360-Degrees Feedback

 “I wish that the people around me would look into me and not at me.”

Bianca Roxana Ionel

Some people have curtain-like contexts, others wall-like contexts”, says Richard Bandler. If you ask 20 people about yourself and then send their opinions, you’d better be aware of the fact that there might be reactions of the type “I never thought that somebody could consider X this way…”.

An important challenge for anybody wanting to “sell” themselves is the fact that people are wonderful, beautiful, and unique in their own way, but some of them don’t really want to find out how wonderful, beautiful and unique they are, because they insist on showing others how they think they really are, a perception of the type “no, let me tell you: I am beautiful, so and so!”… without really knowing themselves.

Each of those sending you feedback regarding yourself essentially replies, to a larger or smaller extent, through certain mirrors, projections, and resonances with you concerning several attributes, i.e. “I have or I wish I had what I like about yourself” and “I don’t have or I don’t like about myself what I don’t like about you.”

In my personal experience, I have noted that those who give you the most valuable feedback work a lot with people and/or artistic details, having an excellent intuition about the profound knowledge of people due to the nature of their field of professional activity.

In reality, there are no problems and defects, unless pathology occurs. There are things about yourself that are bothering you enough to consider that they are worth being changed and you choose to take a conscious step to change them, and things that you consider are not worth being changed.

The most obvious things are true: education and self-education factors; certain convictions which, although useful, generate problems in other areas; the available space and time for managing the resources; the importance given to the formal aspect-related matters, etc. These are the main factors that must be taken into account. However, they serve as a context for understanding certain mechanisms and not as excuses. The others most often don’t perceive the causes, but the effects.

The expectations of others belong to others. There will always be things about yourself that others wouldn’t like. Or, as Bob Hope used to say, “the safest way to unhappiness is trying to please everybody.”

All of those that we choose to communicate with are partial mirrors. All of them create a more important part of your identity. Their union is you. Showing who you are to all of them is a futile “baring”. Matching one’s mutual parts and speaking their language is a respect policy. The better you get along with several people, the less you find yourself in them!

If you liked this article, then I also recommend these to you:

List of articles on personal branding

The dynamics of metaprograms 

The 360-degree evaluation devised by Marcus Victor Grant – general principles

The Image or the Brand

Imagined mirrors of the absolute

Marcus Victor Grant

Communication strategy and human resources consultant

Copyright (C) Marcus Victor Grant 2010-2014 Translation by Cristiana Brezeanu of the article “Feed-back la 360 de grade” published initially in Romanian on 28.6.2014 on Discerne

Marcus Victor Grant

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