I have once seen a man in a grand library, sitting at a table, with a piece of paper and a pen in front of him, without doing anything. All around him, there were tens of busy people, with book piles on the table, notes, charts and all sorts of written, colorful papers. And of course, as an extension of their bodies, their laptops.
All working, all mind lined to that ineffective vocal subconscious reading (below 1000 words/minute), all typing now and then some attention-grabbing ideas they came across their mind patterns, wasting away the communication, typing away meaning [en, blog].
Only my man wasn’t doing anything. But he wasn’t dreaming either. He was playing around with pen on paper, drawing something from time to time, like a circle, or a square, or a parallelepiped [en, wiki] or scribbling without writing any words restraining meaning, then he was leaning his looks against the hall. He did this for a few hours.
He seemed nor fatigued, nor bored. He was simply dissipating communication, paying attention to all lack of communication surrounding him. I had then the impression that man was an extremely wise man.
I have met him a few days ago, and then I realized my impression was correct. He was, truly, a great wise human being, one which deeply understood people. In those moments, in those instants of communication, between instances of communication wasting, he was actually dissipating communication, while playing with his little pen on paper or looking at the students and scholars all around the library.
Just visualize him into an ocean of possibilities, dissipating communication. He did not follow a thought, nor was he being swept away by any mental movies, photos, sounds or emotions. That man was respectfully letting all those shapes, figures, tics, gestures, words around him to come closer, to naturally enter into the specter of his communication.
He was receiving it all without any catalog classifications [en, blog], patterns, tags, types, captcha, lists, groups, directories, folders, networks, accounts, may they be mental, drawn, drafted or virtual.
He probably gave up, in all those moments for dissipating communication, of all certitudes, to all his mental rigors, enforced by the mind-clipping technology of the digital man. That is why he did not delete, distort or omit anything. That’s why he naturally, respectfully took into consideration all that happening around him. His view was totally defocused. He was being present.
He has chosen a library for this exercise because, as he told me, only in a library, were people lost in their communication and still silent. Only in a library’s reading room can he notice so many people, without feeling burdened by them and without disturbing them at the same time.
The people working there were following so carefully the lines of the books they were reading and still so silent, that they were not hiding their true self, not controlling their gestures, while the inner dialogue was rambling, absorbed by the flow of information into their inner game [en, wiki].
My wise friend was not observing them; observation would have required too much attention, too much rigor. He was OK with simply letting them near his conscience. He was dissipating communication, he was not observing. That’s why he ended up knowing people so fine. That’s where he learned to respect people. That’s HOW he became wise.
I only know in Romania one single man who truly masters the art of skillfully dissipating communication [en, blog], although he blogs, tweets and googles a lot of his meaning.I think this man has an immense science of people. He understands more and guesses more precisely than all psychology and ethic treaties all around the world. He has built his wisdom leaving the people to talk, work, write, suffer, all around him, without him casting any judgment upon them. I think this simple mystery lays down the ground for wisdom.
I think there are more people of his kind in the world. By dissipating communication, not typing it away into distractions, they actually transcend the communication barriers, getting to the essence of the person, which they respect as is, as de facto.
Let us pay attention to some of the great communicators of the last century. To those which terra-formed the rules and categories of communication: they were mastering the art of dissipating communication; Edward Bernays [en, wiki]; Robert Cialdini [en, wiki]; Allan Pease [en, wiki]; Leo Burnett [en, wiki]; Clare W. Graves [en, wiki]; David Ogilvy [en, wiki].