DOs and DON’Ts about SADNESS


  • Set boundaries/limits;
  • Respect and experience your emotion;
  • Search/source for secure bases;

For example, it is helpful to call someone who understands your sadness or to look for an environment that creates security. Sadness can happen to you; it is not a choice. However, being alone with sadness is a choice;

  • Creatively express the emotion.

For example, painting, theatre, drawing, writing, and metaphors.

Sometimes, people find it hard to speak openly about their emotions.



  • Turn sadness into an addiction;

Confuse your needs. All adapted patterns arise from the conviction that the child’s ego state doesn’t need to express their emotions.

  • Sabotage yourself;

Sometimes, the moment/environment isn’t right for you to express an emotion when it appears. Emotions are deeds. It is preferable and sometimes necessary to postpone expressing emotion as such rather than to turn it into a racket or to ignore it.

Marcus Victor Grant

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