get an award for doing what you are already doing?
  17. What would make you able to choose better?
  18. In what context is the kind of hard work you do more appreciated or featured?
  19. Who would benefit the most from your efforts?
  20. Who would care more about your deeper intentions?
  21. How could you reinvent your work?

How do you think about your efforts now? Do they seem more intelligent? Now, that you will be able to do smarter work, you may choose if and in which directions you prefer to work hard.

What does SMART mean in goal management?

Specific

Measurable

Achievable

Realistic

Time-limited

For example take in consideration such a table that can be used in order to detail and support any goal formulation, to make sure it can be measured in tasks, time and units, therefore making it achievable in a realistic timeframe set.

How could I improve this goal, working smarter and less, using just some of the questions I recommended?

  • I could use an application which would correct my errors as I type (such as https://www.grammarly.com/)
  • I could record my voice reading the content of an article and delegate to someone to transcribe it.
  • I could delegate the translation into English from Romanian of several articles I already wrote
  • I could write useful copy to promote my services as posts which would also make interesting reading
  • I could write useful articles for my clients
  • Make a plan of how many clients do I want to gain using my articles on this blog
  • Use the time saved to serve existing customers and develop strategies to find new ones

 

SMART goal

Motivation

Tasks

Time-limited

What?

Why?

What specifically?

How much? (for each article)

Publish 2 posts/month on Analytic Vision, monthly, covering by 2018 all the subjects in the Excel file (24 posts/year)

 

Contribution

Support

Professionalism

Enjoyment

1. update excel ideas file 1. 5 mins
2. design structure 2. 5 mins
3. create content 3. 20-90 mins
4. check content 4. 10-20 mins
5. publish content 5. 10 mins
6. share content 6. 2 mins

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Ten myths about financial independence and the truth that will set you free. Part II.

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 04/06/2017

I started here last month an article about myths some people are considering while exploring the alternative ways of thinking. I continue today with 5 more myths.

6. Selling is something that everybody hates

The truth is that if you want to earn the respect of others, then you must work in sales. It is not because it’s a job that “everybody hates” therefore it’s challenging, but it’s because it’s a job that if you do well, can earn you a lot of respect. If you don’t do it well, then you should be ashamed of yourself. People hate bad salesmen. In one way or another, everybody works in sales. Therefore, it is mainly important for you to generate the kind of expectations and the kind of image that some other people might like to think of.

So, for example, if a salesman provides for his family, then he might be accepted in the community as a pillar, but if a salesman is ashamed of what his is doing, is not good at it, and does not provide the resources that are expected from a salesman, then he is covered in shame.

Therefore, most salesmen are not good salesmen. It is only because there is not enough place for all the salesmen on all the markets. Therefore you must be a good salesman and good salesmen are respected. So, if you want to earn the respect of others, stop considering salesmen as a past and start working in sales.

 

7. In order to make money you have to show you have money

I will tell you another perspective. It doesn’t matter how expensive you dress yourself, if you sell yourself short. That means your attitude matters more than what you look like.

So, it is very important for you to consider that people first watch your non verbal communication and then what you are saying. I will give you a practical example. In a busy day, I got out of the house without looking in the mirror. I haven’t noticed how I looked like. That day I made some sales. There were some unexpected sales, because, there were two people that I just met that day. Coming back home, looking into the mirror, I noticed that I looked terrible. And I thought myself: “Oh my God, I have made some sales looking like that! This is impressive! It’s amazing!”

But then I became aware of the fact that those people bought from me not because of my looks but because of my attitude. So, it doesn’t really matter how well you dress. Of course, if you are selling to directors from a company it is important to be well dressed. You don’t have to be perfectly dressed, you don’t have to be dressed from Gucci, but you have to make sure that at least you get the chance of getting an entrance.

So, it might be even more important that you think to dress in clothes, that are, let’s say, white or open-colored, than the quality of the brand that you are using for your clothing.

So, I make here, also, another point, each kind of expense must be considered at least as a tryout to make an investment. Therefore, in example, if you need to impress a client, it’s better to rent a BMW than to have a BMW that you pay for every day.

So, I do not want to minimize the importance of getting through some obstacles in perceiving image. I’m merely suggesting it is more important to have an appropriate attitude.

 

8. Always do things with strategy

It might come as a surprise that although strategy is important, it is not the most important thing.

In order to conceive an appropriate strategy, you must, first, have an appropriate system, and most people do not think about this. Yes, it’s important to have a strategy for launching a new product, a new line, an invention, something which people have never heard of, but these things are very risky. Usually most business strategies are bases on decisions which have been made in a similar mode with other similar products. So people notice what is the pattern that leads to success and how to reproduce it.

Therefore, in order to have and apply an appropriate strategy, you first have to have a functional system that will be something that works and needs to be optimized. So this is the difference between doing basic merchandising, what is called in Romanian ”bi?ni?ă” and doing business.

So first, you need to have a customer that is available to pay you money for your product, then you have a business. It’s not the other way around, although, it is recommended for administrative and legislative means to do so.

 

9. It’s important to contribute and to offer charity

It is, of course, important, to make sure that you leave something behind you, to make donations, and keep your generosity gates open. In the same time, it is more important to make intelligent charity. That is, to know who to give money to, why, when and for what. So you do not look like somebody who is just throwing away money, in order to buy other people’s attention, consideration, and respect.

Therefore you need to have some standard and some strategies of evaluating whether the people or the organization which are receiving your money are well documented and are worthy of your money. Giving away money without looking is not charity, it is mere stupidity.

Therefore you need to have questions that you must put to those people that you are giving you money to, and if they don’t give the satisfactory answers, then they don’t receive and they don’t deserve you money.

 

10. If I don’t work, I don’t have money, therefore, I don’t read

When you don’t have money, buy time through what you are doing when you don’t have money. So, most people tend to worry and think about the periods when they are unemployed or the periods when they are not working as periods when they don’t make money, therefore they afford to waste time. This is very true for some categories of people. It is true for (fool) people, it is true for some employees, it is true for freelancers, for the most of them, at least.

The truth is making money shouldn’t be connected with the work you are doing directly. Making money should be a symbolic result, a simple effect of what you are doing already best. Therefore, reading and personal development, generally, is one of the best investments that you can do while you are not working, or especially when you are not making money. Why? Because you can never know how exactly what you are reading as personal/professional development or a specialty book might do for you in terms of making money. Therefore, that is the most important period when you should invest in yourself: when you don’t have the opportunity to work and/or to make money. This is what will make the difference between when you are down and when you have success.

 

These have been just some of my personal considerations about financial independence and what some think. I have been reading books and research, I have been listening to audio programs for the last 13 years and I have never found in one resource all that you have available in this article. Therefore, please take into consideration the fact that you need to take all this and verify it in you own experience.

Please come with your own experience and your own suggestions by commenting to this article.

Thank you.

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Ten myths about financial independence and the truth that will set you free. Part I.

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 24/05/2017

 

Today it is important to consider several things which some people, especially Romanians, might tend to think, concerning the way they should think and act about money. These have been observed based on my own experience and different lectures, studies and books that I have read concerning how to manage finances.

 

1. It’s good to have some money aside

There is the tendency to think that there is a stash of money that you need to have in some place, generally, proverbially thinking about different directions that those money might take.

Supposedly you fall sick, supposedly you decide to open up a business, supposedly you get fired, supposedly you need to have some securities aside for your old age. But the truth is you need to have several accounts, separately, and you need to have money for all of these directions and then some more. Therefore, the money for rainy days are not money for retirement. The money for retirement are not money for accidents. The money for accidents are not money for insurance. The money for insurance are not money for vacations. And all of these are not economies. So the truth is you have to have several accounts, separately, in which you have to save money. So, individually, you will have to take into consideration all of these necessities and save for each of them, not for just one goal. “Some” soundse very vague. Be precise and prepared.

 

2. Loan now, pay later

We live in a fast-forward society, that thinks of money as a commodity that can be obtained virtually instantly from a bank, based on the fact that many and each individual are/is employed and produce/s the same kind of money as the day before. So, there is the tendency of living on borrowed money and having the full experience now, better than tomorrow.

What about always thinking that now is going to be better than tomorrow? The problem with this thinking is that if you do think that your whole live is worth living now, better than tomorrow, it automatically means, that tomorrow, for sure, will be worse that today. So the people who work in personal development, prefer to do the opposite, to save money and not to loan money. Why? To make sure that tomorrow is going to be better than today. The way that you make tomorrow better than today is to give up something now, in order to receive something better and bigger in the future. There is such a thing as good debt: debt you make to create capital that multiplies and increases in value, but that’s not the kind of debt most people like to make.

Copyright (C) Irina Chirita, 2015

Copyright (C) Irina Chirita, 2015

 

3. If you recover all the money you have invested in a business, that means you break even and that’s a success.

That is false. If, from a business, you manage to get only the money that you invested, that means you have been working for free. In truth, in any kind of business, you have to take into consideration all the costs that you don’t see. All the costs which are in inflation, cost of opportunities, and you also have to take into consideration that having your own business, also might mean making more money that you would being hired. Usually, this is what some people consider. So, if all that you’re doing is just making sure that you get all the money that you invested from a business, that means that you should stop before it’s too late. And reconsider the situation.

 

4. Insuring the future for the family is the most important thing that you can do

Of course, it is important that you take into consideration the necessities, the needs and the wills of your family but I will tell you what is even much more important. That is to take into consideration the needs and the wants of the audience that you are serving. Therefore, it is important for you to always, always, always think of making your clients happy. If you put on the first place making your clients happy, then the family will enjoy your business. But if you put your family first, and think that there is a competition between the needs of your family and the needs of your costumers, it means the you do not have a good balance between the professional life and the personal life. Therefore, you are not a good businessman. So stop, before you hurt yourself. Change the way that you are thinking.

 

5. I will pay this as soon as I will have the money.

Don’t make assumptions about the time in which you will make payments. Always have some money aside in order to buffer up the periods in which you are waiting for liquidities.

You cannot make responsible decisions based on money that you assume you will receive in the future. The money you are contracted and hope to get are not money that you have gotten. So, better wait until you do have those money and something extra in order to make engagements for paying. This is especially true for personal expenses. Of course, we are not talking about big corporations’ finances. We are talking about small business ownership, entrepreneurs, freelancers, which have a limited budget and want to make payments as soon as they will have money. But making payments as soon as you will have money for it means that you might be running out of money when there is a situation that cause for that necessity.

 

These have been just some of my personal considerations about financial independence and what some think. I have been reading books and research, I have been listening to audio programs for the last 13 years and I have never found in one resource all that you have available in this article. Therefore, please take into consideration the fact that you need to take all this and verify it in you own experience.

Please come with your own experience and your own suggestions by commenting to this article.

Thank you.

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The Same Kind of Different As Me

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 30/04/2017

Working as a marketer for freelancers and entrepreneurs can sometimes be very interesting because you have different  opportunities. Such an opportunity is to find out that many of those who are offering services, especially personal services, are looking for clients who are just like them. That means that, for example, that the coach might be interested in having the kind of customers who are interested in personal development and aiming goals, the same as him. The coach’s clients would be very similar to the coach and less preoccupied with solving problems, traumas and other kind of issues. That is, not the kind who are going to a  therapist for solving problems, as coaching is in the goal business.

So, for example, what if a marketer has a preference for a kind of public or kind of audience that has some kind of value for the resemblance it falls to him or to her. What does that mean? It means that the marketer might hold or see a value, an interest, in marketing to the same kind of different as themselves. That implies that not only do these people might think or choose in the same ways, but they might hang around in the same kind of networks, in the same kind of contexts, social systems and they will be much more easily found there.

One of the problems that such entrepreneurs and freelancers have is the fact that they do not consider themselves as ready or as prepared to deal with that audience. Why? Because maybe they think “Oh, I do not have enough time to spend at the kind of networking events that the people like me would go to”. So, there is a tendency for some freelancers to have this kind of idea, this kind of optimal idea about how or where or when it would be appropriate to find the right clients. But the truth is that (1) usually people are looking for solutions for their necessities and (2) these necessities are not always the same as everybody else’s (they might be so personal that only a limited number of people would have the same interest in the same moment). So it is often difficult finding an audience because you have to find a niche: that niche presents the  challenge of personalizing, of customizing a certain lifestyle.

So, for example, if you would be a dentist searching only to find the kind of customers who are interested in replacing their old works with quality, with top quality material, what should you do? You would have to find those clients in the right place, at the right time, and having the availability of joining such a promotion. Why? Because, for one thing, the longer people live, the longer they have all kinds of interventions, such as correcting decaying teeth. But in order to find the person who decides “yes, I would like to replace all the works from the course of my life with top quality material, very healthy and very resistant”, that means that you will have to have the kind of advertising, that directs those people to you as a supplier, within that window of opportunity. Where do you find them? How do you find them?

Of course, one of the top results, any supplier’s answer is: “Well, you find them advertising on the internet”. Yes, that’s something we can all agree upon, but beyond that, where do you go to find these customers? How do you approach them in a way that is consistent with your values and their values? Moreover, how do you overcome the resistance, the barriers of some people who might need, want or might even be likely to use your service? In order to buy that service from you, and not from your competitor, what should you do?

No matter how fine, how great, how wonderful you think what you’re offering is, if there is a request that means that there are suppliers, that means that you are in competition. No matter how special you think you are by offering a certain service or a product, you are actually in a big, big competition, because you are not only in competition with the potential suppliers who are offering for the right kind of product or service that you are also offering.

There are also the consumers who might accept something lower in price/quality, something different. There might be some potential customers who do not know that you or your services exist, who might not know that you have something of value to offer, so those people will buy different things. Maybe by the time you come along and treat them right it will be too late, or they will be broke, or they will not have that necessity any more. So, it’s not only a question of finding the right people, it’s also a question of being aware that you are in competition with many other suppliers who you might  not know of, and you might never know of, but who will take some of the clients’ money instead of you as a supplier.

Therefore, in this search for “the same kind of different as me”, when you are looking for the kind of audience that is similar to you, you also have to take in consideration that you are not the only one. Most likely, there are many other people just like you, entering the competition for the attention and for the availability of the same audience that you are hunting for. Therefore, in order to have and apply this kind of promotional strategy, this kind of marketing strategy, you need to first have a functional system of identifying the right people at the right time, and it might seem that this is the marketer’s job.

For instance, once you have a marketing manager / consultant, then it is his or her job to do just that. They should think about how that ideal customer thinks. It’s very easy to think “whoa, that kind of person just thinks like me, too”. Well, that kind of person that just thinks like you is not your client, that person is your competition and that person is looking for clients as well.

In such a market, you need the kind of potential customers who would be interested in giving you a chance to support them and help them with whatever they want or need, correct? So, in your search for the ideal audience that you are constantly looking to connect with, keep in mind an important aspect. You have to convince the potential consumers that they might need to be a little bit more aspiring to be like you. Some consumers who are buying services or products directly from other people are doing this because they are interested in having something better than they can create for themselves, so they would have a model that they would stand up to, that is an inspiration to them. In consequence, it doesn’t matter how much you think that it’s worth what you are offering. It matters what does the real person who is paying you can be satisfied with. Can (s)he have your products or services and be happy with what you are offering, when you are providing that service?

Of course, some people might say “where there’s a will, there’s a way” but you also have to have some kind of motivation or strategy and not just a vision. This kind of vision that I’ve been writing about needs to be real and provide results. You may also take into consideration the impact of motivation. For example, how does motivation relate to fulfilling those needs or desires, how much motivation do you need your consumer to have in order to push that button, to place that order, to have those results that you want them to have? How much motivation do you need in order to connect to those people?

If you think that the kind of people that you are looking for to buy your services or products might be very motivated, you must also think of the fact that it is very likely they will find very fast a supplier who would provide their services for them, or they would even solve their own problems on their own. Such determined customers might thank you for going to them, so, for example, you should think that you are the kind of person who would more likely offer something. Therefore, you are mostly a seller and not a buyer, this is a kind of vision that influences your motivation into finding the right customers to buy from you.

But if the customer has the vision that “whoa, I am first someone who wants their needs to be satisfied“ that means that person is a consumer in the first place, and not a seller, right? So, that person would be interested in having some offer that would connect to your vision + motivation and when that happens, you become aware of what customizing lifestyle means. Why? Because in each person’s vision, there is a certain lifestyle that someone can have or dismiss, and when you choose to include something in your lifestyle as a buyer or as consumer it means you already have a certain degree of motivation. It means you already chose a path and if you are not on that path, right then, that means you as a consumer have already gone beyond that. So what do these people who you were so keen on serving do? They move on, they evolve, they develop, they change their needs, once a person has their needs fulfilled or definitely lost the chance to have them fulfilled, they will move on, OK?

In conclusion, you either decide to fulfill a buyer’s need in a way that a customer will come to you, supplier, and say “whoa, that is great, that deeply and completely fulfilled my need” or you become the kind of supplier who supplies for one need, for one moment, for a few moments and then is gone. The world is full of this kind of suppliers that don’t need too much differentiation from one to the other.

One of the most difficult things to accept is the fact that once a need has been  deeply fulfilled, somebody may not need it anymore, OK? So, for example, if we are to consider that dentist I was giving as an example, once a patient had all the dentistry works replaced, that person does not need that anymore, it is a once in a lifetime offer to do that service for someone. Of course, we are not referring to the services for the products that keep on fulfilling the same and the same and the same need that gets refilled. Of course, people will always need something to eat or to drink. So, if you are not in that kind of situation where you fulfill a need which is renewable, you might find yourself in a very special niche, in a very challenging niche, in the niche of making the difference in someone’s life. But, I think this is the most special, and most rewarding kind of niche that you can be into. At the same time, it’s one of the most challenging, because as I was mentioning, you can never be sure that you find, at the right moment, the same kind of different as you. So, you have to be prepared to serve whoever is the potential client who might need your services, to actually need them, OK? Keep this in mind while you hunt for the perfect customer or for the perfect strategy in your marketing.

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NLP Modal Operators From A Marketing Perspective.

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 31/03/2017

 

There are three big categories of modal operators:

  • possibility

  • necessity

  • desire

The pattern of potential customers taking decisions is dependent on the sequence in which they use these modal operators. Depending on the level of familiarity and trust they have with a certain product or service, they might be more or less interested to invest interest in it.

The first thing that some clienst must think in order to consider a product/service is whether if there is a desire for it or if it is possible. Some people first decide they want something and then they look for how to get that done. But this is a small amount of population. They are usually people who want to get things done and they have the means and determination to make it happen. They think somewhere in the world there must be someone who thought of their desire and all they have to do is to find it. These are the people who know what they want. Their sequence of acquisition is:

  1. Do I want it?” If no, then they don’t care if it exists or not. If yes, then there must be someone offering it. They want it, therefore they will get it or make it happen.

  2. Is it possible to find it?” If not, then they might have the idea for a business if there are more people who have this wish. If they want it, it is possible and they find that possibility, then…

  3. Does it serve my needs?” If no, then they keep on searching. If yes, then they buy it. They don’t waste too much time on comparison. They want it, they search for it, they buy it, they own it and that’s the end of the story.

 

Most people must first be aware that something is possible. For example, if you try to sale vision training to a person that wore glasses for 20 years, it might be impossible if you find that person doesn’t believe the services really offer what they claim. For these people, they must first become aware that something is possible and understand how that helps them. The sequence of acquisition is:

  1. Is it possible?” If it is, then wow, what does that mean? It means that I have to readjust my sense of reality. Some people are not able to do that. They don’t understand how some new technologies work and they don’t care to know because it might make their beliefs and life experiences look silly. If they decide it is not possible, then they deserve to be left alone in their own ignorance. But, if you prove to someone that your product/service can really do what it does, that does not automatically imply they will want to buy it.

  2. Do I want it?”. Does the potential customer consider any value in what’s offered? If not, then it doesn’t matter that it’s possible. For them, it isn’t, because they don’t want it. So the mere demonstration of possibility does not impact the life of the potential client, unless…

  3. Why do I need this?”. What need(s) does this product or service satisfy? When presenting something proactive to a client that needs to be convinced upon the value and the utility, one must consider the suffering that will happen unless the client decides to act on that possibility.

     

The traditional buyer does not buy something unless there is a need. This client must be in pain in order to decide to need something so much in order to buy it. Each marketer must understand that if a consumer really needs something, it doesn’t matter there isn’t enough money for it. They get it. The borrow. The work like crazy. They need it. For them, the sequence of thinking is:

  1. Do I need it?”. If not, then they don’t buy it, because they can’t afford it. If yes, then they wonder:

  2. Is it possible?”. They start searching for mechanisms that would enable them to fulfill their needs. If they don’t find it, they stop searching and get frustrated. Subconsciously, they try to fulfill that need in other ways, compensating or patching. If it is possible, they they ask the question:

  3. Do I want it?”. In this step, the potential consumer that knows their need can be fulfilled, evaluates if there are enough resources and it is worth, in the present, to acquire the solution to this. If they want it, then they might do a study in the market and take into consideration what suits their desires best. The nightmare of a salesman is a potential client that thinks it is possible for his needs to be fulfilled, but doesn’t know what he wants. This is where clients’ education from the marketers steps into place.

     



A particular confusing thinking sequence for both potential customers and suppliers is the person who uses this sequence:

  1. Do I want it?”. Well, actually, the client might want it, but what that is, is so unclear that they might expect the supplier to untangle all of their thoughts and offer them exactly what they want, without even answering some questions. These people might have problems with reality, especially if the next question they ask is:

  2. Do I need it?”. Here comes the inner conflict: if they want it and don’t think they need it, they will suppress that wish until it will unexpectedly burst, becoming an impulse acquisition or a frustration. When and if the client eventually decides it is both desirable and necessary, they ask the question that verifies the reality in the end:

  3. Is it possible?”. If it isn’t, then all the thinking, and wanting, and the needing and all the inner conflicts about it have been in vane. Some people decide very early in their life to self-sabotage their buying strategies with this sequence, especially if their definition of “possible” is downgraded to money and common experience.

     



Another conditioning perspective is the one that starts with recognizing a need and deciding to allocate certain resources for that. This goes like this:

  1. What do I need?”. This can start with an honest investigation of one’s psychological and physiological needs. Do you know how much of the population actually knows what their needs are? Very, very little. So, more likely, these needs will be expressed or confounded with…

  2. What do I want?”. Once this determined to a certain extent, comes the question:

  3. Where can I get it?”. Now you see that his is a step which actually indirectly checks the reality, that is, the actual possibility. The more unclear are the first two formulated, the most likely it is for the consumer to actually buy something they don’t need an/or want. The cycle gets repeated, until either the client comes to the conclusion what he wants/needs isn’t possible or that he doesn’t want it/need it. Time goes by, frustration accumulates, until they start to wonder how it is possible for other people to get the correspondence between want and need. I consider these buyer deserve to be either educated, or left alone, but they require a lot of resources from the salesmen and they themselves don’t have a lot of resources.

     



The marketer, businessman or salesman perspective can be represented by the following sequence, which can be kind of challenging, but very rewarding for the supplier.

  1. Is it possible?”. Really? The didn’t know that! How cool can that be!

  2. Why would somebody need that?”. If the decision makes sense, then it means others see value in it, therefore it’s a good product. If the decision doesn’t seem to make sense, the concur it’s just some fluff some eccentric people might get fooled into buying, but not them.

  3. Why would I want this?”. Once a need established, then it means the client can compare all the options of fulfilling the established needs and, if the presented product is what satisfies their criteria, then they buy tons of it and they can recommend you to others, too. But, in order to do that, you must be a good salesman. If they find out something is possible that satisfies certain needs, they will choose what they want according to their criteria and they will eat salesmen on breakfast until they find exactly what they want. And if they don’t find it, they might be able to create it.

     

Ștefan Alexandrescu

marketer, NLP practitioner

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Live Blogging about the Oscars Ceremony 2017

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 27/02/2017

This post will be updated during the night as the ceremony unfolds. As every year, the Oscars are covered with live blogging as I watch on internet the ceremony. This year, the links I chose to watch the show online are targeted at the online view of the Pro 7 channel available at http://www.freeintertv.com/view/id-685 , http://wikitv.eu/pro7/ and http://oklivetv.com/prosieben-pro7-live/

You can also use the links http://www.gossipcop.com/oscars-live-stream-2017-watch-academy-awards-online/ , http://www.livenewschat.eu/the-oscars-live-stream/ and http://www.stream2watch.me/live-tv/abc-live-stream

Read about the predictions here http://www.metacritic.com/feature/predictions-for-2017-oscar-winners

I am watching the red carpet arrivals.

Sting says the song for which he was nominated “The Empty Chair” from Jim: The James Foley Story is the most important in his career.

Isabelle Huppert never had any reluctance about the role because she didn’t judge her character and accept her because she understands a woman who is looking for getting more understanding.

Justin Timberlake talks about the special feeling of sharing the songs and recognition with his son.

Halle Berry says the things are changing, considering there are black actors in every category for interpreting this year and the diversity is celebrated.

Viola Davis aprreciates how Denzel Washington as a director was so unselfish. She won a Tony award. She says that many women can relate to her role. It helped the actors that they played that role 14 times on the stage before.

Ryan Gosling says he didn’t know the movie would make such a big surprise. The 3rd time Ryan worked with Emma Stone and they have worked a lot in improvising.

Emma Stone presented to her parents a ppt called “Project Hollywood” to convince them to let them pursue her dream, but she didn’t expect to get here.

Justin Timberlake has an entry singing dancing number that heats up the night.

Jimmy Kimmel says that this country can’t be united. There is only one Braveheart in the room and he doesn’t think he can unite them.

He congratulates Meryl Streep and invites the whole hall to raise up and stand up to applaud her for her 20th nomination.

Alicia Vikander presents the award for

Best Supporting Actor
Mahershala Ali – Moonlight as Juan
Jeff Bridges – Hell or High Water as Marcus Hamilton
Lucas Hedges – Manchester by the Sea as Patrick Chandler
Dev Patel – Lion as Saroo Brierley
Michael Shannon – Nocturnal Animals as Detective Bobby Andes

First nomination and win for actor Mahershala Ali – thanks to the teachers who taught him that as an actor he is in the service of the characters. Thanks to his wife who just gave birth to his child and being a support for him during this process.

Jasom Bateman  presents

Best Makeup and Hairstyling
A Man Called Ove – Eva von Bahr and Love Larson
Star Trek Beyond – Joel Harlow and Richard Alonzo
Suicide Squad – Alessandro Bertolazzi, Giorgio Gregorini, and
Christopher Nelson

Alessandro dedicates this Oscar to all the immigrants.

Best Costume Design
Allied – Joanna Johnston
Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them – Colleen Atwood
Florence Foster Jenkins – Consolata Boyle
Jackie – Madeline Fontaine
La La Land – Mary Zophres

Colleen didn’t expect to win, thanks to director David Yates.

Janelle Monáe, Octavia Spencer and Taraji P. henson present the award for Best Documentary – Feature
Fire at Sea – Gianfranco Rosi and Donatella Palermo
I Am Not Your Negro – Raoul Peck, Rémi Grellety, and Hébert Peck
Life, Animated – Roger Ross Williams and Julie Goldman
O.J.: Made in America – Ezra Edelman and Caroline Waterlow
13th – Ava DuVernay, Spencer Averick, and Howard Barish

Ezra Edelman thanks for acknowledging this kind of unconventional story. It is a movie about criminal injustice.

Dwayne Johnson Presenter of the performance of Best Original Song nominee “How Far I’ll Go” from Moana – Music and Lyric by Lin-Manuel Miranda performed by Auli’i Cravalho

The president of the AMPAS delivers her political correct yearly speech.

Sophia Boutella and Chris Evans present the awards for sound.

Best Sound Editing
Arrival – Sylvain Bellemare
Deepwater Horizon – Wylie Stateman and Renée Tondelli
Hacksaw Ridge – Robert Mackenzie and Andy Wright
La La Land – Ai-Ling Lee and Mildred Iatrou Morgan
Sully – Alan Robert Murray and Bub Asman

Best Sound Mixing
Arrival – Bernard Gariépy Strobl and Claude La Haye
Hacksaw Ridge – Kevin O’Connell, Andy Wright, Robert Mackenzie, and Peter Grace
La La Land – Andy Nelson, Ai-Ling Lee, and Steve A. Morrow
Rogue One: A Star Wars Story – David Parker, Christopher
Scarabosio, and Stuart Wilson
13 Hours: The Secret Soldiers of Benghazi – Greg P. Russell, Gary
Summers, Jeffrey J. Haboush, and Mac Ruth

Kevin O’Connell has the 21th nomination and 1st win. 

Vince Vaughn presents the review of the Governors’ awards.

Mark Rylance presents the award for Best Supporting Actress
Viola Davis – Fences as Rose Lee Maxson
Naomie Harris – Moonlight as Paula
Nicole Kidman – Lion as Sue Brierley
Octavia Spencer – Hidden Figures as Dorothy Vaughan
Michelle Williams – Manchester by the Sea as Randi

Mark Rylance says we don’t have an award for actor in opposing role. Women are so good in playing parts of opposition without hate.

Viola Davis (hers 2nd Oscar) say acting is the only profession that celebrates what it is to live a life. Actors must tell those stories of people who dreamed, lost and forgave. She especially thanks Denzel Washington, which everybody applauds. Thanks to everyone who taught her how to win and how to lose. She thanks God for bringing her into the world.

Jimmy Kimmel thanks for the inspiration of David Letterman. Charlize Theron thanks Shirley MacLaine that inspired her to be an actress.

Charlize Theron and Shirley MacLaine come in. Everybody applauds them standing. They present

Best Foreign Language Film
Land of Mine (Denmark) in Danish – Martin Zandvliet
A Man Called Ove (Sweden) in Swedish – Hannes Holm
The Salesman (Iran) in Persian – Asghar Farhadi
Tanna (Australia) in Nauvhal – Martin Butler and Bentley Dean
Toni Erdmann (Germany) in German – Maren Ade

There has been read a statement from mr Farhadi that protests against the inhumane laws against immigrants, dividing the world between us and the others, the enemies, creating fear and excuse for warmongering. Films create empathy between we and others and we need this more than ever.

Dev Patel presents the song “The Empty Chair” from Jim: The James Foley Story – Music and Lyric by J. Ralph and Sting. Performed by Sting.

Gael Garcia Bernal and Heilee Steinfield present the Best Animated Short Film
Blind Vaysha – Theodore Ushev
Borrowed Time – Andrew Coats and Lou Hamou-Lhadj
Pear Cider and Cigarettes – Robert Valley and Cara Speller
Pearl – Patrick Osborne
Piper – Alan Barillaro and Marc Sondheimer

Alan thanks to his kids and especially to John Lasseter.

Gael Garcia Bernal protests against the building of the wall.

Gael Garcia Bernal and Heilee Steinfield present the award for Best Animated Feature Film
Kubo and the Two Strings – Travis Knight and Arianne Sutner
Moana – John Musker, Ron Clements, and Osnat Shurer
My Life as a Zucchini – Claude Barras and Max Karli
The Red Turtle – Michael Dudok de Wit and Toshio Suzuki
Zootopia – Byron Howard, Rich Moore, and Clark Spencer

One of the winners mentions tolerance being more important than fear of the others.

Dakota Johnson and Jamie Dornan present the award for Best Production Design and Set Decoration
Arrival – Patrice Vermette and Paul Hotte
Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them – Stuart Craig and Anna
Pinnock
Hail, Caesar! – Jess Gonchor and Nancy Haigh
La La Land – Sandy Reynolds-Wasco and David Wasco
Passengers – Guy Hendrix Dyas and Gene Serdena

The winners are husband and wife.

Jimmy Kimmel presents Hollywood tour of people surprising the ceremony and entering this room.

Felicity Jones and Riz Ahmed present the award for Best Visual Effects
Deepwater Horizon – Craig Hammeck, Jason Snell, Jason
Billington, and Burt Dalton
Doctor Strange – Stephane Ceretti, Richard Bluff, Vincent Cirelli,
and Paul Corbould
The Jungle Book – Robert Legato, Adam Valdez, Andrew R. Jones,
and Dan Lemmon
Kubo and the Two Strings – Steve Emerson, Oliver Jones, Brian
McLean, and Brad Schiff
Rogue One: A Star Wars Story – John Knoll, Mohen Leo, Hal
Hickel, and Neil Corbould

 3rd win of 4th nominations (Robert Legato), Adam 2 nominations, Andrew R. Jones 2nd award of 3 nominations. Dan Lemmon 1st award from 3 nominations.

Seth Rogen and Michael J. Fox present the award for Best Film Editing
Arrival – Joe Walker
Hacksaw Ridge – John Gilbert
Hell or High Water – Jake Roberts
La La Land – Tom Cross
Moonlight – Nat Sanders and Joi McMillon

Thanks to his wife Karen.

Sunny Pawar receives special attention from Jimmy Kemmel.

David Oyelowo and Selma Hayek present award for Best Documentary – Short Subject
Extremis – Dan Krauss
4.1 Miles – Daphne Matziaraki
Joe’s Violin – Kahane Cooperman and Raphaela Neihausen
Watani: My Homeland – Marcel Mettelsiefen and Stephen Ellis
The White Helmets – Orlando von Einsiedel and Joanna Natasegara

1st Oscar and 2nd nomination for both of them. They ask everyone to stand up to remember that everyone cares. They want the blood shed to stop in Syria.

David Oyelowo and Selma Hayek present the award Best Live Action Short Film
Ennemis Interieurs – Sélim Azzazi
La Femme et le TGV – Timo von Gunten and Giacun Caduff
Silent Nights – Aske Bang and Kim Magnusson
Sing – Kristóf Deák and Anna Udvardy
Timecode – Juanjo Giménez

These films come from 5 different countries.

Leslie Mann present the Academy’s Scientifical and Technical Awards

Javier Bardem was impressed by The Bridges of Madison County.

Javier Bardem and Meryl Streep enter the scene. Everyone applauds standing. We make movies about a truth hard to capture.

Best Cinematography
Arrival – Bradford Young
La La Land – Linus Sandgren
Lion – Greig Fraser
Moonlight – James Laxton
Silence – Rodrigo Prieto

Calls Damien a poetic genius. Thanks to his father who passed away.

Ryan Gosling and Emma Stone present the songs from La La Land, described with hope and melancholy.

“City of Stars” from La La Land – Music by Justin Hurwitz, Lyric by
Benj Pasek and Justin Paul performed by John Legend.

“Audition (The Fools Who Dream)” from La La Land – Music by
Justin Hurwitz, Lyric by Benj Pasek and Justin Paul

Jimmy Kimmel acknowledges Harold Wheeler who is the orchestra conductor backstage.

Samuel L. Jackson presents Best Original Score
Jackie – Mica Levi
La La Land – Justin Hurwitz
Lion – Dustin O’Halloran and Hauschka
Moonlight – Nicholas Britell
Passengers – Thomas Newman

Samuel L. Jackson says some movies are great because they make you cry, other because they make you laugh, but he prefers the movies that leave you humming and wondering if the score has been written for the screenplay or the other way around. 1st award of 3 nominas, all this year for Justin Hurwitz.

Scarlett Johanssen present the award for Best Original Song
“Audition (The Fools Who Dream)” from La La Land – Music by
Justin Hurwitz, Lyric by Benj Pasek and Justin Paul
“Can’t Stop the Feeling!” from Trolls – Music and Lyric by Justin
Timberlake, Max Martin, and Karl Johan Schuster (Shellback)
“City of Stars” from La La Land – Music by Justin Hurwitz, Lyric by
Benj Pasek and Justin Paul

“The Empty Chair” from Jim: The James Foley Story – Music and
Lyric by J. Ralph and Sting
“How Far I’ll Go” from Moana – Music and Lyric by Lin-Manuel
Miranda

In memoriam – my list is partial, I didn’t catch all the names Art Hiller, Tracey Scott, Bill Nunn, Alice Arlen, George Kennedy, Gene Wilder, Don P Harris Paul Sylbert Michael Cimino, Patty Duke Andrzej Wajda Emmanuelle Riva Anton Yelchin, Mary Tyler Moore, prince, Kenny Baker, John Hurt, Jim Clark, Norma Moriceau, Kit West, Lupita Tovar, Pat Conroy, Nancy Reagan, Abbas Kiarostami, Ken Howard, Garry Marshall, Hector Babebnco, Curtis Hanson, Zsa Zsa Gabor, Tony Gibbs, Richard Portman, Debbie Reynolds, Carrie Fischer, Om Puri

Matt Damon and Ben Affleck soon again on the Oscar stage, 20 years after Good Will Hunting present the award for Best Original Screenplay
20th Century Women – Mike Mills
Hell or High Water – Taylor Sheridan
La La Land – Damien Chazelle
The Lobster – Yorgos Lanthimos and Efthimis Filippou
Manchester by the Sea – Kenneth Lonergan

1st Oscar from 4 nominations for Kenneth Lonergan. Lonergan thanks Matt Damon as a film producer. Thanks wife Nellie says he’s going to try loving her more although he can’t. Also to his father who passed away earlier this year.

Amy Adams presents Best Adapted Screenplay
Arrival – Eric Heisserer from “Story of Your Life” by Ted Chiang
Fences – August Wilson from Fences by August Wilson
(posthumous nomination)
Hidden Figures – Allison Schroeder and Theodore Melfi from Saw Movie
Hidden Figures by Margot Lee Shetterly
Lion – Luke Davies from A Long Way Home by Saroo Brierley and
Larry Buttrose
Moonlight – Barry Jenkins and Tarell Alvin McCraney from In Moonlight Black Boys Look Blue by Tarell Alvin McCraney

Barry Jenkins declares this is an inspiration for all the non-conforming colored people.

Halle Berry presents award for Best Director
Denis Villeneuve – Arrival
Mel Gibson – Hacksaw Ridge
Damien Chazelle – La La Land
Kenneth Lonergan – Manchester by the Sea
Barry Jenkins – Moonlight

Damien enters Oscar history being the youngest film director winning this award at this age. He thanks the other nominees who have inspired him with their works. He says he had the chance to fall in love with his wife while working on La La Land. Her name is Olivia.

Brie Larson presents the award for Best Actor in a Leading Role
Casey Affleck – Manchester by the Sea as Lee Chandler
Andrew Garfield – Hacksaw Ridge as Desmond T. Doss
Ryan Gosling – La La Land as Sebastian Wilder
Viggo Mortensen – Captain Fantastic as Ben Cash
Denzel Washington – Fences as Troy Maxson

Casey says one of the first actors who was a model for him was Denzel and he met him tonight for the first time. Everybody applauds him standing. He thanks Matt Damon for creating this opportunity.

Leonardo DiCaprio presents the award for Best Actress
Isabelle Huppert – Elle as Michèle LeBlanc
Ruth Negga – Loving as Mildred Loving
Natalie Portman – Jackie as Jackie Kennedy
Emma Stone – La La Land as Mia Dolan
Meryl Streep – Florence Foster Jenkins as Florence Foster Jenkins

Warren Beatty and Faye Dunaway get applauds at the 50th anniversary of the movie Bonnie and Clyde. They promote diversity and freedom all over the world. They present the award for Best Picture
Arrival – Shawn Levy, Dan Levine, Aaron Ryder, and David Linde
Fences – Scott Rudin, Denzel Washington, and Todd Black
Hacksaw Ridge – Bill Mechanic and David Permut
Hell or High Water – Carla Hacken and Julie Yorn
Hidden Figures – Donna Gigliotti, Peter Chernin, Jenno Topping,
Pharrell Williams, and Theodore Melfi
La La Land – Fred Berger, Jordan Horowitz, and Marc Platt
Lion – Emile Sherman, Iain Canning, and Angie Fielder
Manchester by the Sea – Matt Damon, Kimberly Steward, Chris
Moore, Lauren Beck, and Kevin J. Walsh
Moonlight – Adele Romanski, Dede Gardner, and Jeremy Kleiner

Unbelievable! Warren Beatty goofed the winners: La La Land, also initially announced as the winner of the best picture award wasn’t. The producers got to go on the stage and deliver their thank you speeches when it turned out that actually Moonlight won the award for best picture. Jimmy Kemmel asks pardon for accidentally mixing the envelopes.

Top biggest winners – from movies having at least 2 nominations:

  1. La La Land 6 wins from 14 nominations
  2. Moonlight 3 wins from 8 nominations
  3. Hacksaw Ridge 2 wins from 6 nominations
  4. Arrival 1 win from 8 nominations
  5. Manchester by the Sea 1 win from 6 nominations
  6. Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them 1 win out of 2 nominations

Top biggest losers – o wins, from movies having at least 2 nominations:

  1. Lion – 6 nominations
  2. Fences – 4 nominations
  3. Hell or High Water 4 nominations
  4. Hidden Figures 3 nominations
  5. Jackie – 3 nominations
  6. A Man Called Ove – 2 nominations
  7. Moana – 2 nominations
  8. Florence Foster Jenkins – 2 nominations
    9. Passengers – 2 nominations
    9. Rogue One – 2 nominations
    9. Deepwater Horizon – 2 nominations

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Golden Globes Ceremony 2017 Live Blogging

Posted by Ştefan Alexandrescu on 09/01/2017

I am watching live online the ceremony at http://www.vercanalestv.com/ver-canal-plus-estrenos-en-directo-y-online-las-24h/ .

I am going to update this article every few minutes as the event progresses.

Jimmy Fallon is the presenter of the show and it’s set for a grand opening number.

At 4 PM Western Coast Time / 7 PM Eastern Coast Time / 3 AM Romanian time the ceremony begins.

Jimmy Fallon has a La-la Land moment entry via Moonlight. He crosses by Tina Fey ignoring her. “Manchester by the Sea” is the only thing that was more depresssing than 2016 itself, says Fallon.

Ryan Reynolds and Emma Stone presents the nominations for Best Supporting Actor, any Motion Picture
Mahershala Ali, Moonlight
Jeff Bridges, Hell Or High Water
Simon Helberg, Florence Foster Jenkins
Dev Patel, Lion
Aaron Taylor-Johnson, Nocturnal Animals

Aaaron thanks Tom Ford for the script and insists on the connection with his wife and his father.

The next award is Best Actor Television Series, Drama
Rami Malek, Mr. Robot
Bob Odenkirk, Better Call Saul
Matthew Rhys, The Americans
Liev Schreiber, Ray Donovan
Billy Bob Thornton, Goliath

David E. Kelley’s new TV series has received the first important Golden Globe award of the night. It’s Billy Bob Thornton’s second Golden Globe in 16 nominations of his entire career.

Hugh Grant presents the film “Florence Foster Jenkins”.

Drew Barrymoore and Timothy Olyphant present the award for Best Actress Television Series, Musical or Comedy
Rachel Bloom, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend
Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Veep
Sarah Jessica Parker, Divorce
Issa Rae, Insecure
Gina Rodriguez, Jane The Virgin

Tracee Elliss Ross, Black-ish

She dedicates this to the community of black women and thanks for the opportunity of being part of conveying such an important message. She thanks her husband.

Best Television Series, Musical or Comedy
Atlanta
Black-ish
Mozart in the Jungle
Transparent
Veep

Donald Glover, creator and star of the show, thanks for the interest for the subject and the black community of Atlanta.

Lorenzo Soria, the president of the Hollywood Foreign Press hold a speech. We have to take into considerations the injustices and the joys of the life.

Vince Vaughn presents the film Hacksaw Ridge.

Best Actress, Limited Series or Motion Picture made for TV, award presented by Nicole Kidman and Rheese Whitherspoon
Riley Keough, The Girlfriend Experience
Sarah Paulson, The People v. O.J. Simpson: American Crime Story
Charlotte Rampling, London Spy
Kerry Washington, Confirmation
Felicity Huffman, American Crime

Up is the award for Best TV Limited Series or Motion Picture made for TV
American Crime
The Dresser
The Night Manager
The Night Of
The People v. O.J. Simpson: American Crime Story

The People v. O.J. Simpson: American Crime Story wins the Golden Globe for best mini-series and Best Actress, Limited Series or Motion Picture made for TV, Sarah Paulson

 

Annette Bening presents 20th Century Women

Naomi Campbell presents the Best Supporting Actor, Limited Series or Motion Picture for TV
Sterling K. Brown, The People v. O.J. Simpson: American Crime Story
Hugh Laurie, The Night Manager
John Lithgow, The Crown
Christian Slater, Mr. Robot
John Travolta, The People v. O.J. Simpson: American Crime Story

Sophia Vargara presents the daughters of Sylvester Stallone.

Sting presents award for Best Orginal Score, Motion Picture
Nicholas Britell, Moonlight
Justin Hurwitz, La La Land
Jóhann Jóhannsson, Arrival
Dustin O’Halloran, Hauschka, Lion
Hans Zimmer, Pharrell Williams, Benjamin Wallfisch, Hidden Figures

Sting presents award for Best Original Song, Motion Picture
‘Can’t Stop The Feeling!’, Trolls
‘City Of Stars, Justin Hurwitz, Benj Pasek, Justin Paul’, La La Land
‘Faith’, Sing
‘Gold, Gold
‘How Far I’ll Go’, Moana

John Legend presents La La Land.

Michael Keaton presents the award for Best Supporting Actress, any Motion Picture
Viola Davis, Fences
Naomie Harris, Moonlight
Nicole Kidman, Lion
Octavia Spencer, Hidden Figures
Michelle Williams, Manchester By The Sea

Everybody appluds her speech standing. She was nominated 5 times. She was very emotioned.

Cuba Gooding, Jr presents Best Supporting Actress, Limited Series or Motion Picture for TV
Olivia Colman, The Night Manager
Lena Headey, Game Of Thrones
Chrissy Metz, This Is Us
Mandy Moore, This Is Us
Thandie Newton, Westworld

The limited TV series “The Night Manager” based on John Le Carre wins 3 Golden Globes for best actors: Tom Hiddleston and Hugh Laurie and for best supporting actress: Olivia Colman

Dev Patel and Sunny Pawar present Lion.

Goldie Hawn and Amy Schumer present award for best actor, Musical or Comedy

Colin Farrell, The Lobster
Ryan Gosling, La La Land
Hugh Grant, Florence Foster Jenkins
Jonah Hill, War Dogs
Ryan Reynolds, Deadpool

First award for Ryan Gosling out of 5 nominations. “This isn’t the first time I was confounded with Ryan Reynolds”. He says the award belongs to also Emma Stone and Damian Chazelle. He thanks to his brother, Juan Carlos Mendez.

Felicity Jones and Diego Luna present award for  Best Screenplay, Motion Picture
Damien Chazelle, La La Land
Tom Ford, Nocturnal Animals
Barry Jenkins, Moonlight
Kenneth Lonergan, Manchester By The Sea
Taylor Sheridan, Hell Or High Water

Kirsten Wiig and Steve Carrell present award for Best Motion Picture, Animated

They have the best comical moment of the evening. They “recall” the first animated feature seen at cinema. His parents got divorced after it and never seen father again and she saw the movie Bambi after her 3 dogs died.

Kubo And The Two Strings
Moana
My Life As A Zucchini
Sing
Zootopia

The creators say this is actually an animated movie for the adults.

In memoriam moment Carrie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds

Casey Affleck presents Manchester by Sea.

Best Motion Picture, Foreign Language
Divines – Frances
Elle – France
Neruda – Chile
The Salesman – Iran, France
Toni Erdmann – Germany

Paul Verhoeven is amazed and especially thanks Isabelle Huppert.

Anna Kendrick and Justin Theroux present award for Best Actor, Limited Series or Motion Picture made for TV
Riz Ahmed, The Night Of go over by?
Bryan Cranston, All The Way
Tom Hiddleston, The Night Manager
John Turturro, The Night Of
Courtney B. Vance, The People v. O.J. Simpson: American Crime Story

Jake Gyllenhall presents a Ryan Reynolds movie: Deadpool

Laura Dern presents the Golden Globe for Best Actress Television Series, Drama
Caitriona Balfe, Outlander
Claire Foy, The Crown
Keri Russell, The Americans
Winona Ryder, Stranger Things
Evan Rachel Wood, Westworld

First award, first nomination, shock. It’s difficult to play a real character.

Best Television Series, Drama
Game Of Thrones
Stranger Things
This Is Us
Westworld
The Crown

Ocdtavia Spencer presents the Golden Globe (Cecil B. DeMille award) for the whole career Meryl Streep. “You make me proud to be an artist”. The most celebrated actress of our times. 30 Golden Globe nominations, 18 Academy Awards nominations. 8 Golden Globes. 3 Oscars. It is a priviledge being an actor. It is important to celebrate the empathy that allows us to do this. She emphasizes the importance of telling powerful stories in a world full of violence. Since 1952, the Cecil B. DeMille award has been given to 14 women.

Chris Pine congratulates Meryl Streep for the best speech of the night and presents Hell or High Water.

Sienna Miller, Zoey Saldana and Ben Affleck present the award for Best Director, Motion Picture
Damien Chazelle, La La Land
Tom Ford, Nocturnal Animals
Mel Gibson, Hacksaw Ridge
Barry Jenkins, Moonlight
Kenneth Lonergan, Manchester By The Sea

Mandy Moore presents the award for Best Actor Television Series, Musical or Comedy
Anthony Anderson, Black-ish
Gael G. Bernal, Mozart in the Jungle
Donald Glover, Atlanta
Nick Nolte, Graves
Jeffrey Tambor, Transparent

Matt Damon presents the award of Best Actress Motion Picture, Musical or Comedy
Annette Bening, 20th Century Women
Lily Collins, Rules Don’t Apply
Hailee Steinfeld, The Edge of Seventeen
Emma Stone, La La Land
Meryl Streep, Florence Foster Jenkins

Emma Stone thanks to her long time girl-friends. Thanks to Damian and Ryan. This is a film for dreamers. Any creative person opens a door and the movie is a triumph of inspiration for those who deserve to go on.

Brad Pitt, producer of Moonlight, presents his production.

Jessica Chastain presents the Best Motion Picture, Musical or Comedy
20th Century Women
Deadpool
Florence Foster Jenkins
La La Land
Sing Street

La La Land wins 7 awards out of 7 nominations and sweeps its way to film history. THIS IS THE HIGHEST GOLDEN GLOBE WINNER IN ALL FILM HISTORY (73 YEARS OF AWARD).

 

Brie Larson presents the award for Best Actor Motion Picture, Drama
Casey Affleck, Manchester By The Sea
Joel Edgerton, Loving
Andrew Garfield, Hacksaw Ridge
Viggo Mortensen, Captain Fantastic
Denzel Washington, Fences

Leonardo DiCaprio presents the award for  Best Actress Motion Picture, Drama
Amy Adams, Arrival
Jessica Chastain, Miss Sloan
Isabelle Huppert, Elle
Ruth Negga, Loving
Natalie Portman, Jackie

Isabelle Huppert says the film doesn’t create borders.

In honor of Rocky, 40 years ago, Carl Whithers and Sylvester Stallone appear on the scene and present the award for best feature Drama
Hacksaw Ridge
Hell Or High Water
Lion
Manchester By The Sea
Moonlight

Everyone applauds standing.

The participants from the crew in the hall get on the scene.

 

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