Time Dissipating Made into an Art

Launched in international world premiere in 2009 at Sarajevo and awarded at Transilvania International Film Festival 2010, today a masterpiece comes on the Romanian screens. Wednesday, I’ve been to the press release organized by Tabu. Congratulations to Cristina Bazavan for her great PR work – Tabu Oscar Party [ro, html] and this particular meeting between the bloggers and the crew. She didn’t know, but I celebrated my birthday on Wednesday. Excellent gift. A perfect way to end such a day.

I will briefly reference the film itself and then write about what I liked the most from a personal development & psychological perspective. This article is also the fourth in a series of articles entitled “The Art of Respecting Others” [en, blog] on Analytic Vision, which is intended to make you take a deep look at personality, time, and communication.

As Mihnea wrote [ro, html], the movie doesn’t reach its potential climax. The end is predictable and happy, defusing some of the tension built by the screenwriters. As a matter of fact, Razvan Radulescu and Melissa de Raaf said they considered the ending to be dramatic enough. I wonder if Michael Haneke [en, wiki] would have directed this script…  Besides that, it’s simply brilliant. It is the best Romanian tragicomedy since Lucian Pintilie’s Terminus Paradis [en, html].

Also, it brings upfront that kind of specific Romanian genius… of transforming something which, in essence, does not hold value into a piece of art. I quoted Marcel Iureş in the “Website Story” Chronicle [en, blog]. The lengths of Romanian films cannot be excused by the pretext: “We’re trying to make it more realistic” or financed by the contested CNC. Cinema is an art, the cinematography is a language, the footage is expensive, and nobody really gets a dime back from a Romanian film. That’s why it’s so rare that movies like Corneliu Porumboiu’s A fost sau n-a fost [en, html] or even better Poliţist, adjectiv find their way into transforming a disadvantage into a stylistic landmark of cinematographic expression for a masterpiece. It is also the fortunate case for “Felicia, first of all” [en, html].

“Felicia, first of all” is a film in fine detail. Small details that matter, patiently painting the framework of the characters. The story is centered on well-defined characters; it’s a brilliant example of almost unknown actors bringing force to a well-written screenplay with solid characters. It is even better, for though it is a movie with many words, every line holds cinematic relevance. There is nothing to cut out. Everything is in its place. It fits the essence of the most profound Romanian expression of time perception better than any of the hundreds of Romanian movies I have ever seen. I would even recommend it for studying Romanians’ perception of time [ro, blog].

You can actually find a lot of movies in this one. There are so many essential and complex truths underlined that the authors should be commended for delivering such a brilliant story, so simple, so relevant, without consulting a psychologist.

“Felicia, first of all” is a film about the Romanian lack of emotional intelligence. About dramatic triangles. About how people waste other people’s patience, nerves, minutes, hours, years, and ultimately… lives. The final confrontation between Felicia and her mother holds the key to explaining the deep hurt many of today’s 20 – 30 years old people face. As Răzvan Rădulescu said, this is the kind of discussion repeating itself, again and again, without ever solving anything. All the comedy has in the background the drama of a woman confronted with the abyss of communication between her and her mother. The truth Felicia is avoiding facing is that her mother will never understand her. Her parents are not mentally sane; they are merely people who have manifested their will to procreate. Extended to a nation, the communication barriers get monstrous proportions (more of a reason for which, if you’re a Romanian, this film is a “must”). Of course, the discrepancies are neat, diminished, and sometimes funny in the movie. But the real question you ask yourself is: “how much was my mother like this character?” which invites a moment of silence.

Of course, you could say the script depicts purely, bluntly, Romanian stupidity. It’s not like you haven’t seen it before. You know it’s there. Still, it does it brilliantly with art, intelligence, and humor. I haven’t laughed at a Romanian movie as I did at “Felicia, first of all”. Things look more distant on the screen: you wouldn’t fully recognize yourself there. A small number of films have the power to catch so much in so little.

It is a movie about how Romanians waste time. Even below that mundane, insipid, small-level thinking, Mircea Eliade was criticizing in his essay “Many Forms of Dissipating Time”/”Mai multe feluri de a pierde timpul” from the ’30s lectures. This is the perfect story of how to waste 8 hours a day, as opposed to gaining them [en, blog]. Like many other things, like government, it is an ideal recommendation: “if you want to have success, just look at the Romanians and do exactly the opposite”.

******SPOILER ALERT******

Instead of packing beforehand, Felicia leaves this task for completion on the morning of her leaving, keeping an open window for error and wasting time talking with her mother about towels and teacups. Then, she talks on the phone to her sister without expressing firmness in negotiation. Felicia seems to have forgotten that everything can be changed, and you can’t really count on anyone in Romania even for a lift to the airport; you have to have a second plan.

The cat with the broken leg (I won’t say where the cat broke her leg, it’s too brilliant) really takes up the cherry off the top of the cake for the apartment-developing climax.

Now let’s see how much more time we can “dissipate” around here…

Second, Felicia being “helped” by her mother to get to the airport is another disastrous idea for the character. Of course, she couldn’t have figured her parents would have contributed so much to her being late… but not only that, as we figure out in the end, Felicia was simply waiting to get away from her parents, psychologically tensed. So instead of doing something worthwhile during the taxi ride, like reading a good book, she wastes it by talking nonsense with her mother.

Then, it could have been foreseen that the traffic would be jammed. So instead of letting her parents phone for a cab, she ought to have called the taxi herself, then stopped arguing with her mother in a particular Romanian style about who pays for the cab.

Judging the time based on an unset clock, coming to check-in only half an hour before, and not showing any hurry is simply stupid. It’s been a real tour de force for Ozana Oancea to credibly assess and offer such an “in time” approach for her character.

The things that get the movie started are simply a series of events that, in the end, underline a more challenging issue, the lack of time and task planning. Felicia’s failure to plan truly becomes her planning to fail. How much is her fault, and how much is her parents?

Ultimately, it is about a mother smothering her child’s time out of her life. It is about coming to an age where you ask yourself how happy you are about your life, concluding the same patterns which make the life of her parents insipid and miserable also affect her. Felicia doesn’t find the strength to accept the truth and change her behavior. She does not know how to accept her parents and still love them and not be upset for who they chose to become, in opposition to a (seemingly) saner occidental culture. From this standpoint, the final confrontation between Felicia and her mother holds the therapeutic value of the words that many Romanian children would like to say to many Romanian mothers but never have the guts to.” Felicia, before all” expresses Felicia’s dramatic need to get herself into the first place, to be more assertive, to learn to say “no” without feeling guilty. For all the things that she dares to express in the end, “Felicia, first of all,” is THE ROMANIAN MOVIE TO SEE FOR THERAPEUTICAL PURPOSES. It is a movie that might change your life by bringing more clarity and detachment from all that made you suffer. Instead, it brings problems to their roots in the family.

Still, the character’s claim that “it’s better to get an abortion than to bring a child into the world and then torment him or her” is an affirmation made at anger against the character. Actually, Felicia herself is proof of succeeding against all odds to have a more sane perspective. She is a survivor. She is living proof some therapy CAN make a difference. Not the whole difference, but enough that she could recognize and face her issues. Therefore, the movie itself, as it portrays the characters, argues that it IS better to give children a chance to grow and develop. Sometimes, the parents are the first to traumatize the child without realizing it.

*****END OF SPOILER ALERT*****

“How much of you do I find in myself?”

Another very appealing issue is the Romanians went to a foreign country visiting relatives. As Dan Diaconescu said in the interview from “Kapitalism: our improved formula” [en, html], most Romanians who wanted to accomplish something got out of Romania. The question at the movie’s end began as a joke: “what would you do differently if you were to start your life over?” Is the one who actually haunts Felicia all around the movie. It is the question she avoids putting to herself.

Without emphasizing it, the script also underlies and masterfully explains the drama of the Romanian with the soul in two countries, never gaining emotional stability from a clear identity, never making peace with the past. Still, Felicia does not come to Romania having any illusions of changing something for the better, but she chooses Romania over other vacation destinations. She simply comes to visit her relatives, actually never getting herself psychologically separated from that part of her identity. Actually, coming back to Romania, she visits a part of her soul, but all she’s feeling is emptiness. The bitter emptiness and sorrow for the abyss of communication between her and her parents. The non-existence of a spiritual deeper connection, for the essential truth she’s been avoiding is her parents are dead inside.

The tragedy of Felicia is not getting to put her past behind her, as she lives it again and again. And, from an NLP perspective, it’s no wonder, for she obviously visualizes her timeline as straight through her. However, if Felicia had a “meta-time” perspective, she could have a clear, detached perspective in front of her eyes without getting herself involved, and proactively managing her time. If you wish to read more on timeline perspectives or check some videos from the International Psychology Fair in 2008, please access this resource list [ro, blog].

As I started analyzing it from the personal development (time management, NLP) standpoint, I have to mention “Felicia, first of all,” is the kind of movie to be watched and also analyzed from the perspective of the Transactional Analysis  “please people” driver.

Felicia’s most significant problem is her psychological need to please others. To be nice, although she is challenged every moment by the idiocy of her parents, especially her mother. In this communication inertia, the expectation of any genuinely authentic communication is an illusion. That’s why, in the end,  she’s telling her mother without any softness everything she hasn’t told her in 40 years. Still, by paying careful attention to Felicia’s manner of expressing her emotions, anyone can learn a lesson in assertiveness. Although it’s not perfect, it is well-intentioned, honest and I would say even caring. Of course, watching too much is Felicia’s fault, but in the end, she does have enough resources to face the truth, express it, and formulate the essential questions she is running away from throughout the movie.

I recommend to all of you who start to put questions yourselves seeing this film to read Eric Berne’s “Games people play” [en, html], translated into Romanian as “Jocuri pentru adulti”. I also strongly recommend that the producers and the PR consultants get in touch with the Transactional Analysis Romanian Association [site] to organize a similar view for the therapists; it would have a huge impact.

You can read some of the Romanian bloggers’ chronicles here: Dan Tanasescu, Magda Mihaila, Adi Ciubotariu, Inozza,

Marcus Victor Grant

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The translated version of this article has been considered the 2nd best in quality of all the articles I wrote and published in 2019.

Photos reproduced from the official CD press kit. Copyrighted by the producers & authors

 

4 thoughts on “Time Dissipating Made into an Art

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