In my personal development experience, I have found that there are benefits that can be gained both from working on your own using neuro-linguistic programming instruments (for solving problems or reaching specific objectives), and from observing from the outside, and learning by demonstration and possibly from mistakes in applying particular techniques.
The main goal of any training I participate in is to become familiar with new processes I can use later with my clients and me. Most often, after participating in a training session where specific skills are to be practiced, we are tempted to leave practice for later, if required, without giving importance to a discipline related to constantly training skills and learning new techniques. How many techniques did you practice with yourself and other clients from what you learned in a formation/certification in NLP, timeline therapy, social panorama, psychodrama, sociodrama, coaching, counseling, or consulting?
That’s why I intend to find partners for a fascinating practical journey into skill training using the multitude of free theoretical descriptions available for NLP procedures that can be practiced. Actually, I have already been doing so since 2016. In 2 years and a half, I have practiced observation of more than 40 different techniques with myself, adding essential resources to my toolkit as a consultant and changing my life and clients’ lives.
The type of techniques I intend to work on during this practice is new, and I haven’t worked on them before, or I have only worked on them once, some time ago, and I would like to get more familiar with them.
The frequency of the Skype sessions for this purpose would be once every 2 weeks, for an observation session which is expected to last 1-2 hours (depending on the complexity of the technique and the content).
Suppose you are willing to be my partner in this journey. In that case, we need to agree on the fact that neither of us has any material or financial claims or owes in any way to the other for this particular collaboration – it is something voluntary, set with a specific frequency, and upon a jointly agreed date, which can be interrupted by either of us at any time, without any complaint, which implies discretion and confidentiality (i.e., I expect you not to share with other persons the unique content that we have worked on using these techniques).
The main goal for the observer is that by following the process that I am working with myself as both a consultant and a client (s), he would carefully take note of critical differences in the non-verbal and paraverbal language, possible mistakes about the procedure, and give improvement suggestions regarding the use of the technique in the future.
Potential benefits for me resulting from this activity:
– I learn to better use some techniques, which, after successfully applying them once or twice, I can later apply in consultancy, coaching, mentoring, or training with my clients for a fee.
– I benefit from outside objective opinion, a perspective that I haven’t thought of, which I cannot help from if I simply recorded myself and watched the recording later – this accelerates my learning process
– I solve certain personal matters
Potential benefits for you, the observer:
– you observe, by demonstration, how to use specific techniques which can also be of interest to you, and we can discuss the experience of practicing them immediately after the exercise
– you train your abilities to be an observer of the verbal and non-verbal behaviors
– you have a contribution to my personal development
– you can have insights related to specific topics whose content could be interesting/familiar
– sometimes, it can be fun (depending on the content or development)
What do you think? Would you be available for approx? 1-2 hours every 2 weeks to work in this respect if we set it in good time?
Your tasks as an observer:
– stop potential auditive or visually disturbing factors during our session
– remain silent as soon as the process has started
– follow the procedure process
– write down what you find to be interesting
– share sensations after the process has completely finished (non-verbal, paraverbal, verbal observations, patterns, differences, etc.)
– keep the confidentiality of the discussed content
Basic requirements for the observer:
passion and interest in personal development
active listening skills
body language observing knowledge
contrastive analysis skills
If you feel interested, please send me a mail at Marcus.Victor.Grant [at] gmail [dot] com, and let’s have a meeting on Skype to discuss it!
Marcus Victor Grant
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