What does listening imply? The ability of virtually anyone to meet their needs by employing technology has raised the following issue. Everyone who wants to express themselves has to face increasing competition for an increasingly unavailable resource: the limited attention of the interlocutor. One of the main functions of listening is validation. This issue is… Read More In Search of Lost Listening
Customize! Many of us live under the impression that there are certain “types of people” that we get along better with and others that we don’t get along with. But, in fact, we like those who are like us or those who are as we wish we were. Precisely for this reason, the objectivity of… Read More How to Speak Everyone’s Language
When you have a team of people working in task-oriented activities, such as specific projects requiring phases and deadlines, it’s essential to use a few necessary tools. Intrinsic motivation is the one that makes people act on their own initiative. It makes them happy and proud to be working on a particular project or for… Read More The Difference Between Intrinsic and Extrinsic Motivation
I created a personal development exercise based on a similar one designed by Harry Faddis and promoted by Betty Martin (the 3 minutes exercise, based on the model of the wheel of the consent). I think it can be a powerful tool in creating a connection between people, as long as it is done video+audio.… Read More The Self-Expression and Listening Exercise I Developed
You have discovered a testimonial and its benefits to the personal brand. After that, we found together from whom to request it and how. But, just as you should not count your chickens before they are hatched, you do not always get what you wish the way you requested it! So, what do you do… Read More The Testimonial, Set in Stone as the Referent Gave It?
This is the original series of 11 articles that make up the paraphrase of Mircea Eliade’s work from the ’30s. It is titled the same way as the broader tag: The Art of Respecting Others (30 articles) The Art of Respecting Message Actually Living Communication. Between investing and spending. The Modern Buttons of the… Read More The Art of Respecting Others, by Marcus Victor Grant
“I’m telling you this with hope in my heart and trust that offering patience to the initiative I’m going to tell you about will create an important and long-awaited change. Before telling you what I’m going to tell you about, thank you for listening to me, as I am sure you will consider my message… Read More To Manipulate Or Not to Manipulate, That Is the Question
“Sometimes, a cigar is just a cigar“ Sigmund Freud According to Alfred Korzybski [en, wiki], the greatest epistemologist of the XXth century, in his work “Science and Sanity” [complete book, en, HTML index, pdf chapters], for example, in the case of the word “pen”, when I take it in my hand, and I say: “This… Read More “The Art of Personal Branding”, or Sometimes, a “Pen” is Just a Pen. But Sometimes It Isn’t.
I have once seen a man in a grand library, sitting at a table, with a piece of paper and a pen in front of him, without doing anything. Yet, around him, there were tens of busy people with book piles on the table, notes, charts, and all sorts of written, colorful papers. And, of… Read More Photo-Reading People
We frenetically type away our lives. We write off the words, throwing them like a depreciated currency when sometimes less is more. “More, more, even more”: clicks, links, tags, tweets, posts, pics, blogs, lists. More avatars [en, wiki]. More input to type away the lack of proper stimuli for authentic communication. Ultimately, we are left… Read More Less Is More. Until It Becomes Nothing.
We must learn not to be afraid of communication. On the contrary, we must learn to live without the obsession with communication. We must learn to get as much out of our messages dedicated to working. Still, we must also master the art of respecting others by communicating with them through deeply relating and less… Read More The Windmills of Your Mind
We should, at least, have a few moments of doubt faced with each person; maybe that human being holds a tragedy, or maybe (s)he lives a miracle, inconsistent with the frameworks of your pattern. Who can tell? (S)he who does not know how to dissipate his or her communication always acts out automatically: you left-click,… Read More Transcending Patterns of Communication
Suppose certain simple truths do not circulate and do not nourish digital people’s lives. In that case, it is because nobody listens to these simple truths, although they are tweeted, posted, googled, embedded, linked, mashed-up, youtubed, chain lettered and I must admit, in some very, very special, more rare cases… pop-up-ed (rarely pop-under-ed). Nobody respects… Read More The Art of Listening Others. Version 2.1.
True communication dissipation indicates a full tank of thought, a provisional suspending of present certitudes, but also keeps attention, lucidity, and presence. However, contrary to true communication dissipation, digital fun buttons [en, blog] create and impose attention external to oneself. That is, like once upon a time within the previous century, the case for web 1.0… Read More Across-Messages Communication
The avatar civilization [en, blog] may characterize the whole style of our digital era by what is now perceived through instant multi-messaging: a paradoxically stone-like state, which allows us, even more, conditions us (as the freedom to which we have become captive on our way to embrace it [en, video]) to be in one particular… Read More “Soul” File is Write-Protected. Are You Sure You Want to Delete It?
I was writing previously in this series about the difference between experiencing communication dissipation by living it or rather than by wasting it. Digital people always have a fast track button to push for “:) fun :)”, and when that is missing, they have a sleep. They are never alone. They always have all kinds… Read More The Modern Buttons of the Digital People.
It seems this happiness – which is also an admirable (self-)knowledge instrument – has been long forgotten. And it has been forgotten, mainly because the digital people, a.k.a. “aware people”, don’t know how to treasure their fellow man, and not so much the fellow man, but the fellow man nearest to them. They don’t respect… Read More Actually Living Communication. Between Investing and Spending.
As I mentioned in the articles “Respect” and “Time Dissipating Made Into an Art“, I will start this July publishing a series of articles under the category “The Art of Respecting Others“. Great thinkers express ideas. Grandiose, brilliant ideas. Each one sees in these ideas what one wants to find. If you search for a… Read More The Art of Respecting Message
Launched in international world premiere in 2009 at Sarajevo and awarded at Transilvania International Film Festival 2010, today a masterpiece comes on the Romanian screens. Wednesday, I’ve been to the press release organized by Tabu. Congratulations to Cristina Bazavan for her great PR work – Tabu Oscar Party [ro, html] and this particular meeting between… Read More Time Dissipating Made into an Art
Today I’ve decided to write about something a little bit more abstract and significantly impacts each of our lives. So my notion of respect might be rather particular. I think each person, as a human being, deserves respect as a default right. Of course, rights can sometimes be suspended, but never a priori. I do… Read More Respect