The journey of life in my youth
In my life, I remember I missed 2 chances to tell the story of my life’s journey. Once, it was a blogging contest in which I didn’t have time to properly compete, but I promised the organizer of the contest, a well-respected Romanian blogger, I would think about it and write. Another time, I was invited to tell the story of my life in a 15 minutes speech from a transgenerational perspective, and I hesitated.
I now have more. I have put together everything I have learned through studying communication sciences, economy, psychology, personal development, and everything in my experience, knowledge, and practice. Thus, I have discovered the solutions to living a whole life, a life worth living, and satisfying your values, whichever they might be.
Looking at the steps I found, I must admit it shouldn’t be too much of a surprise. Given the theoretical knowledge I had even in, let’s say, 2007, I could have generally written this series of articles I’m beginning today. But, unfortunately, it would have been without the tools, the words, and the precision I now have after working myself with these tools and with different clients, assisting them in significant breakthroughs.
The limiting beliefs of others
In my ’20s, I was told quite often things like:
- You claim to know things about too various fields. You have to specialize and get just a few things right.
- It’s no wonder so few people buy your services: it’s hard for them to believe you know so much being so young.
- You claim too much attention and offer too little credibility for most people to get interested.
- Who do you think you are? Nobody dares to ask so many questions!
- It’s not nice to criticize people in public, you’d better mind your own business ’cause you’re not perfect.
- Your life is all work and no fun.
- When are you settling down, getting a job, and building a family?
There’s a suitable time for everything.
Many people who told me these things are either over their heads in debt, stuck, sick, depressed, alone, or in combination. Somewhere along with the implementation of their life beliefs, something went wrong. They don’t know what. Even I didn’t know what until recently. They tried to do things in the wrong order, and they got stuck. Some sooner, others later. Some of them have some fail-safes or resources and keep on going on. Others keep heading towards social disasters and, even worse, inner disasters. Therefore, what is the correct order and why?
I am aware that for those who cherish options so much that you think any procedural approach would suck the juice out of life, this might be too much of a cookie. I’m not saying that you can’t succeed in your life or career unless you do the following steps in this particular order. I’m just saying that you won’t be living at your full potential and will likely get stuck at some point.
Of course, taking each of these steps is something you need to be rewarded for and congratulated for since I reckon that the large majority of the population of Earth gets none.
Program yourself for success
Human beings are born with an emotional wireframe and with talents. To live a rich and fulfilling life, each person must discover and develop his/her abilities to create and share with others. Through synergy, people thrive.
People must respect their emotional wireframes to use their unique talents and develop synergy. To do that, they need proper dynamic education, which parents or caretakers should offer.
There are certain natural levels of development. Each class is appropriate for a certain period in life. To develop, people must experience the proper working of their emotional wireframe. This new series of articles presents which are, in my opinion, some steps for development in the correct order.
Suppose (as often happens) the parents/caretakers have provided partially improper software for using this emotional wireframe. In that case, the future adult gets stuck in emotional issues, limiting beliefs, and wastes resources (especially time) instead of developing.
What helps you reach a certain level stops you from going to the next one. To fully experience a certain level of development and let go of low levels, people need to fix maladaptive schemas (dysfunctional life strategies). Such schemas are not being fixed just by replacing the software (what you think and feel) because the wireframe has also been damaged through improper use (traumas, abuses, failures). Therefore, a hybrid approach implying emotional and rational techniques must be used to set the course right. Fixing maladaptive schemas will not magically “break the spell” of the misfunctioning wireframe. Still, it may provide the behavioral flexibility to generate new experiences by adequately using the wireframe (“powerful positive experiences”).
Using the emotional wireframe correctly leads to positive emotions and development, so evolution. Mission the other hand, using the wireframe leads to negative emotions, psychiatric illness, and involution.
So, if you have done any of these steps, no matter what order, then congratulations! If you did two of these steps, it means you have moved. If you did three steps, it means that you discovered how to walk. Did you do that in the right direction? But you have to master all 12 to dance and shine. Are you ready? Please take this as an exercise in thought, as I will publish the rest of the articles from the new series “How to Live a Fulfilling Life” in November.
Part II. The First 4 Out of 12 Steps, In the Right Order
part III. Steps 5-8 Out of 12, In the Right Order
Last Part. Steps 9-12 Out of 12, In the Right Order
Marcus Victor Grant
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