How It Feels to Live With a Chronic Tooth Infection

If you read this, then you personally or professionally know me pretty well and it doesn’t matter if we talk in English, Romanian or Italian. I just wrote it in English because I know you’ll understand it.

I don’t usually like to talk about my problems (or even publicly express my emotions about them), but I really wanted to convey what is happening in my life right now and hope you will understand me better. It’s also a rare exercise in expressing myself about a sensitive topic.

I have a chronic tooth infection that I am still treating, and dealing with the side effects of some of the treatment as well.

This statement seems like a pretty short reasonable summary of the worst nightmare I have ever experienced in my adult life. And it’s not over yet. Most people seem to not understand why don’t I just go to some dentist, get a simple extraction, and get it over with, many have very well thought recommendations and solutions that worked for THEM.

After reading several books and listening to more than 60 hours from top experts in the field of dentistry worldwide, please trust me when I’m telling you that teeth infections are among the most complex and dangerous health problems that an adult can have. Unless you studied medicine, it’s likely that by now, I know some stuff about teeth that you don’t, so let’s just leave it at that for the moment.

Teeth infections affect different people differently. I know now that one tooth infection is enough to start ruining your health. I also understand WHY this happened to me. Medical experts from 5 countries (Italy, Austria, Argentina, Romania and Greece) have closely looked at my specific X-rays (both 2D and 3D) and gave me relevant insight into them. To make it simpler, one of the reasons I reached this point is my utter ignorance about my dental health. I got to this point by trusting inexperienced or even unprofessional dental workers to whom I have inadvertently delegated control and responsibility for my health. Shame on me for trusting them, even though nobody taught me how to select a medic I could trust about my teeth. Did you get taught that?

I believe that one of the important lessons of the global crisis we are going through is that any human being has the freedom to choose the treatment they consider appropriate (especially when there is risk involved) and take responsibility for this. This is what I have been trying to do for the past three months: taking responsibility for the situation I am in by treating the issue in my own rhythm considering the advice of who I choose.

After 20 days of treatment with antibiotic finished in early April 2022, the pain and the nasty sensations that made me consider killing myself have momentarily gone. Unfortunately, my gut didn’t react well to the antibiotics. I have started experiencing excruciating side effects on the digestive side which, among others, have stopped my creativity, which is one of my main professional ways of making money. On some days, this is impairing my ability to work or think properly. I’m sure you have some suggestions about that as well, that worked for YOU.

Actually, not only am I convinced I will manage to override this current situation, but I am determined to make this into a mission of supporting people in many countries of the world so that they wouldn’t go through what I went through or, if they actually have similar problems, how can they find the solutions that are right for THEM.

While I am working on my path, I am and will continue to be in pain, which raises the issue: “why so much effort?”, “if it’s not working, why don’t you try something else?”. Oh, it’s working alright (although slowly), and I am confident will soon have the medical analysis to prove that it does. But the problem is not the pain. I find fascinating the illusion that making the pain go away fixes the problem when it actually postpones it or makes it bigger.

If you think about it, could you also, as you are reading this article, have teeth problems that could get you killed in time if you don’t get informed about it? Guess what… not having (enough) pain can sometimes be part of the problem. So if YOU feel disturbed about MY pain, then maybe you might have a problem with pain. My intention was never to just fix the pain. I want to fix the cause of the problem. I’m not there yet, but I’m on my path.

So, to be more exact, I have 2 teeth infections. One of them has been the unfortunate development of the work improperly done by a dentist in 2010. The infection has been confirmed by CBCT scans, several local x-rays and a panoramic X-ray and has been confirmed to be growing significantly in the past months. The second has been an unfortunate development of the work improperly done by a dentist early 2022. This infection is smaller and has been detected on a panoramic X-ray. The solution both infections is extraction followed by a proper cleaning of the infected bone tissue, that needs to be done by a maxillo-facial surgeon.

At the same time, I have been going through the simultaneous nightmare I have described here. While I am still navigating through these issues, clients and collaborators were expecting me to continue to perform, do everything on time.. or even be able to do them at all. Right.

This was a challenge for me because I could not admit (first of all to myself) that I am no longer able to do some activities. It’s even harder to admit to others, but it was necessary. I had to stop collaborations, lose clients, miss opportunities, return (pay back) advances given, get confronted with evaluations of my inefficiency, and step back from some initiatives.

Yet, I am stubborn enough to see in this nightmare an opportunity and I’ll tell you why.

I am not singled out in what I’m going through. There are many millions of people who share similar experiences and emotions. The fear of dentists is very near to the one of dying and public speaking. I read that one research showed that even 31% of dental students are afraid of dentists! Their fear is legitimate and should be taken seriously even though their arguments are solid or not.

Competent dentists have their own problems as well. Some of those I most obviously noticed are marketing and customer care. Even though medical schools usually insures a good enough marketing preparation, it seems that many dental practitioners somehow become convinced over their career that they are some sort of gods and the patients are some negligible insects attached to the teeth they are supposed to be treating. In the opinion of these doctors, patients should better not ask questions, require second opinions, and get further analysis besides that suggested by them because doing so would be heresy, unfaithfulness and as jealous gods (to be read: control freaks) they may get irritated if the patient doesn’t grant them from starters their full trust and confidence. This is not a competence issue. This is a professionalism and personality issue.

Both patients who are afraid and competent dental suppliers need support in meeting in the middle. The only question is how to get to those who are willing to. This is something I intend to figure out with an entrepreneurial mindset as soon as possible.

If you are curious to find out more (or even contribute to my mission), please write to me to [at] gmail [dot] com.

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Marcus Victor Grant

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